Ladies, what type of engagement ring do you prefer? Help I need advice.?

Question

I'm not just talking Cut, Class, Carat, Clarity of the Diamond. What happened to the old days when our engagement ring was our Birthstone? How big should the diamond be if thats what you are getting? Is it okay for me to go with a Ruby my birthstone? Will my ring still be envied? What type of ring should I get?

Answer 1

It is perfectly okay to go with a ruby. I personally hate the look of an all diamond wedding ring. My bf's mom's engagement ring was a ruby, and no one has said anything about it. People might not realize that it is an engagement ring right away, but it isn't important if it is envied (most people will be jealous of your relationship, not your ring).

If your fiance is the one picking the ring, tell him to look at a few of these. They are gorgeous and would be envied:
http://thumbs.bidz.com/63/38/98.jpg
http://thumbs.bidz.com/67/31/39.jpg
http://www.bluenile.com/assets/product_images/rings/RM27400100_AB27400600_OV_100_200zoom.jpg
http://www.bluenile.com/assets/product_images/rings/RM30400200_AB30400800_CU_100_200zoom.jpg

I have small fingers (size 6 and really long), so I want a smaller diamond. I like 1/3-1/2 a carat. Because I am very active and would prefer to get engaged when I am young, I would rather get a ring now, and if I feel like it is too small, I can always be like my grandmother and upgrade when I have the money.

Good Luck and Congrats!

Answer 2

If you have a Shane Co. nearby go there. They specialize in Diamonds...and Rubies! You can get a set that includes both or just one or the other. My ring is a two tone...yellow and white gold and I love having something a little out of the ordinary! Also, everyone is right, the only people that are going to envy your ring are people that don't have one of their own yet, and it's the happy marriage they assume you have, not the ring, that they envy.

Answer 3

As far as diamonds go, I have never been interested in receiving one for an engagement ring. Everyone gets that. So instead, I picked an emerald surround by tiny round diamonds. I also thought about getting my boyfriends birth stone surrounded by diamonds. Either of those would have worked fine because I love the idea of having something unique. You should get whatever type of ring that you want. Remember, its not about the ring. Its about all the love and feelings behind it.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Bottom line- it's YOUR ring!! If you want a ruby, then get a ruby!! And it doesn't matter what size it is either, but the meaning behind it. I have a friend that has an emerald and is very happily married, while another person I know had a beautiful diamond and is going through a very ugly divorce. Enough said?? It doesn't matter- whatever makes YOU happy. To hell with what everyone else thinks! :)

Answer 5

If you want a Ruby as you're engagement ring then thats the one you should tell you're bf to get it.Because thats what I'm going to ask my bf to do.But I want one that has my birthstone and his birthstone.his birthstone is a light green and mine is aqueamarine. I think those 2 birth stones will look pretty on an engagement ring. best of luck

Answer 6

ok.... why are you asking about other peoples preferences. Your also placing an emphasis on someone envying what you get. Take your focus off of those things for a hot minute and get your priorities straight. If you like your birthstone.. .great, get that.. or why don't you just be thankful that you have a great person (if applicable) who's marrying you and allow him to surprise you with what he feels you will really love, or something that is going to be what he knows to be your taste. Now if you don't have a clue as to what YOU like.. Then window shop for a minute and then give him your ideas or search together for something that fits both your styles.

You need to stop worrying about what others have or don't have.. and what will make them feel some sense of envy toward you. It's all material.. and can be here today.. and gone tomorrow.

Answer 7

If you want a diamond, the size really depends on budget, and how active you are. A big rock will get in the way, snag on things, get banged around, and you may not want to wear it as often as a smaller stone- but it will be blingier when you do.

I think a heart-shaped ruby would be wonderfully romantic- and that's really what people envy, the "Oh aren't they adorable- ahh, young love" feeling... not the mineral specimen you might be wearing.

Answer 8

You should get one that is meaningful and symbolic to you, after all it's YOUR ring.

Does it matter if it's "envied"? If that's what you're looking for, go with the biggest, most expensive diamond you can find, even if you hate it. Because it will be "envied".

I'm a traditionalist, who wanted something simple but elegant, in a round stone. When he asked me about size, I said something large enough that you didn't need a magnifying glass to see it, but something small enough that I could still easily put my hand in my jeans pocket. The rest I left to him.

My fiance' doesn't like yellow gold. He chose a .60 carat diamond solitare in a platinum six-prong setting. Very traditional, very simple, very elegant. Very *us*, and that's all that matters.

Answer 9

Keep it simple. I have a classic with diamonds on the band. No birthstone dear. Try the diamond cut with a color.

Answer 10

Your ring will always be envied 'cos it will mean the world to you, and you will wear it with a bit grin and that's what's envied. Anyone can have a huge rock but most of us know that's 'cos they want to show off and that's a stupid reason to have a big rock. Go and see loads and try them on, stick with whatever looks good and feels good to you (and the other half of course).