Should I...????

Question

Me and my bf have been going out for 1yr. Last week we broke up, we both wanted to but I feel that it's affecting me more than it is to him. I don't think Im ok with it now and I would like to tell him some last words about us, do you think I should do it. Or I shoulden't? I don't want to sound like I'm still holding on to the past, but I think if I tell him what I want to then maybe we could change our minds and try to make it work once again. I really love him and I know he loves me to, we both just need space and time to think about it and then realize if it was meant to be!

My question is should I tell him what I nevevr got to tell him, now that we are just friends or should I just forget about it!!????

Thanks everyone in advance for your answers!!!

Thank you all for your wonderful answers....what I want to tell him is not about my feelings toward him...its about something that he needed me to say and I just couldn't say it at the moment...and know altought I think it would make no difference...I think im ready to tell him......as a friend now I guess!!!!

Answer 1

My advise is to speak your mind... if you two experienced lack of space... i suggest you two try it once again and try to give each other some time not necessary being completly off...
you can be together, just not on the phone or in person as often...
you can do it girl,! go for it!
you love him, and he should know how much you care about your relationship... ask him if his willing to try it again? good luck!

Answer 2

It seems like it's a bit too early. If you break-up with someone you've dated for a long while you're bound to have some confusing feelings, especially if you still get along okay. If you think about it some more, clear your head a bit, you might find that you're more okay with the break-up than you are right now. If you do all that and after a while you still really want him back, then maybe talk to him a bit and test the waters, see how things feel.

Answer 3

I feel you so much,,, its hard girl, real hard... but the truth is if you are young like me (22 and under) then you need to realize that you have so much more out there to experience! So many other great people to meet and date. Since you are past the hard part of actually breaking up (something I have not had the balls to do yet) dont look back.... if it was meant to be then you will eventually get back together

Answer 4

well first of all im sorry that u guys broke up.....but GIRL! DONT TELL HIM NUTHIN!! lol.........i get ur point when u say that if u tell him then things might work out again, but i dont think u should tell him...if he really loves u and wants 2 get bak wit u, then eventually he'll b dying in the inside and eventually tell u....but at the same time its kinda good that u talk wit him...>>BUT<< when the right moment comes....like if u 2 r alone, and u see that hes kinda desperate 2 tell u sumthing (cuz u prolly knoo him very well by now) then maybe u can SLOWLY talk about ur feelings...but jus dont blurt it all out...just gradually tell him...but make sure hes sayin stuff too..........and lets say if things dont work out, then jus remember that hes not the only guy out there in the world...theres alot of good guys out there.....and eventually ull meet ur match...it jus takes time....well i hope this helped...take care!!! and good luck girl!

Answer 5

no, don't tell him.

If you have some last feelings to get out, write them all in a letter and then burn it in the fireplace or rip it to shreds. You will feel better getting it off your chest, but believe me, he doens't care about your last words, and you won't get the reaction you want from telling him. It'll just make you feel worse. And it might ruin your ability to stay friends with him, which in the long wrong, is by far more important than getting the last word.

Answer 6

only tell him if you really think it will bring the two of you back together (and if that's what you really, really want). if it's just about getting something off your chest or putting him in his place, don't do it. it won't help, and it will just make it look like you're even less 'over it'. something that you should know: guys typically don't get upset about breakups immediately after they happen, then one day (sometimes months later), it hits them, and they get just as upset as you are today. if you're biggest concern is that you seem to be more affected by the split than he is, keep that in mind.

Answer 7

I think that you should tell him everything, you dont want to go through life wondering what would have happened if you would have just told him... Right?

And what if he is feeling the same way, and neither one of you talked after the break up? then you would go your whole life without being totaly happy.

Talk to him girl, give it your all!!!!

Answer 8

u might as well tell him why live with regrets plus to move on u should have everything out in the open and you'll never truly know how hes feeling if u don't. what do u have to lose ur already worrying about it

Answer 9

Just tell him everything you wanted to say, its not like he is dead and you can never talk to him again just tell him and see what he says, even if its not what you want to hear at least you will know.. Good Luck

Answer 10

Is it that u never got to tell him u love him? Well, it's to late to do it now..maybe u should try to get back together only if you really really love him.