i'vebeen think lately that i don't want to have kids for my husband when i do get married i want to have a sperm donor and then tell him all the kids is his own am doing this because i might not like how he looks or should my sprem donor be one of my sex friends who am planning on still seeing if i get married so what do you guys think i should do? thank for your answers
2006-08-21 09:19:59 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This situation is a mess, by the way, you are a mess for puttin this question up. lol.
2006-08-21 09:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why even get married then? Secondly, before getting married, you should go back to school and learn proper spelling and grammar so you can teach it to your own kids. I don't see why you would want a sperm donor instead of having the kids with the man you love. Once the kids grew older, they would understand and the hurt you made them face for their whole life would be unbearable. Trust would be broken and you would regret lying to them. So, you're better off just losing your sex friend unless your husband is okay with it, or considering adoption. You're cheating already and aren't even married. Don't bother spending the money on a wedding, then you won't have to pay for your inevitable divorce the way you're acting.
2006-08-21 09:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why marry at all then. geezzz and then they say men only think with there dick. if u do get a donor, dont get a black donor if ur hubby is white. we are a stupid sex, but not that stupid oh and, nice for u kids also, not to know who there real father is. see u at jerry springer in about 20 years
2006-08-21 09:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by bencilius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just WRONG!! If you truly love your husband then you would want his babies. It is normal to feel scared about how the babies would look and if they may have problems but it is not normal to not want to have babies with your husband, (unless there is something wrong with him, i.e: he is a druggie). With marriage, there is only suppose to be one person you remain committed to and your husband should not have to share with someone else when it comes to you. That is also wrong. If you want an open relationship, divorce your husband and inform your new boyfriend. Otherwise, this whole situation in my opinion is really jacked up!!!
2006-08-21 09:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sapphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just wrong. I do understand though. I've wondered that too. Maybe you want your kid to come out with certain physical traits or personality traits that your man doesn't quite possess, but he's still perfect for YOU. Yeah... I get it... but that is wrong on soooo many levels. Especially if he doesn't know. He'll find out eventually. Like say... something tragic happens and he needs blood, or your kids may need blood... ooops... daddy can't donate because its not his child!!!!! There are PLENTY of things that could go wrong. Plus... karma is a b*tch!!!! So yeah... I do understand... but... don't do it.
2006-08-21 09:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want his babies or his sperm then you probably don't want him either. Sound like a complicated marriage to me. If that's the case just get a sperm Donner and have kids. What do you need a man for. Oh! that's right you need his sperm!
2006-08-21 09:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kewl__Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are sleeping around then you don't have a lot of choices when it comes to who impregnants you. You will slip up on your birth control and you will have a child before you really want to. Then what are you gonna do?
Keep your pants on and IF you get married stay with one man.
2006-08-21 09:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste the time getting married unless he knows all of this in advance if not your looking for a world of trouble and heartache. And maybe even worse.
2006-08-21 09:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by kelly m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what is it you want to do???
Get married, but still have sex with others and still yet have a baby with someone you don't have sex with????
Get real!! Grow up!!
If you get married get rid of the "sex friends" and if ya wanna have a baby have it with your husband.
2006-08-21 09:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Liss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's weird. Ummm, why not just find sperm donor. Don't get married because that'll just complicate matters even more.
2006-08-21 09:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by aprilc232 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*GASP* thats like the sickest thing I've ever heard in my life! Your messed up in the head if your seriously considering this. If this is just a joke than, ha! you got me. If not, poor guy he doesnt know what kind of monster he's about to marry
2006-08-21 09:26:55 · answer #11 · answered by kk_jediknight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋