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Sorry but this is the only way I can get anyone to really just read ,my question so just continue reading and let me know what you think cause I dont know please just help a black sister out thats in need of some serious helping thanks Here is go


Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a pretty long time and I use to spend every waking moment with him but He resently had to move back home to alabama and I'm in nashville we said we werent going to break up and we would be together forever but I havent talked to him in a min. and when I do get a chance to talk to him he acts as if ever things fine and he says he still loves me and wants to be with me one time i didnt hear from him for like two weeks and then when I got a hold to him he acts as if everything is fine. I love him like crazy I have so mch unconditional love for him its crazy. I just wanna be with him but when I dont hear from him for a long period of time it makes me sick to my stomach so I'm askin what would you do

Answer 1

i wuld probably ask him if he is seeing another gurl just 2 b on the safe side.

Answer 2

It would be helpful if I knew how old you and your boyfriend are. I will just assume that you are two young adults. From what you are saying, as much as the truth hurts, if you are not hearing from your man for weeks at a time, that's not a positive sign that your relationship is still strong. Something is occupying his time that takes his mind off of you, whatever that may be. It may be another woman, work, or many other things. I suggest that you ask that he be honest with you because it's not fair to keep stringing you along if he has been occupying himself with someone else. Long distance relationships can have a negative impact on relationships especially if they involve young lovers. Good luck sweetie. Maybe it's time for you to do something that occupies your time to take your mind off this guy.

Answer 3

Firstly, sorry but i'm not gonna tell ya what to do. Or how to take this situation.
I know that if he's not callin you on his own and you're doing all the chasing...I know I wouldn't bother doing that stuff. It has to be a combined effort.
I've answered a question on long distance relationships on here before. I believe they can work. However, only when both partys are willing to put in the work needed to keep things going.
If he's not leaving you cute little yahoo roses or neat little messages now and again on your email to check up on you. It sounds kinda like he's not putting all the work in needed.
You're pulling 80% of the relationship while hes pulling 20%.
I think thats unfair. I suggest talking to him the next time and really tell him how you're feeling.
Hunny guys don't think like us. Sometimes you gotta spell it out for them.

Answer 4

Good idea, it worked. Well I am in Alabama, but that has nothing to do with my answer. No girl I really love, is going to have to wait two weeks to hear from me. A girl I really care for is going to get some sort of communication from me on a daily basis. It might be a letter I write every day but only mail every 3 or 4 days. But I will have some communication with her daily. I think he has done what you need to do, get on with your life. If he should "surface", be nice and care for him, but if you and he had an active love life before he left, odds are he has found another. I am sorry but that is the way I see it. Drop him, get on with your life. You deserve better.

Answer 5

Hello brandnewyear06,

I'm sorry, but long distance relationships usually don't work out, but they have for some. You both need to get really good at writing letters and e-mails to each other. Buy, and send your guy one of those long distance calling cards so that he won't feel bad about racking up the long distance charges. Just keep on talking with each other and maybe you can learn more about each other than if you were bumping booties all the time. Good luck.

Answer 6

there could quite possibly be something wrong, but it could also just be that he's busy and/or not as good at relating over the phone as in person. he may miss you, but not see talking on the phone as a substitute for spending time together. talk to some of the friends he had in nashville and find out if they've noticed the same behavior. if they have, it's likely that he's just not good at relating to people over the phone the same way he does when you're in the same place. however, if he's been keeping more consistant contact with them than he is with you, the answer may be that he's not as comitted as you are.

Answer 7

You don't say how old you are, or how long he's been gone.
But, from what you do say, it sounds like he's being a guy.
I think you need to ask him why he doesn't call you. Tell him it hurts your feelings that you always have to call him. (he could help with the long distance bill!).
Based on his response, you might need to ask him point blank if he's found someone else.
Unfortunately, guys are quicker to move on than we are. I think it has a great deal to do with listening to their hormones than their head.
I hope for your sake I'm wrong, but I don't have a real good feeling about it.

Answer 8

your in nashville and hes in alabama. well, if you love him, you got to make it work. ask him why he doesnt call so much (does he not have long distance phone calling?) if he doesnt that could be why he doesnt call alot, you still have the net (even though its not like being with him everyday) you could arrange to go and see him on breaks (if your still in school or working) if you love each other, and truly want to be with each other forever, then you can make it work. its possible and its been done a million times over.

Answer 9

Save yourself the heartache sweetie, long distance relationships NEVER work out. He might be down there looking for something a lil bit closer to home you know? I say move on.

Its better to have love and lost then never to love at all!

Answer 10

First Long Distance RElationships don't work. Second live life you only live ones, if he does love you and you guyz are ment to be he'll come back in to your life sooner or later. So fir now move on ad have fun.

Answer 11

U know, i think this dude doesnt wanna b w u anymore. Long distance relationships are bound not to work. Maybe hes with someone else