My daughter is getting married and first she wanted a big wedding, but now she just wants a private ceremony at the church with just the family and a reception that evening for family and friends. I am just wanting some input from anyone that has ever done this or anyone who knows of someone who has and how it worked out. Thanks
2006-08-21 11:26:28 · 9 answers · asked by msgoodie2shews59 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have had a few friends that have, but generally people feel left out and hurt. While they respect that the bride wants intimacy on her special day, they also want to be part of it. This is especially true if people are invited to showers and not the wedding. It also brings out problems because people don't want to give a wedding gift for the reception, but instead for the marriage, which they were excluded from.
Where I have seen this work well is second marriages and when the couple has been together for a long time, has lived together, and has children (the ones that you thought were married or should have been years ago)
If your daughter does decide to do this, I recommend her not
having a big reception. It leaves a lot of people hurt.
Good Luck!
2006-08-21 12:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by emp04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It'll work out fine, people do it all the time.
If I were her mom though, I would be wondering why she changed so drastically? Has it all become too over whelming for her? I'm not saying that you are interfering too much, but are you making sure that she is getting what she wants and not what you want?
My daughter got married in June, I paid for most of it myself. Keeping my mouth shut sometimes required a staplegun. But I did it because it was her wedding, not mine. I just put in my input when I was asked to. It was the best wedding I've ever been to and we never came to blows.
2006-08-21 17:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I married over 7 years ago, we had 2 guests, spent the night in a 2 man tent on top of a mountain in South Wales, UK, my husband built a campfire and cooked us sausages etc, which we eat as we sat under a sky illuminated by a full moon. It was the most perfect day of our lives and if we were doing it all again there is not one thing about it that we would change. It was such a personal day for us. Good luck.
2006-08-21 19:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she does the etiquette for that correctly, there should be no problem.
The main invitation should be an invitation to the reception, and then you insert a ceremony card in the envelope ONLY for the people who are invited to the ceremony.
2006-08-21 18:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its her wedding soshe should have the ceremony she wants. i've been to several receptions following a private ceremony. some people might be offended but then they dont have to come to the reception
2006-08-21 14:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think her priorities are just fine. Shows they are more concerned about the marriage than all the trappings of a wedding.
2006-08-21 14:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Karen? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my husband and I only had my sister and his best friend at our ceremony . . then a few days later, we had dinner and dancing for about 80 people at our fire department . . it was nice and inexpensive
2006-08-21 11:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by wfgrg15001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so much better private and closer with family and intimate friends
2006-08-22 03:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by Abraham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but it seems selfish and cheap.
2006-08-21 11:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋