I went out with my ex when I was 15, it's now 10 years later and I still love him. I feel that he still feels the same for me but is scared to make the first move. He really screwed up before but that was when he was 17. He's now 27 and we started talking again. Is there a chance that we could make it work again? I feel that he's my soulmate.
2006-08-21 11:51:35 · 23 answers · asked by jeneration Y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a bunch of cynics! This may sound sappy but love is a very rare commodity in this world. I wouldn't shut the door on this unless you think he will be bad for you.
I would hate it if people judged my character on the things I did when I was 17. I think no one would give me the time of day!
There are plenty of long-lasting love stories that started out like yours. I say give a shot- just be smart and take care of yourself.
2006-08-21 12:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jazmanana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the psychology field, there is the "Rule of three". apparently, that is slightly opposite to the "third situations a attraction" theory. the theory, which i have considered shown authentic in all own studies (as an grownup, it would not prepare to youthful little ones), except for one. the theory is in short. at the same time as a relationship is going awry, human beings have a tendency to get decrease back at the same time and attempt back. it quite is till the third shot. it quite is oftentimes at the same time as the relationship ends for sturdy. both activities after the third attempt at 'giving it a bypass', come to words with the position they're and the position they're going. it really is the acceptence degree. i'd not take it own if he does. you won't be able to do something about it. basically pay interest and leave at the same time as that is time. If there is infidelity, then there is not any authentic relationship or believe at your residence. hence, you would not be leaving something. you would possibly want to be shifting ON. i quite desire that it doens't come to that for you.
2016-11-26 21:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think its very rare that these type of things work out. People do usually change for the better in most cases. But old characteristics seem to stick with them. Attitudes, Views on life, Behaviors. All of these usually stay the same. The physical life may seem to have gotten better. But deep down they are usually the same person.
2006-08-21 12:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would comment no, but you are not the same person you were at 25 then when you were at 15 (and neither is he).
Try and consider him not as an ex-boyfriend, but as a really cool high-school friend you are getting to know again.
2006-08-21 12:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by ADF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ten years is a long time and the two of you have done a lot of changing! So don't be suprised if the relationship is completely different than what you are used to. Is that a good thing or a bad thing? If you feel that strongly about him however.. go ahead and give it a try.. tread carefully however!
2006-08-21 12:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can change a lot in ten years. But if you want to be with him or want to see if there is something there then you have to start somewheres. Like being friends and getting to know the new you and him. Be careful and Good Luck!
2006-08-21 12:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
those other peeps are screwy lol 10yrs is a long time for someone to be totally opposite of what they were in the past as a teenager....it just depends on why you broke up and stuff. give the dude a chance unless he used to beat ya up or something like that then i say move on
2006-08-21 12:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by tron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very rarely do these things work out.
You know that you want to try it again regardless of what anyone says here.
I think that you should definitely see him because I believe that when you realize how much you have both changed perhaps then you can put the past where it belongs.
2006-08-21 11:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...can you move past the reasons that you two split up to begin with?
I can't imagine getting back together with any of my exes...but then again, we had very valid reasons for breaking up in the first place.
2006-08-21 11:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by lutzzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely could work out -- I know a couple that dated in high school only to meet up and marry in their 40s. But ultimately it depends on your personalities and whether you are compatible or not.
2006-08-21 11:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋