are u aloud to flirt. i meen, i would never flirt with a dude that already has a gf or whatever, i just wanna know if flirting is a sin, becuase if it is, id try my best through god to help me brake the nasty habbit. but if lust is a sin and u werent allowed to flirt, how would u be able to know the dude better????
2006-08-21 11:34:49 · 40 answers · asked by sesso*E 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i am a seventh day adventist, and please dont correct my spelling or push me down with all that merda. i already know how to splell, so dont even bother
2006-08-21 12:02:51 · update #1
No flirting is not a sin.
2006-08-21 11:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
OMG no of course flirting is not a sin well maybe i shouldn't say that depends on who you ask i mean in some sects of Christianity you would be told yes and your going straight to hell if you even consider it but then again those ppl have it all wrong anyway so just don't worry about it have a good time and remember Jesus was only human and probably did plenty of flirting so why shouldn't you and also remember that the bible is NOT infallible it was written over hundreds of years and edited over thousands to say what it does today and many many many books were left out of the Bible while others were kept in simply because the ppl doing the collecting liked some over others and you sound like a good little christian girl so your probably not going to believe me but this is true and proveable (is that a word)....so live your life the best you can be a good person and don't get down on yourself trying to make sure your living your life exactly as the bible says because that is actually not possible (see it contradicts itself several times) and remember that if the bible is correct then god is a forgiving understanding person that wants his followers to be happy.
2006-08-21 11:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by J. H. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lust is not just sexual desire. It is the desire of the senses to
be excitied. The eyes don't get enough of seeing, the ears
hearing." Indulgence.
Flirting depends on the individual. Some find it a harmless
distraction. Makes them and others feel good about themselves.
But if someone is lonely, it can cause some upset.
I have been trying to be more easygoing with females lately.
Flirting a little. And this is what I see. The two possibilities.
Basically, be considerate of others. Try to feel them out a little.
2006-08-21 11:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Tegghiaio Aldobrandi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, lust is a sin. You don't have to flirt with someone to get to know him; why not just be his friend, and have some good conversation, rather than worrying about romanticism, right off the bat? This is a good way to find out what someone is like, without having to get in a compromising or sinful situation.
2006-08-21 11:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Real intimacy is not found through sex. Real intimacy is not found through flirting. You really get to know someone when things go bad. How they handle stress, loss, failure. Fun times are easy. Everyone gets along.
Sex is nothing more than recreation. People have sex every day with people they hate.
Real intimacy is when you can finish someone else's sentence. Real intimacy is when you know why they're crabby before they even realize they're crabby.
Flirting doesn't help you get to know someone. Flirting just sends a signal that you're easy. Not girlfriend material.
Lasting relationships come when people can talk. Communicate well. So start talking. When you can have a heated debate and not insist the other person agree with you, but just enjoy the debate - then you've got intimacy.
2006-08-21 11:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is said that just the act of thinking or imagining an action constitues an actfull sin. This depends on which person you ask and in which religion though. Islam it is stictly prohibited to flirt with a married or betrothed woman or man. Jews and Chirstians believe that any action action after marriage is prohibited. Also, again, just the act of thinking it would be a sin. However, it is human nature to see someone and instantly see if a person is attractive or not to us. Usually, as humans, we make these decisions subconciously. For example, when a man follows a woman with his eyes until she is no longer in view or when a woman admires a man too much for an action. Its one of those things that we do but don't realize. Human nature i guess you could say. As for your question on to knowing them better, a lot of flirting today is based on a sexual nature and is seen as a sexual nature by most of the world. To combat this, honestly, don't flirt. Get to know them by their actions and not only what they say. A lot of people say one thing to make themselves sound better than they really are. It is a tricky issue.
2006-08-21 11:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by vail2073 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lust is not a sin, it's a normal expression of human nature, and therefore by definition a manifestation of God.
Sin, like all moral judegements, is a construct of the human mind not a universal truth. What was considered a sin in Jesus' day is perfectly acceptable today. What is considered a sin in Iran is perfectly normal in Britain.
There is no sin, there is only experience. Some experience contributes to your spiritual growth and some does not. When you act in a way that does not contribute to your spiritual growth you will pay the natural consequences imposed by the laws of karma - as you sow so shall ye reap.
But the concept of sin is a lie perpetrated by the Church to frighten and control the congregation.
When in doubt, just remember, the path to God is Love not fear.
2006-08-21 11:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Elmer R 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
To flirt with the opposite sex is apart of the courting process. (yes...I did use the word "courting" and no...I am not a 85 yr old man.) It really comes down to the method you use to flirt. If you dress or speak in a way that makes the one you want lust after you or think he's gonna "get some", than you may want to rethink your approach. Take it from me, guys may date loose girls but they marry the opposite. You seem young, so be mindful where you cast your net, you may pull out something you don't want.
2006-08-21 11:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting to know a guy better is not exactly flirting. To me flirting is leading someone on which may be a sin of lying or even lust if you have that intention.
2006-08-21 11:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by ramiesmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No flirting is not a sin with an unattached man. You are right, that is how we become attracted to each other. Just as wild crazy bed breaking sex is not a sin with your husband or wife. God gave us many blessings and one is the good feelings we can have with our husband or wife.
Just don't do it with the wrong person, that is a sin.
2006-08-21 11:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by DMR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on who you are flirting with as well as how you are flirting with them. If you are single, flirting with someone whom you believe to be single, and are interested in getting to know them before you find a sexual interest in them then no, it is not a sin, it's considered courting. If you are not single, are flirting with someone who is taken (either by promise of relationship or are married), and find yourself looking at them in only a sexual way, then yes, it is a sin. Do not worry too much tho, because most religions allow for you to ask forgiveness of your sins and you are absolved before you die. I'm not condoning sinning, just "to err is human, to forgive is divine." We are apt to make mistakes and God knows that.
2006-08-21 11:48:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋