I love my gf? We didn't meet for 2 years due to breakup? she was mentally upset and just said something wrong for her fun with an old guy. I have forgiven her, now i want to back in her life & marr her. I talk to her on phone, try to set meeting but she says she will call me to fix and its been more than month that she didn't respond. It's just me who calls her.
I also sent her greetings and flowers to communicate my feelings to her in june, 06. Now I can't understand how to go with her? She is no where down or up but just struck. Though she knows but no reciprocation of words.
Shall I go more straight and strong in communication to her?
Shaill I say these things on email or phone only?
How do I get clear & initiate communication?
2006-08-21 11:15:53 · 7 answers · asked by viva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well i m going back, becoz she came but online with different identity to talk to me. I think she avoids me bcoz she feels that if i ask her about her old boyfriend - whom she chosen 2 years back and told me to go away as she announced me that she loves him.
2006-08-21 11:45:12 · update #1
I think you already know the answer.
Just calling and emailing isn't going to do much for your relationships.
How about going to her house and spending time with her? How about talking with her like an adult and explain how lost you feel?
Your gift of love are gifts. You probably enjoy getting gifts as much as you enjoy giving them. Hers may be time, acts of service, words, etc.
You need to be clear about what is confusing you about the relationship. Sending her things to try to communicate with her isn't the same as actually TALKING with her face-to-face.
I would really suggest not looking into marriage at this point in time. You have a long way to go before your emotional maturity is going to be ready for the commitment and communication skills required for a marriage. All the problems you have now aren't going to go away with marriage.
If you think you're stuck in a relationship, then try to grow together as a couple.
Is this an internet relationship? It doesn't sound like it really is a boyfriend/girlfriend situation.
You need to take action. Go to her house. Take control of your life.
2006-08-21 12:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone above has given you somewhat practical suggestions, note - all are girls!!
Sometimes, there is more than what meets the eyes. If your urge is so strong about your love for her, make a final effort to speak to her without any ifs and buts. But I suggest that you yourself do that face to face talk than exploring through someone else. It is going to be your life and you should responsibly take reasonable steps to assess and take the final call.
Some comments above are very appealing and justified. Now, it is upto you to be mature and strong enough to take right decision.
2006-08-22 00:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by helpaneed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sounding a little desperate there, Buddy. I think you've gotten your point across to her, and if you try coming on even stronger...well, you'll definitely freak her out. If you've already done all that and she hasn't responded perhaps it's time for you to look for love elsewhere. If she's "kinda" responded, she's prolly playing you. My suggestion, leave her alone. Follow the cliche: "if you love something, let it go; and if it comes back to you, it was meant to be."
2006-08-21 19:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should know the exact reason why she avoid u. by her friend or other source. & now what exactly she feel about u. if she really loves u then talk with her. or move on. lots of happiness is waiting for u. so don't wast your time. you got only one life & lots of caring person needs u. just go through with them do something for them. you will get more happy.
2006-08-21 18:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. just give it a rest for a while and let her come back to you.
If she doesn't then find someone else who can make you happy.
2006-08-21 18:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm. stop being so desperate. girls don't like guys who chase them 24/7.
she knows ur after her, so she's playing hard to get. all of us girls do it.
2006-08-21 18:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by desiichic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on man, you say she had a boy friend,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
get lost find another one...........................if you try to patch up today, tomorrow she will find a better one than U so be care ful
2006-08-24 06:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋