I have been dating my bf for 3 years now, and all we do is fight, and we've tried everything 2 work things out. We even broke up, but it always feels like I cant live without him, and my heart breaks even more when im away from him. He feels the same 2, he doesnt want 2 lose me and it kills him inside also, but no matter how hard we try things go back to us fighting all the time. Please tell me how to let this guy go. So I can do whats right for the both of us.
2006-08-21 11:54:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's tricky... but both of you need to figure out how to make yourselves happy. Another person cannot make you eternally happy. You need to figure out how to stand on your own 2 feet and not be afraid to be alone. Detach from each other. This is not a healthy relationship. Think about it... would you like to raise a child in this relationship? Would that be fair for a child? Take a step back... and think of how to make yourself happy. Tell him to do the same.
2006-08-21 12:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. I just went through the same thing for almost four years.We broke up so many times. Finally I cut the cord. It was hard to do. We were miserable together but when apart it seemed worse. I decided I couldn't put myself through it anymore. I set him free, freeing myself to find someone I was more compatible with.
My new guy and I had a lot of complications. We have been seeing one another for a year now. We'd fight I'd break up and leave. I didn't want to put myself through that all over again. Without him. I felt like a part of me was missing. So this time I stayed in battling.
My point is sometimes you have to let go. You know in your mind you have to, but your heart doesn't want to. My problem was I was afraid of ending up alone, not have anyone to love. Being with someone your not happy with, isn't better than being alone.
When I was going through this people would tell me time heals all wounds. It was the last thing I wanted to hear. But it is true. They say it takes a full year. 365 days to get over someone.
Let him go, It will hurt, allow yourself to cry, miss him and grieve. Keeping busy helps.
P.S Good luck. Send this back to me if me and the new guy split.
2006-08-21 12:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter if you get which includes the ex-guy or not, in case you at the on the spot are not satisfied on your present day courting, then get out. you're way too youthful to settle for something that you do not desire. you've your entire existence purely before you and also you're nevertheless on those get mutually years. stay it up. i in my view partied and had my exciting even as i became youthful (till i became about 30) then i got here across someone to quiet down with and all started having childrens. relish your existence and characteristic some exciting once you're nevertheless youthful sufficient to relish it. then you truthfully will be able to delight in a guy that loves you and love him back.
2016-11-30 23:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look breaking up is never an easy thing to do. It sucks totally but if all your doing is fighting what's the point of being in a relationship. There is a saying ,"I can be miserable by myself...what do I need you for?" that seems to be fitting. Just tell him that it's over then stick to your guns. Break off all contact...don't accept his calls, avoid his local hang-outs and as for yourself give yourself time and the hurt will soften then you can move on.
2006-08-21 12:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Emporer_Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In "we've tried everything" have you ever gone to couples therapy or relationship counseling? I know it helped a LOT in understanding why we fight and what the real reasons are behind them for quite a people. It can be very insightful, and if you go to a good one, it can be amazing.
2006-08-21 12:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found that sometimes being alone is better than being in the fighting situation. You have to take it day by day regarding your missing him. Stay busy and know that eventually every little thing you see or hear will stop reminding you of him...
2006-08-21 12:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard,you could both let go,
Remain friends and in touch with each other if you wish.
A destuctive relationship is not healthy for either of you
It can only lead to more heartache
.MOVE ON
2006-08-21 12:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by witchfromoz2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both insist on fighting be sure to agree to fight fair. If you are trying to prove your point rather than hurt one another there are ways you can argue without causing emotional injury to one another. Talk it over.
2006-08-21 12:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you always fighting about? Try to get to the bottom of that and if you can't resolve your differences then move on.
2006-08-21 12:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just the way it is .. throughout my life I've had wonderful friends and lovers that resembles just a passing ship .. came, settled, and sailed ..
2006-08-21 12:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Duda .. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋