This girl is so much to me. I would really aprreciate an honest answer, true answer, thanks.?

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Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.




I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??


I mean, she has barely talked to me. It seems like she is trying to avoid me. But i have no clue why. Should I ask her. I mean, she could be mad because, I havent talked to her. But i dont wanna pressure her. Because today, her mom told me, that if I really like someone else, I should move on. But that if I really like her daughter, I should be patient. What should i do??

Answer 1

I'm sorry but I don't have the time to read all that. But, if you really really like this girl, just do whatever feels right to you.

Answer 2

It may be that her friends don't like you and they are a big influence in this girls life. I mean where would a girl be without friends at this age? Peer pressure can do a lot. I mean it sounds as if you have talked to everyone except the girl. If you will do anything why not try talking to her. Ask her if she is being pressured by her friends. Also, ask her how she truly feels about you. You are much too young for a serious relationship though. Mabye she realilzes this. It is best to be friends and just hang out at this age. Friends last a lot longer at this age then dating does. I mean kids at your age (no offense) go out with a guy for weeks and seldom months. Sometimes it is even days!! If you really care about her then think about this. Wouldn't it better to be in her life for a long time as a close friend and maybe have the hopes for a serious relationship when you are old enough to handle it? That would be a very intense relationship!!! Sometimes falling in love with your best friends is the best kind of love. I know I have given a lot of advice here more so than you asked for but I just thought you needed it. So, other than my additional advice the best advice to you is to talk to her face to face. Be open and true about your feelings but dont' go over board and get all emotional and tell her that you will die without her or something weird like that. That would be too much to handle for anybody and would be a big turn off.

Answer 3

Well i think i've kind of put a guy through this situation. I used to like him and be relly flirty with him, cause naturally, that's what you do when you like a guy and you're around him.. so I was very flirtations and it sounds like how you and the girl were...
but then something just hit me, i don't know what.. but suddenly, i just lost like all feelings for him. It was Christmas break and when i saw hm after the 2 week break, it was so weird because i actually had no feelings towards him and i FELT BAD i was like what's wrong with me.. he still likes me and stuff. And i felt really bad cause i didn't feel like being flirtatious with him anymore, but i felt like i was acting too different to him if i didn't flirt and stuff. But i also didn't want to lead him on anymore..
The fact that she's been sort of avoiding you means she probably has lost interest in you... girl's like a challenge you know? When a girl knows she's got a guy wrapped around her finger, and that the guy is all ga-ga over her, she can sort of lose interest.
I speak from experience and i feel like i AM the girl you're talking about so i'll tell you this: give her space and distance.. i'm not gonna lie to you, she might not come back to you.. but DONT act like you are still in love with her towards her.. act like you're over her.. that's the ONLY way possible that she might get feelings for you again because she'll realize that she doesn't have you anymore and that she's lost you and she might dwell on that and miss knowing that you like her...
Don't worry you're still so young and there's PLENTY more fish in the sea.. and shes 13 shes still a baby, like really so yeah thats all
Good luck:)

Answer 4

I can tell how divided you are on the issue, thinking that part of the flame may remian. This is the age, however, when things, people, and situations come and go. I know it's not an answer you want to hear, but it is definitely time to move on. Carry the pleasant memories wherever you go, and leave it at that. If you try to persue things, it will stain the good happy memories of her you have, and can treasure your whole life. Time to let go. Find someone else to be interested in. There will be some grieving, but in the end you will have retained your happy memories, and that is priceless.

Answer 5

Well, honestly, I think she is too young to take any relationship seriously. It is OK if you feel something to her, that is what we call first love, that one that we will never forget.
Maybe she is scare because she never thought that you could fall in love with her. I am very sure that she enjoyed your friendship and wanted to be with you more than with other guys, but never expecting a romantic relationship.

At this moment she may be thinking in what to do, maybe she is not clear in what she feels: love or friendship. At this very moment she does not want to hurt you, because if she says that she wants you as her best friend, you may back off and loose you any way.

I think that you should go visit her as the friend you used to be, talk to her in a natural way, don't push her feelings, don't even mention you love her. Doing this, you can be able to explore how she feels. depending on this, it will be your next step.

Any way, if your friendship was as you describe here, you should preserve that friendship, even if she does not see you in the way you want. It is better to have her as your friend than not having her at all.

Answer 6

You should ask her if she wants to go out with you or the other two guys. tell her that you don't want to pressure her, but you would really like to know. If she doesn't like you, then she may like you again in a few months, thats the way it works if she's 13. It also depends on what her friends think of you. You should get in good graces with her fcriends but don' give her an excuse to think that you're flirting with them. Just take it easy.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

To me, it sounds like she is trying to avoid you. She is probably a nice girl ho cares about her reputation and doesnt want to be percieved as slutty. When people started talking about you two she probably thought that the only way to change their minds was to breakup with you.
I dont know why she didnt spare your feelings and break it off right then, but it sounds as if she's moved on to me.
If you really want to get back together with her then call her up and ask her whats going on with her. If she keeps playing games with your heart though, then i would try to move on. As they say, "there are plenty of other fish in the sea."

Answer 8

she is only 13, she is not looking for a "boyfriend" she is too Young to be thinking of that right now. She may like you, yeah that's nothing to be worried about, if she does be there as her friend, don't push your feelings on her it is only going to scare her off. so just let her go, if she comes back then its the right thing, she will come to you if that is what she wants... if not then its time to just be the man you will someday HAVE to be and move on.... Learn it now, because it is a hard lesson to learn, better to get used to it at a young age then struggle with it when you get old!

Answer 9

She is only 13 years old and you are 15. Sounds like she is playing the field and is checking out what's out there, without wanting to get serious. She doesn't want to commit to be more than a friend to any boy at this time, because she is scared. Give her the freedom she wants and listen to her mom; she likes you and the other boys. Go out and enjoy your teenage years.

Answer 10

OK, FIRST OFF YOUR 15, BUT LIKE I ALWAYS SAY AGE AINT NOTHING BUT A NUMBER. NOW IF YOU REALLY LIKE HER TRY TO TALK TO HER, IF THAT DON`T WORK BACK OFF. I MEAN LEAVE HER ALONE, TRUST ME I`M 18 AND I`VE BEEN I SEVERAL REALINSHIPS AND I KNOW IF A GUY KEPT BOTHERING ME I WOULD STOP LIKEING HIM. SO LEAVE HER ALONE FOR AWILE IF SHE DOES REALLY LIKE YOU SHE`LL COME AROUND. SOMETIMES A GIRL LIKES TO PLAY HARD TO GET, BUT OTHER TIMES IT`S NOT THAT, IT MIGHT BE HER FRIEND`S DON`T LIKE YOU. SO TRY TO TALK TO HER WHEN SHE`S ALONE. IF SHE WOUN`T TALK TO YOU SEND HER A LETTER ASKING WHAT`S WRONG?. IF SHE WRIGHTS BACK THEN IT IS HER FRIENDS. SO TALK TO HER ON THE PHONE. (BUT IF SHE DON`T WRIGHT BACK THEN SHE DON`T LIKE YOU ANY MORE) . I HOPE YOU TAKE MY ADVICE.