Last weekend at a friend's party in the beach (about an hour of where Iive) I met a guy and had sex with him (in a bathroom shower no less *lol) in a house filled with people (most of the were asleep); then again in the morning under a blanket in a room full of partyed-out, sleeping people. I've never done this. I had made out with guys that I had just met and was attracted to but that's as far as it got. After the "bathroom scene" I wasn't sure of the guy's name!!!(to my credit I'm terrible, TERRIBLE with names). Well after everthing I was left wondering: Am I a slut? I don't want anything more to do with this guy and I'm back home, and I'm pretty sure he doesn't either (he didn't tell me anything and neither did I cause I didn't want to give him any ideas *lol). Have you ever done this? How did you feel? I concluded that I had a GOOD time.
PS. It was casual but safe sex, and by safe I mean condom, i don't know where this guy has been around(in that matter, neither does he about me)
2006-08-21 10:22:34 · 31 answers · asked by cleo715 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was safe and it was *very* fun!! (as much fun as you can have in a 3ft x 3 ft shower *lol)
ThaNKs to EVERYONE for answering!!!
2006-08-26 07:19:32 · update #1
you are just experimenting... nothing is wrong... I give you your props... Everyone has done that before... it's just a good thing that you thought about your safety before you acted out.. that shows you have a brain and you are not afraid to use it... hey if you want nothing to do with him... put that notch on your belt and keep it moving.. don't dwell on something you can not change... Live your life and move on....
2006-08-21 10:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Shonda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've had sex without love and while it was pleasurable it wasn't really something I can say was wonderful. If you had a good time and had safe sex I'd say God bless you! Sounds like you were responsible. You aren't anything bad. You might look out for patterns in the future, but now... all is well. Congrats! And I'm sure he was a happy man too.
2006-08-21 10:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Brent 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It amazing what feels right at one moment feels so rotten the next! Happened to me, on a beach, with a guy that walked up and started talking to me while i was reading a book! We had dinner that night and one thing led to another. It was so "hot"! we did it again the next morning! A buddy of his came and picked him up and I "never" saw him again! I just got caught up in the moment, and when I thought about what had happened I didn't believe I had done it! NO you're not a "****", because of that one time , but if you make a practice of doing it with anybody and everybody you will be! Wait for the "real" thing! When you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with! Chalk this one up to "experience" and forget about it! Ob viously "he" has! You'll find Mr. Right someday, just not Mr. Rightnow!
2006-08-21 11:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by noditz57 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a virgin. but this is the way i see it, if you find nothing wrong with it and your fine and having fun, then you should do what you want, no matter whatever one else thinks. i personally dont find anything wrong with it, that doesnt make you a w-h-/ (you know.) for like'n sex..but now if you or he was in a relationship, then i would say you where a w/h- (you know.) because thats stupid, b lol but no i dont think theres anything wrong with casual sex. and you are in no way a wh/o- (you know.) and dont let anyone ever try to tell you that you are, its not a crime to like sex. (just as long as your not married or in a relationship & neither is he.)
2006-08-21 10:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by Xavier's Mommy ツ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a little older now and I've haven't engaged in casual sex for a long time (back when condoms weren't necessary), but I guess it's OK. Did you enjoy yourself (orgasm)? Was it a way to feel good about yourself or was it just something to kill time? My sex drive isn't near as high as it once was and now sex to me is more about closeness and giving pleasure. I think in time (a lot of time) you'll feel the same way. Otherwise you didn't seem to hurt anyone and it beats manual stimulation, so it should be OK. One thing though....be careful and don't put yourself in jeopardy.
2006-08-21 10:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by strong and soft 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Cleo, Wow you really got yourself in a mess. You never should of had sex with this guy and unsafe sex,Cleo what were you thinking about before haven't sex.Now that's another thing you have to worry about.You can get all types of diseases,And you are going to worry about being pregnant.And about your question,No i have not had casual sex.I have to have somekind of feeling for the guy i am having sex with,And know he hasn't been out laying ever girl in town.This is really a bad mess you have gotten yourself in.I would wait a month and then go see your doctor and have so test run on you,To see if you pick up any sexual diseases.
Clowmy
2006-08-21 10:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes I have: but I always prefer some chemestry between the two. One night stands for me smack of prostituion - no ties, no emotions and not so much fun, just clinical
But it is how you percieve it and how you would fel if you got that reputation - you may not say anything, but I bet all his mates know every detail. Trust is a big issue here.
I choose not to have casual sex but each to their own and their own needs. i beleive there is no moral high ground on this.
2006-08-21 10:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by marc k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
particular, i've got had casual intercourse. i does not say I regretted via fact i do no longer remorseful approximately something. yet a number of those circumstances have been extremely blunders. call me a slut, in case you like via fact your opinion does not count. besides, i do no longer evaluate "slut" to be an insult. In my existence remarkable now, i'm extremely a slut with my companion of three years and that i like it! however the clarification I had casual intercourse replaced into via fact i replaced into in my early 20s and nevertheless exploring my sexuality. element of that for me replaced into going alongside with sexual want and the charm I felt for human beings I in basic terms met. I no longer have casual intercourse. particular, a number of those circumstances have been super exciting, yet I want the intensity that is going alongside with understanding my companions nicely, a minimum of as pals if no longer in a relationship.
2016-09-29 12:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by alia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt make a habit of it, but since it was only once and you used a condom, i don't think you're a s***. You still may want to get checked by a doctor because some STDs can be contracted even if you use a condom.
2006-08-21 10:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've done it when I was young and dumb. If you have to question yourself on whether it was right or wrong...
Guess what, it was the wrong thing for you.
The guy may like you (for the sex I mean), but he will never respect you.
2006-08-21 10:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by Michael J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋