i feel lonly and empty tonight as i sit in my one bedroom flat, thinkin about my future an how i want it to go

Question

but i have mental health issues to battle, i have a ton of insecurities in my life, like what will i do when my parents pass away and aint no longer there for me? when will i meet a partner? im scared of lonliness..it terrifies me...and at this moment in my life 29, i feel dependant. dependant on my divourced parents, i need constant re assurance. is time runnin out for me,,

Answer 1

*hug* i'm here to assure you, to help you and to comfort you whenever you need me to. you know that. *big hug*

Answer 2

Find a way or a mantra or a mental refuge that allows you to coldly, calmly that those awful medications you are given.h

Spend at least 90 minutes every day outside. Especially at sunrise and sunset. Doing ANYTHING --birdwatching! And I strongly agree with adcconline about getting a pet -- you need a puppy dog! Immediately!

Your own financial future -- you've got to successfully obtain a stable job or disability status while both your parents are still alive. Time IS running out for you if you don't plan. And don't be a cowboy and come up with an heroic plan -- you need to plan a workable stalemate for yourself, that's really a victory itself.

As long as you've got a computer, get Omar Sharif's contract bridge game on CD and learn how to play it competently. It won't end your loneliness, but you won't feel empty when you play it well.

Answer 3

Admitting you have mental health issues is the first step. The next step is to seek help. If you are in the US you can get assistance from your county/state if you have no health insurance. If you live outside of the US the same applies, you can get help from the state (country) run health program. There are many new medications you can try that should help alleviate the mood problem and counseling which will help you work through your issues. Start there, fight one battle at a time.

Answer 4

It sounds like you may be worrying about the future to an extent that is affecting your current state of mind. It seems like you have a lot going on in your present life and thoughts about the "what ifs" pertaining to the future are complicating and perhaps even immobilizing appropriate action. I feel as though you may need to talk to someone about how your feeling. Share the burden with a doctor or someone whom your doctor can refer you. You need to start chipping away at the pile of worries that has accumulated. When worries get too numerous, it's a difficult task to tackle them alone. Let a doctor or counsellor lift the burden a little so that you can re-focus on what you need to do to rid your insecurities and worries and be happy in the here and now.

Answer 5

OK I don't like to answer these Questions but here goes! If you are aware you have mental health issues then maybe you should be seeing someone for that. To get concealing and be in some kind of group concealing! You're only 29 you have so much to live for still and don't give me that crap about time running out! Everyone feels alone and some of us are. Just go talk to someone, you need other people in your life! Help is out there just have to go out and get it, it wont come to you. You can ask your parents to help you find it! Just remember there is always someone who loves you and wants to help!!!! Just ask!

Answer 6

Wow, that's a pretty deep load you're carrying around. Take a deep breath!

Don't you have any friends? If you do, spend time with them. Socialize, get out and meet other people. You can't sit around the house worrying about what "might" happen.

Yes, you're parents will pass away some day. Will you meet a partner, who knows? But don't sit in your house waiting for them to knock on the door (they probably don't even know you're in there). Get out, join a club...dancing is fun and healthy. Take a general interest class...what do you find interesting? Take a walk down to the corner coffee shop....order a latte...sit on the patio and watch all the people going on with their lives. Some one out there is looking around for you!

Good luck!

Answer 7

I've felt the insecurities that you have, then you realize there are people worse off than you and it sounds bad but it makes you feel better about yourself. You need to think about the positives in your life, "I have a job", "I have this flat, i could be out in the streets", "I have good friends". Another thing to do is get busy, you have too much time on your hands if you are worrying about all this stuff, volunteer at a homeless shelter, that should make you feel better about yourself, then you can see you have nothing to complain about. G.

Answer 8

time doesn't wait for no one ofcourse. so you should make the most of what it has given you. being alone is not anybody's life long commitment, but there are ways to deal with it. just be friendly to others and they will be friendly back to you. don't worry about finding a partner so much yet because i know how that feels and there will be a time when you will meet someone, you jsut have to be patient and make yourself avaliable and be out there more often. as far as the parent thing, we all will lose them one day or another but don't think too far ahead of yourself, you still have your own life to think about. jsut join a club, sports, meet people, religion, or in worst case scenario....the military, but i wouldn't recomend that.

Answer 9

Things will be okay, you'll see.
Think about this: you've reached a point where you have discovered your fears, right?
Now, all the work is cut out for you!
All you need is to find something to battle those fears and turn them into strenght!
Learn how to handle alone some of the things your parents usually handle for you.
It's a good start.
And how about your neighbours?
And at work?
In the grocery store?
I'm sure you have friends!
Don't feel bad.
We all have our ups and downs!

Answer 10

Your 29 and you still live with your parents. Lets see drive and get a job. The worlds not going to wait for you to grow up. So get off of your butt and get things done. Get you a banking account established. Save up enough to get out on your own and be able to afford an apartment house etc. Your going to have to get out on your own. There are many ladies out there that would like to date you. Many men think of marriage some time in there life. For you to get there you have got to get out on your own find yourself have fun and take risks. Don't count on anyone you must make yourself priority. Dont think you cant do this because you can.

Answer 11

Dude your 29; you need to look out for yourself. And when you find that special someone. She will most likely want a man with balls that is going to take care of her. If you cant deal with all these emotions than its time to see a psychiatrist. But you need to enjoy every single day of your life, its a gift. Your healthy and time goes by quickly don't waste any moment.