need advice after my first date, please?

Question

dating advicve needed?

O.K., tell me if she's interested in me or not.

Been chating online for 3 months, finally met but we were talking just like friends. After 1 1/2 hour walking in the city she started to say she wants to sleep so I took her home though we were chatting all the time, she was laughin and smiling. No hugs, no kisses but she was kind. I told her I'd love to meet her again and she just just replyed see you;)

Does that mean I'm waisting my time with her? Would you girls do the same if not interested in your partner?

Thanks

Answer 1

Not necessarily. Establish contact and let her know how much you enjoyed meeting her and ask for a second meeting, that will give you the answer you are looking for.

Answer 2

It does sound as if she made up her mind that she isn't interested in you as a boyfriend kind of guy. And it sounds like she was being pretty nice about it. It may be just a chemistry thing - you two got along well on-line, but in person the sizzle just wasn't there. It's not a big deal - no one is "at fault" --- it simply "is."

If you want to make sure, then be direct --- on line ---- and ask her if that is the case. She will probably be more willing to tell you, one way or the other, once she is behind the safety of the Internet.

Answer 3

Ahhhh..I hate games also, but I wouldn't read into it too much. It sounds like she was having a good time. The only thing that I would wonder is if she wasn't attracted to you (I'm not being a jerk, but I've been on dates where the guy did NOT look like what I thought, even after exchanging photos..and it kind of turned me off). The fact that it was only an hour and a half is a little weird too. I would just drop her an IM now and then, and if she wants to go out, wait for her to mention it.

Answer 4

-Ok u have to understand that although u seemed like a great guy, 4 a woman shes still trying 2 see if ur not a weirdo, thats the thing about the internet. She's just being cautious, slow it down and see what pans out. U and I know ur a total sweetheart but give her some time, show her how sweet u are, Secondly if she doesnt want 2 C u again, I guarantee she wont even e-mail u anymore then you will definately know...Otherwise just take it slow..Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Sounds like this is going to just be a friendship more than likely. Get online and see if she shows up to chat. If not then she has moved on. If so listen to what she has to say and see if there really is more interest than just friendship. Sometimes things don't work out quite the way you imagine in the real world. Give it some time though sometime it takes more than one date for things to click.

Answer 6

Wow walking around the city for 11/2 hours I just bet she is dying for another date, you really know how to give a girl a good time. Ummmmmm sorry dont think she is interested unless you can contact her and plan something a little more adventurous next time, but I think you blew it - first dates are so important and need careful planning.

Answer 7

Sorry, but it sounds like you're wasting your time. If she were interested, she would have given you a phone number, or said, "Yes. Let's do this again next week," or something like that.

Perhaps she only wanted to be friends from the beginning, and just wasn't clear enough about her motives.

Keep chatting with her if you still enjoy the conversation, but don't beat yourself up over not being more than friends. The spark just wasn't there.

Answer 8

I dated 2 adult adult males who were shorter way shorter than me (i'm fairly tall). One lasted a three hundred and sixty 5 days and the different 2 years. You do get stares and persons have had critiques about it. yet I by no skill cared and also you would possibly want to not both :) if she makes you satisfied that would want to be all that concerns

Answer 9

I would wait at least a week to see if she asks about seeing you again. If a guy said that to me and he didn't ask like " ok when do you want to hang out again" I would assume he wasn't interested. Ask once or twice . But asking more than that is not worth it. If she likes you, she will respond with more than see you, and make a date.

Answer 10

i don't think she's interested but i may be wrong and if she's been hurt in the past she may be playing it cool. i gave my date a quick kiss cos i wanted to see him again and we've been together a year now after meeting online. i was scared but not cold with him but that's me. text her with another date or ring her and see what happens. best to ask outright if you're not sure.