My girlfriend dumped me right after I told her I can't makelove to her or have kids due to a childhood injury.

Question

Please help me. I'm so distressed since she's my first ever true love. Can I ever find a woman who will love me for who I am?

My 'privates' were severly mutilated due to an accident

Answer 1

first of all why would you want to be with someone as shallow as she seems to be.true love comes from things you love about a person not things they can do or can't do.don't give up on finding your true love,she's out there just be patient.

Answer 2

Just in case you are serious, I have some suggestions for you.
#1. Understand that most people anticipate having a sex life and/or children. When you feel a mutual attraction to someone developing into a relationship, you need to disclose the information and circumstances about your injury before the relationship goes too far. Look at it from the other person's perspective. If you'd never had your injury, would you want to fall in love and then find out the other person could not fulfill a reasonable expectation to be sexual in a relationship?

#2. It is difficult to believe you have such an injury in the first place. Forgive me for being cynical, but people on answers make up a lot of stuff simply for shock value and for reactions. However, if you were injured, barring absolute and complete severing of the penis and scrotum (and what kind of injury actually does that?) I don't see why in this modern day and age you can't have something done to leave you with the ability to function sexually.
I've seen people on talk shows who claim to have had sex changes from female to male and also claim to have functioning genitals. Look into that.

#3 It is unreasonable for you to expect any healthy young woman (middle aged or old for that matter) to dedicate her life to a man without prospect of sexual satisfaction and children if she is childbearing age and wants them. Women who would do this are called nuns. Sorry, but they are already married to the Lord.

#4. I don't believe you, but if this is true you have my sympathy. Look into medical interventions.

Good luck either way.

Answer 3

I just want to say first that i'm very sorry for what happened to you. I don't know you, but I really do feel for you right now. There are plenty of women that you can find believe it or not that don't want kids or don't want anymore kids if they have them already. There is someone out there for you, you are not alone with this. I know this may sound like a crazy idea to you, but why don't you try some dating services online. They can be really good, and they work too!!!! If you meet someone this way you could put all this info about yourself out there so that a new woman could know upfront about you, and be able to accept you from there. If you don't feel comfortable with this way then keep dating the way you always do, but be honest in the begining so that women know. Some will care and some won't, just think of it this way, this woman wasn't such a good woman after all because if she was she would still love you and be there no matter what. You have seen her for who she truly is, and she doesn't deserve a good man like you. Don't give up hope because it's not the end of the world. Keep positive and trust me you will be happy with someone else. I can almost guarantee you that. Take care!!!!

Answer 4

Well I think it was a tough way of showing u that she didn't love you that much. She doesn't deserve ur love. Now I don't know the nature of yr injury but I hope that u didn't lose yr desire also because to most women it's all about the fondling, kissing, & touching that excites not the sexual intercourse itself cause u know they can achieve it themselves .
U should teach yourself more how to treat a woman in bed & should excel so much in that so that u ease yr problem a little bit. If a truly deserving woman sees yr efforts in pleasing her I think she'd cope with yr problem. But don't let yr self esteem be low & don't let this problem affect your spirit or confidence because that's even worse .
As for having children I don't u'll have a problem if u find someone seriously in love with , u have other options, one of them is adoption.
Find a God fearing woman & not someone superficial . If u get with someone with no morals she might end up cheating u . But if u find a believer she won't cheat u for God's sakes & for herself's sake.

And next time u find someone u love tell her earlier about yr problem so that she wouldn't think that u were tricking her. She might feel cheated by that & leave.
Be strong & God bless you

Answer 5

Women can be just as superficial as men. Clearly she didn't "love" you enough. You'll find a woman who will want you for who you are once you can see and weed through all the superficial women. If a women says she "loves" you, don't just take that by face value. Get to really know her deeply enough to know that when she says she loves you no matter what, that she really means it. Most of them just like saying they really love you because of that good feeling they get at the moment, and they hold on to that feeling because it can be intoxicatingly good, but that doesn't mean they truly mean it, even if they say they do. There actions will tell you the truth of whether they really mean it or not. Clearly this girl you were with, showed the truth of her actions.

Answer 6

I commend you on being honest with her and I am sorry about your injury and your inability to have children. I am not sure what to tell you because some women (and men) views sex as a very important part of the relationship. It could be difficult for someone who wants children and there partner can't have them. Consider seeing a counselor concerning this issue to help you explain to women about your condition.

Answer 7

You will. There are lots of women that can't have kids or don't want kids. You can also wear a strap on which is better then most men. You just have to be honest up front.

Answer 8

Your ex had to move on because making love and having kids is probabily important to her, she was not the perfect match for you, deal with whatever issues you go through that comes with a breakup, and look forward to a brighter tomorrow. There is someone out there of everyone.

Answer 9

wow I don't think she was the one for you if she can't stick with you for who you are.

Yes you can find a woman out there that will love you for who you are. I honestly don't see a problem with that, there are solutions out there to your problem, look for a woman like me lol jk but seriously just stick in there you'll find a woman for you that will love you for YOU!
have a blessed day!
- Autumn

Answer 10

you will definitely be able to find a woman who doesn't care that you can't give her children, as for making love..... even the most understanding woman has needs, you're gonna have to get creative and satisfy her (there are plenty of ways to do this.... just be sure you get d*mn good at it.) good luck.