I am 16 and have never believed in God or Jesus or any of that junk. I have been going to church all my life and I just dont believe. I need to save up money for college since my parents dont have much and want to work on sundays to help do this instead of wasting my time in a silly church. Does anyone have advice that would make it easier to tell my parents that I dont believe? They are really religious.
2006-08-21 11:38:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Go rent the movie SLC Punk...
There is a scene where the son is talking to his dad about his future and what a sellout he is. Use the same exact speech but just change the subject matter to religion.
Dont forget the big FU at the end.
Or accuse your priest of touching your naughty parts.
Notice how these ******** answering are using fear? Telling you your parents will throw you out? Dont believe them, This is probably why you found the truth to begin with. Its all about control and stupid people trying to impose their will on others. Its a power trip. I'm not saying your parents are stupid necessarily, but some of the people here sure are.
Your education is important, and I believe you are sincere in your question and wont try to manipulate or second guess you like Mrs Mom down below me.
Be confident and sure of yourself, dont let yourself be manipulated like they Cultists are trying to do here.
2006-08-21 11:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell your parents flat out. First of all, you're only 16, and who knows what you'll believe over the next 10 years, have an open mind. Often children from devout religious families hold resentment toward the idea of God and church because it's shoved down their throat. It could be that you wouldn't even feel that way if it had been handled differently. So wait until you're out on your own, and can discover what you truly do and don't believe without your parents bearing down on you.
In the meantime, approach your parents with questions. Express that you don't feel the same way they do and ask them how they got their strong beliefs. Unfortunately, telling them you don't believe in God might freak them out and cause them to put more restrictions on you....and working on Sunday would be out of the question, anyway. Endure for two more years and try to keep the peace until you can be on your own. If you do this, your parents will probably have more respect for whatever decisions you make as an adult. Good luck!
2006-08-21 18:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by gurugirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 41 years old, and I had the same thoughts you have about God and religion. I am a christian now, but NOT a religious person. I don´t know if you know the difference.
I always thought that God was boring and that everything in church was bull shhhhit. Well, it took me 38 years to realize that I was going to the wrong place and that I was surrounded by the wrong people.
I found Jesus, and He helped me overcome alcohol and drug problems. I strongly believe that.
First of all, to believe in God does not necessarily means that you should be religious. Religious activities are mechanic and boring, I agree with you.
Talk to your parents, and be honest, don´t worry. If you have listened to the WORD it won´t come back empty. The seed has been planted, hope it does not take you as long as it took me.
If your parents believe in God, they MUST understand you and they will give you the space you need to make your own decisions. God bless
2006-08-21 18:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by Marco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna break their heart. I have the opposite problem I had to tell my unbelieveing parents that I do believe in God.
However being honest is good, but is getting a job on Sunday really the issue? or are you trying to find a way out of going to a place where you feel you don't fit in.
This is common by the way. A lot of kids raised by Christian parents don't share the same faith. It's a hard truth.
I am a parent of 3 kids, two of them are believers and one isn't.
Maybe the best thing to do is figure out what you believe in. And why you don't believe in God. Can you prove that He doesn't exsist? OR are you just bored out of your skull at your parent's church? Is there a youth pastor there that you trust? Sometimes they can be helpfull but not always.
Best thing to do is be honest and figure out why you don't believe in God and Jesus. This isn't junk man, it's the real deal.
2006-08-21 19:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by redeemed 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you plan on leaving your parents' home and moving out, you'd better continue going to church. You live in their home therefor you obey their rules. You might try to tell them why you want to work on Sundays -- ie: I need to save money for college and this job has hours at *insert times here* Also, right now, you're 16 and contrary to your own beliefs, you don't know everything. Please don't insult your parent's faith. You'll only annoy them more and that won't do you any good. All you do is make them more adamant against your job. Try the soft sell first.
2006-08-21 18:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are anything like my parents you can tell them as many times as you want, they will either talk to you about it until they get an answer they can live with or they will ignore you and continue to hope that one day you will grow out of this phase. Just tell them, if they love you they will understand your difference. Just remind them that they don't have to like it but it's still what you believe.
regardless of your age or your living situation you should never go against what you believe for somebody elses sake...your sanity and being true to yourself should always come before somebody elses comfort.
2006-08-21 18:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Passionfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you can tell your parents. But if I were you I would be more concerned about my soul than how my parents would take it. I really feel sorry for you. How can you look at a new day and not believe? How can you look at a new born baby and not believe? How can you take your next breath and not believe? Where do you think you came from. I promise you it was not a monkey. I will be praying for God to show you what you don't believe.
2006-08-21 19:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
so you worried about telling your parents you don't beleive in God? i would be morer worried about telling GOD himself so why don't you just start by telling GOD but befor you do that i would try and grow up a little morer and let life's trial's/tribulation work on you a bit befor you know it you will come to realize that GOD is all you got .i'am glad your parent's take you to church while you are there why don't you forcus on being a better person/christian and listen to the word you will find you really are missing out on a lot.
2006-08-21 19:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by mishoney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SURE YOU WILL HURT YOUR PARENTS WHEN YOU TELL THEM THAT YOU ARE A FOOL EVEN AFTER ALL THE YEARS GOING TO CHURCH MAYBE HAD YOU OPENED YOUR EARS AND APPLIED YOURSELF YOU MIGHT HAVE CARED ANYWAY AT 16 YOU ARE STILL LIVING AT HOME-AND YOU ARE STILL A MINOR SO NOT MUCH LUCK DOING AS YOU PLEASE AS YOU KNOW IN THE BIBLE YOU MUST RESPECT YOUR PARENTS AND THEIR WISHES IF GOD BLESSES YOU AND YOU LIVE A LONG LIFE MAYBE YOU WILL RETURN TO HIM BUT I WOULD NOT TAKE THAT CHANCE YOU DO NOT WANT TO DIE IN SIN YOUR BEST BET IS GO TO CHURCH BE A GOOD GUY AND WHO KNOWS GOD MAY BLESS YOU WITH A TUITION OR SCHOLARSHIP GOD PROVIDES US WITH ALL WE NEED ACCORDING TO HIS PLAN THINK ABOUT IT
2006-08-21 19:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by jk poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 12 when I told my parents. I got A good *** whipping too, after that it was never mentioned again,didn't go to church again, and I didn't have to play lip-service to something I didn't believe
eventually you need to tell them privately
2006-08-21 18:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Cartman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋