How Do I Become Alot Less Shy and Nervous And Much More Active In School?

Question

I'm Going To Be A Junior In High School And I'm Not Ready For The Drama And Trouble. I Need A Little Advice On How To Deal With School Pressure And Become For Happier, And Not Afraid To Judged By Others. HELP!!!

Answer 1

Believe it or not, its pretty simple.

For the shy and nervous part - Smile more. Think about it, what is the opposite of shy and nervous? Outgoing. To be more outgoing, try to emulate the behavior of outgoing people. Outgoing people tend to have smiles on their faces and easily strike up conversations with the people around them. While the conversation part is a pretty big step for a shy person, a smile shouldn't be. Consider this, if you were to have to pick between 2 people that you didn't know that you were going to be forced to spend some time with. One of them, you are told, is usually in a good mood and the other is usually in a bad mood. Which one are you going to pick?

There are most likely going to be a whole lot of people who don't know anything about you where you are going. The only thing they will know is what you show them. Show them the kind of person you want to be, and from their perspective that is exactly who you are. The truth is, that you can do the same thing with people who have known you your whole life, it just takes showing them for a longer period of time that this is who you are NOW.


To avoid the drama, when it starts building - Avoid it. Go be somewhere else when it starts. Don't be part of it. It does not have to effect you if you don't let it. For those few times when you can't avoid it, ask yourself:
- Is this still going to matter to me tomorrow?
- Next Week?
- Next Month?

The answers to those questions will help put the situation in its propper perspective.

Good luck

Answer 2

I don't know, just remember that everyone judges everyone. and if you don't want drama, just find friends who don't go for it. Join a club is really an overused thing, but a sport of club with people on it who are nice and not into drama is a good way to get over being shy. There is no reason to get into highschool drama unless you want to, just avoid those kinds of people.
Or alcohol :P

Answer 3

Gurl Im in high school, so I know all about it. I used to be like you, shy and worried about what people think. You have to not worry about what people think about you, because people don't run you. If you like to dress or look a certain way than thats your style. They don't like it o well! Pretty soon every one is going to like your style, then you will see people trying to use it. Pressure happens all the time. Just take a deep breath and think! Then ignore pressure do what you think is right.

Lil Mamii

Answer 4

When I was in school I was considered a weird kid because I tried so hard to be liked. When I hit middle school I realized that I would never fit in. So I started to be myself. At some point people began to think I was cool. I think when I began to be myself, dress in a way that I was comfortable, people began to pick up on my style. It was odd.

Because I didn't belong to a particular clique I got along with everybody.

You'll be fine!

Answer 5

im a junior in high skool too and heres my advice.........ok.. all u have to do is to BLEND in with the crowd, follow the trend and just have confidence in urself

Answer 6

look, i think u just have to stop caring about what other people think about u, just spend more time with ur friends who will always support u and won't let u down!

Answer 7

well i would just join more clubs that way you can make friends with more people? i don't know if that helps?

Answer 8

alcohol