should i tell my mom i not a virgin i've been trying to tell her but idon't know how 2 tell her i lost my "v"

Question

i lost my virginity at age 13 now i'm 14.

Answer 1

Wow, that's really young! You don't have to tell her unless you want to. Are you pregnant, do you have a disease? If so, yes tell her and she can get you the help you need.

Answer 2

Ask your self these questions:
Are you pregnant?
If no then this should not be as hard to do.
Is your mom reasonable?
She probably will blow up no matter what but to some degree she has a right to blow up. Your too young to be doing that stuff and putting any religious pressures to the side had you gotten pregnant then at your age your going to not only impact your own life but hers as well. More than likely if she is reasonable once she cools back down she will be more interested in your well being than what you did.

If she is at all a resonable woman you should tell her. Otherwise it will become a wedge that will drive you two apart as you feel you have to keep more and more things secret. Be honest be open and be ready for the consiquences.

Answer 3

If u do decide to tell her, do tell her in person. Unless she's an abusive mother.

Obviously u r afraid of telling her, but what's gonna stop u from doing other things that she doesn't want u to do. Know that once u tell her, she's gonna start asking a lot more questions because she still loves and cares about u, but trusts u a little less.

Maybe u don't even trust urself now and that's why u need her to be there for u. Whatever u decide, be (don't try) a more responsible person otherwise u'll regret it for the rest of ur life!

Answer 4

You should tell her. You have put yourself into a higher risk group medically regarding certain specific diseases and such. Don't get scared. There are increased risks of cancer as well that need to be addressed with you. You should talk with your mother and a doctor regarding your health and decisions. An increased risk doesn't mean you will get cancer, just that you are more likely now than before to get cancer.
If you are respectful and honest, then your mother should be willing to aid you in your decisions and help to educate you regarding your actions and the consequences. You have to remember that no matter how upset she is that she loves you. She may be very scared or hurt or angry or all three. Also remember that no matter how she reacts, if you react with love and respect then you and she will have an easier time of things. Such a reaction on your part will also demonstrate a level of maturity that might surprise your mother and which is inconsistent with your past actions.

Answer 5

Why do you want to tell her this? it's totally bad enough that it happened but to give your mother probably the worst news she could hear would be a horrible thing to do to her! I raised 2 daughters and it wasn't until they were in their 30's that it happened to come out in a mother/daughter conversation with each of them that they had lost their virginity at very young ages. They knew I would have been quite upset so they didn't tell me and all these years later I thanked them for that. Hopefully your Mom will too but I can assure you she won't do that now! Good Luck!

Answer 6

Yes, you need to tell her immediately so that she can take you to the GYN and get you a pap smear and get you started on birth control.
My daughter is 15 and I've always told her she can tell me anything. I know about her first kiss, i know about the time she let a boy rub her back under her shirt.
I also told her if she wanted to have sex let me know before she does it because we can talk about all the ways to prevent getting pregnant and getting a sexually transmitted disease.

Im sorry but all these people on here telling you not to say anything is crazy
Trust your mom will understand, thats what moms are for and thats what we do we are here to protect and nurture our children.
She might get upset but i promise its for the best. Only she can get you to the Dr. and get you the information you need to protect yourself.
Please if you were my daughter i would want you to be honest with me so that i could help you.
You are going through alot of emotions right now that only an adult can help you with.

Answer 7

I think you should sit down and talk to your mom. It will hurt her of course, but I know, as a mom, that she would want you to tell her so that she can make sure you are protected. When you are young you make some choices that may seem right at the time, but may not be good for you at all. They can have a lifelong effect on you. If you only had sex once, and do not plan on doing it again, that is wonderful. But if you are thinking you may wnt to do it again before you are 18 or older, then I would suggest that you really sit down with your mom and talk to her. She will be able to get you birth control so you dont have any children before you need to. She can teach you the proper way to protect yourself and help you look inside yourself to see if that is something you really "need" to do versus what you "want" to do. Not all wants are needs.

I think though in time, you will be glad that you talked to your mom. As a mom myself, I always would like to think that my children felt comfortable to talk to me about anything. It may hurt, but i rather be the one teaching my kids the right way from the wrong versus someone else, who may lead them down the wrong path.

I know some people might also tell you to consult a preacher or pastor, but i really think that the ultimate decision will be up to you. You have to think of what you have done/will do in terms of how it will affect your life. If you have a child now, if you catch something that can kill you, or if you get hurt, those are all things that can happen. Sex may seem like a fun thing to do or try, but in reality there are more things you should be concerned about than that at this time in your life.

Please talk to your mom. She will be happy you did. And take care of yourself.

Answer 8

the best thing to do is to have a talk with her alone. just the two of you.
sit down with her...and try not to sit right next to her...incase she slaps you.
look in her eyes and tell her something like this:
'mom, you know i love you? and care very much about you? and wouldnt do or say anything to hurt you? and if i did then please forgive me. but i need to tell you soemthing that might make you very mad and angry with me. but you as a mother should understand that im going through changes now and if i make mistakes then i know not to make them again, becus im changing and im learning new things now. i lost my viginity about a year ago and couldnt find a way to tell you. i always thought youd be angry with me and i was scared to tell you. but i couldnt hold it from you any longer. your my mother and i wanted you to know this. so i really dont want you to get upset over this. and i hope youd be supportive of me and not yell at me."

after that it depends. she might ask you if your pregnant. but if a year passed and you arent then im sure she wont ask. but she might ask if youv done it more then once. and she might ask if you are still active. so just be prepared. and who knows, your mother could be cool and just forgive you. or she could be really mean and tie you down to the bed and never let you go outside. so good luck. and my opinion is, 'dont be active until your old enough to take care of a baby.'
be safe.

Answer 9

well it is great that you want to be upfront with your mom about it. are you still active or was it that one time? is your family religious? there are some things that are better kept to yourself. really what she will tell you if she is calm enough is all the consequences that come with it. dont listen to anyone else about being a slut. if you felt it was your time then that is fine. i just hope you werent pressured into it. also, just because you lost your virginity doesnt mean you have to feel like you have to have sex with every bf after that. it is your right to say no when you dont want to do it. dont ever have sex for anyone else but yourself.

Answer 10

i'm 21 i lost my virginity when i was 16 my mom found out by reading my journal if you feel comfortable talking to her than i say do it bcause it will make you feel a lot better. i got pregnant when i was 18 and didn't tell my mom till i was 5 months and i regret it i should have told her. If you know she wont freak out then it's always good to be able to talk to your mom

Answer 11

When you try and tell your parents these things, always know that they're going to always be there for you no matter what. She might yell at you for a long time, but don't lose hope. Just start out talking about you- being your mom's daughter. Then move onto your mom and dad- and then move onto sex. If she asks you if you've done it, tell her then.