should my husband and I have a fourth child?

Question

We could afford another child and our children would love a new sibling. I am a little concerened because I would still be the primary caregiver because my husband works long hours. I do have a routine with three and I assume one more wouldn't be that big of a deal. I would love to hear from other mom's of four and hear their stories. thanks

Answer 1

I'm not a mother, but if you can afford it and if you want one, than why not?

Answer 2

I have 4 children, 9, 7, 5 and 18 months, I must say that our youngest has kind of thrown a small spanner in the works when it comes to family outings etc as we were getting to the stage where they were all old enough to go to the cinema, out to dinner to fun fairs all together but now either one of us has to stay at home with the baby or leave her with a babysitter, which is a bit of a shame. Also when we only had 3 friends and family would say, gosh how do you cope, you do so well, oh you look tired perhaps we could take the kids for a few hours, let us babysit you deserve a break - but suddenly with having four all that seems to have stopped I'm sure everyone's thinking "your tired well of course you are, bloody idiots have four kids, tough luck" in the nicest possible way of course. I didn't think a fourth would make life much harder, I personally think it has now.
However... she is the most amazing child who we all absolutely adore and the older 2 have really enjoyed having a baby around and brought out a mature side in them whilst also giving them an excuse to play with all the baby toys again. I say go ahead have another one, what the heck at least when youre old and decript surely it increases your chances of one of them looking after you! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well, I am the last of 4 children in my family and I would have to say they did save the best for last. I am 10 years younger than my oldest sibling and I get along with her the best. My parents couldnt afford 2 children let alone 4, yet we still managed. Like many youngest children, I had it the easiest as far as rules went but I am probably the one that behaved the best, seriously. Just have to keep your parenting at the same level with all your kids. On the contrary to your situation, my dad was probably around more than my mom was but neither of them were around too much because of work. If you have the ability to be able to give the proper care the chid needs, then go for it.

Answer 4

Well i have 6 children all together the youngest 2 are mine the oldest 4 are my husbands and we are having another child so i would say if you are ready to have a another kid and you can afford it go right ahead you only have so long before you get to old to have anymore (not being mean just sayin). But like i said if you want another kid go for it. And good luck and congrats.

Answer 5

Sure, if you WANT it and can afford it. Go ahead. You will adapt to it, no matter what. You will get into a routine with a new little one too. Things won't change that much. It might in the beginning when the baby is a newborn, but they don't stay that way forever.

Answer 6

My mom comes from a family of 6 and so is my dad.If financially you're stable,your health doesn't prohibit you from adding one and having another would mean a multiplication of happiness in your family circle then go for the challenge.

Raising children is never easy so my salute to you if you'd welcome an extra bundle of joy sooner.
A surefire promise that it's going to be cozy.

good luck to you all :)

Answer 7

My daughter has 4 children, her husband is away a lot, and it is very hard on her, If this is what you want, go for it, Enjoy !

Answer 8

GO FOR IT!!!
There are people in the world who cannot have children. You don't want to wonder what could have been!

Answer 9

I hear talk about routine and affording it. Can you love it??

Answer 10

only if you are ready 4 sure think over carefully a B SURE u can afford it think over pros and cons carefully b sure your doing this w\ yor hubby