i know it sounds silly to a lot of people but she was my rock. since her death i have started having panic attacks and phobias can this be something to do with not grieving propaly i try to hold it in ..
2006-08-21 12:04:26 · 24 answers · asked by loz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry for your lost, but know she will always be looking down upon you until you meet again. You may benefit from a good grief support group to talk out your feelings. As panic attacks can be debilitating -- see a doctor if they become out of control.
2006-08-21 12:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Panic attacks and phobia reactions are very common when we lose someone close especially if the person was always a source of strength to us. You don't say how long ago it was but it does help to grieve - try to let it out - think about her, talk about her, look at pictures of her and if it makes you sad or cry that's a good thing not a bad one. Try and find a bereavement counsellor if you can - I didn't when my mum died ten years ago and I still can't deal with her death properly.
2006-08-21 19:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by rog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a sudden change in your behaviour, then YES it could be from loosing your Wonderful Grandmother. Try really hard, not to let her death make you emotionally sick. Everytime you think of your Grandmother remember she would not want to come back to Earth. It was Grandmothers time to leave and only at the chosen time that God planned to take her home. Think of it this way. Your Grandmother lived a long , hopefully happy life. When we get older the hour of our deaths are more looked forward to. I know for a fact, that the last seconds of your Grandmothers life, she was greeted with open arms by our Lord and Saviour. She would not want to look back to us. So she is in a better place. She has walked out of her deep dark Valley's and her Soul is HAPPY ! It's your job now to take care of yourself , knowing Grandmother is OK. She does not want you to grieve forever, and wants you to do good and go on, until that Special time, when she can greet you home. But that can't happen until God is ready for you and your number has been selected. Take care and may God bless you, Always !
2006-08-21 19:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have something to do about that, maybe you should go to the docter about the panic attacks and phobias, but you could talk to your family about the other part, you don't have to hold it in, maybe if you don't hold it in then even sooner you can start going back to your normal life, with missing her, just being able to get that off of your mind for a little while.
2006-08-21 19:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Sydd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is entirely natural ..... but you need to begin to truly accept what has happened here. True acceptance of any situation is the only way to be happy about it. Death of a loved one is inevitable at some point, that is natures law. Remember your gran for the love and closeness that you obviously shared, celebrate her life and your part in it. Her part in your life will always be with you ..... take comfort from that and take that forward to create comfort in someone elses life. Your gran was a good teacher and you can be as well. Remember, what has happened to you is absolutely normal ... recognise that and take comfort. You will rise above this soon and be happy again. Just give it time!
2006-08-21 19:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same after my dad died. still going through it. He was my rock. My dad always had the answer. I suffered anxiety and panic attacks. Only just got through it, it's definately holding it in. I did, I was trying to be strong for my mum. Just admitting it to yourself is a long way to getting over it. And I think about him more, which I stopped doing. I think grief is a very personal thing, you will find your own way to deal with it. But time does heal. You will never forget your gran, and it will always hurt to think about losing her. But I know my dad wouldn't want me to be unhappy or ill because of him, and I'm sure your gran would have felt the same.
Thinking of you
2006-08-21 19:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by sarkyastic31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves differently.
Call the mortuary that handled your Gram's service/cremation. See if they have a grief councilor or a group that you can participate in. They are of a great help to all kind of people. Don't be afraid to cry, either. That helps a whole lot.
2006-08-21 19:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I desperately feel your pain. I lost my mother in March and she was my everything. as independent as i thought i was i wasn't anything without her and from time to time i still have anxiety and panic attacks and phobias about me dying soon or how i will die or just about her not being here anymore and not completely understanding. so no you don't sound silly its just something that only time and God can heal. if your a religious person stay in your word and pray for strength and direction. aslo if you have friends and family that are supportive lean on them. they say the first year is the hardest. God Bless you and go to her grave and talk to her as if she is still here, it helps.
2006-08-21 19:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by LILMAMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you lost your gran. It is NOT easy to do, but taking it day by day you will learn to accept that she isn't with you as she was before. You will all ways have her with you, in your heart. Remember how much she loved you and you loved her. Remember the good times you had together and one day you will find you can even smile at the memory of those good times. Good luck! I hope it gets a little easier for you soon.
2006-08-21 20:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear about your loss babe. Having the panic attacks may have something to do with it. I lost my granpa some time ago and It helps me to go on my own to his grave and just sit and talk, try doing that and tell her you miss her and how you feel - she'll be listening to you. When you have a panic attack - breathe deeply and think of your memories with her
2006-08-21 19:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by minxgiggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋