Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Plz.?

Question

I am becoming obsessed with my bf which is not bad and he doesn't see it as obsessed, he thinks it's sweet. But every second of my life I am thinking abut him, which is awesome but it's taking over. I am 16 and please don't tell me about the age cause I know for sure it's love. Since I think about him so much, when he doesn't do as many sweet stuff as 10 months ago when our relationship started, it makes me like "Does he still love me that much?". He still is sweet and I even bad-mouthed to him about this girl who was a "friend" in my guitar class this year. He only sits with me this year in guitar class but little small gestures make me wonder if he still loves me like he says he does. I broke up like almost everyday with him last year but I am really sorry and he knows that and says he still loves me and says I take for granted how he doesn't have any girl friends and that he only loves me. His mom called me to tell me he has to study this year so he can't stay every day afterschool

Answer 1

You're only sixteen. There will be many more "true loves".

Answer 2

Honey, I'm not going to say anything about your age, because there are a LOT of 16 year old kids out there, that seem twice as mature than you. It's the way you wrote your question that shows your lack of maturity. Sorry, I'm not trying to be mean, but just want to show you that when people tell you you are still young, they just might not refer to your age, but how naive you are. I think you are insecure in your relationship if you are breaking up with him on an almost daily basis, just to feel guilty and then get back together.
Who cares how many classes you have together. Classes are for learning, not lovey-dovey stuff. I hope he never joins the military and gets deployed for a year. What would you do then. Maybe the two of you should not spend sooo much time together, so you can learn to appreciate each other more.

Good luck and grow up a bit, OK?

Answer 3

If you already see it as obsession, then you have identified the problem. I cannot tell you how many times I was in love when I was 16. When you get to be 32 you'll know real love. This is just an infatuation. Yes, you think it's love, but it's not. Let the boy study. And you need to study too. You won't get anywhere without an education. Sure, I sound like some pompous adult, but I've been there. I screwed around in school and was more worried about boys...it didn't get me anywhere.

Answer 4

Try to take time apart, enjoy yourself, do things you like, and especially take time to STUDY... trust me, I know how you feel, but try not to get so involved in the relationship that you lose yourself in that, sometimes we make the mistake of having our world revolve around someone else, and trust me (I'm telling you this because I made that mistake and learned from it)... you'll see what a terrible mistake it is once that relationship is over and you understand that your whole life for the time you were together was "him" and that's not healthy... you need time for yourself and he needs time and space for himself also, or he'll feel suffocated and look for a way out.

I don't expect you to understand what I'm saying, I would have defended my point when I was your age too, but since you're looking for help, here's my advice:

Give him some air, give your relationship some space and especially, give yourself something else other than your bf: a hobby, good grades at school, friends, etc

You'll appreciate it..... bf's come and go (trust me!) but you have to take care of yourself and your life 1st and foremost.

Good luck! YT

Answer 5

Don't get so obsessed with anyone. You'll find later in life that it's not worth it. Not only is it not worth it; it's not healthy. Put some energy in helping yourself and your future and feeling good about yourself, not someone else who may not reciprocate the love as much as you may. Have some self-respect and get a hold of your own life, not someone else's.

It's nice to be in love, but if even *you* are saying it's an obsession, it may lead to trouble down the road.

Take care.

Answer 6

You are in love, at least that is what YOU feel, and no one is or can tell you different...many people have got married at that age, and stayed together for years and years....you are immature,..and that is why you deal with things the way you do...and you are a bit insecure, also..but don't worry, us old guys are like that too...it is just that experience helps us to not obsess as much....I remember feeling that way when I met my husband, and we have been married five years today..I mean, he drove me kinda crazy,..and all I could think about was him, morning noon and night...so, don't worry about it,..but try to trust him more and let the chips fall where they may...you don't want it to ruin your life..for the sake of love...and believe me, it happens everyday. Pray on it, and good luck xo

Answer 7

Wow....you really are obsessed. Can I make a suggestion? Maybe you should take a little breather and spend some time apart. Hang out with your "other" friends & if you don't have any...join a club or some other school social thingy. Get your mind off of him.

Good luck

Answer 8

Being obsessed with anyone or anything is not healthy. Obsessive Compulsive Disorders require treatment.
At sixteen, I doubt you have an obsession problem, I suspect you have a hormonal problem which leads you to obsess. Give it time, it will pass. You will actually grow up and find better men.

Answer 9

sounds like you are the problem since it took his mother to call you to tell you to stop bothering him.

If you have an obsession then see a doctor.
You are still very young, have a lot more people to meet, have a career to study for yourself too, and income to make, etc. etc.
Don't tie yourelf down to someone at this age.

Something is making you accept this easy going guy, could it be you have not received a lot of attention from your famiy and are grabbing onto the first guy who comes along who is nice to you?

At any rate, it's time to stop whatever it is you're doing, and buckle down to your school work.

Answer 10

Ok, sorry but I think this is probably more than any of us want to know about your teen romance. You treat the guy like poop last year and now your'e worried that he doesn't love you as much.
Grow up!
Oh and there really was not a question in that entire scenario.

Answer 11

The way you are describin this makes me think that you wuld do anything for his love... And if he wont do the same and youre thinking if he doesnt love you as much start to act differnet ly aound him and make sure he starts to do nice things for you and stuff. But if he doesnt do sweet things for you, you might or he might want to break up, it depends on the mood... IT IS A RISK!!!!!