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heres my story...my b/f is a complete buttwipe..i love him, but sometimes he treats me fine and then, for no reason,turns on me and treats me poorly and then ignors me..then he acts as if nothing happens and expects me act same way. he doesnt realise how it hurts when he treats me like this. any help?

2006-08-21 08:58:55 · 105 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

105 answers

I would suggest breaking up with him. His behavior seems to be the precursor of future dosmetic violence. It will only get worse with time.

2006-08-25 04:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Red Hair Sweetie 2 · 0 0

Your story was also my story not too long ago! I decided to call it quits after 4 years of taking that baloney and we're not kids, we're in our 50's. So, i would think they never change. If he acts that way now he always will. Your giving him the power to treat you badly whenever he feels like it. He sees that you accept it and whenever he's having a 'bad day' he knows he can take it out on you by treating you poorly or ignoring you. I don't know if I believe that he doesn't realize how much he is hurting you. I'm sure he knows you well enough to know what would bother you. Advise from someone who has been there? Leave him while you have the chance. You probably don't have any kids or long term plans yet so now is the time to go. Don't let it get any worse. It could come to the point where he starts physically abusing you. Read the statistics...it happens every day. Good Luck

2006-08-21 09:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 1 0

He is probably doing this because he has a low self asteem and being able to control you like that gives him a taste of a higher self asteem and he feels like he is in control. You should sit him down and tell him that you dont like it and let him know what he is doing before you get mad at him. You should plan an outing like the zoo or something. It will give you some quality time together. If things get really bad you should look for relationship courses at your local community center.
He should not be able to get away with treating you that way. If he doesnt stop you should break up with him.

2006-08-21 09:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sam<3 2 · 0 0

Because he can. Drop kick the guy because this is missing all the elements necessary for success. The fact he treats you well sometimes only shows that he is willing to do it so he can keep you a doormat. If you think he will change...it won't happen. This is now a situation with no respect. No respect no future and you can never get it back. Do not settle for crumbs when you can have the entire cake. Good luck!

2006-08-21 09:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 0 0

I have to wonder why you accept this behaviour from your boyfriend. You say you love him but perhaps he doesn't deserve your love as he treats you so badly. It doesn't matter that its only some of the time you deserve to be respected all the time especially by the special someone in your life. If you have explained to him how you feel and he still acts this way you need to think about whether you stay with him. Don't you think you deserve better than this? Putting up with it just tells him its ok for him to treat you badly and you don't want that to go on forever?

2006-08-21 09:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0 1

Unfortunatly, allot of women go through the same feelings so you are not alone. I think communication is the key you may love him and want to give it your all but if he is not willing to listen and come to an understanding that it hurts you and find a way to compromise you are better off just hurting by breaking it off the pain only last a litte while whereas if you continue to let him act this way the pain will last a lifetime.

2006-08-21 09:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by thumpers_311 1 · 1 0

if he is hurting you, then he needs to know about it! Maybe he doesn't even realize that he is making you sad. You should sit him down and tell him exactly what you told us (maybe with nicer terms...lol) or if you can't make yourself do it in person, write him a letter explaining your feelings! Make sure you have examples so he is not just like, what do you mean. And try to come up with compromises and solutions together, where both of you are putting a little extra out there and not getting as much as you want.

I'm sure your boyrfrind loves you, or else he would not be with you! Just try to remember that, and maybe it will boost up your self confidence, as well!! Good Luck!

2006-08-21 09:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by katie l 2 · 0 0

He treats you like this because you've let him get away with it from the first time he did it. If you would have put a stop to it the moment you realized you didn't like it, he would not have contiued to do so. It only means you don't think much of yourself because you probably think you can't find anyone better than that buttwipe (like you call him). Think more of yourself and know that if you let him treat you this way, you're probably not worth being treated better. It's all about how much you value yourself.

2006-08-21 09:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

The guy is immature and doesn't respect your feelings. Don't expect this to get better. It usually gets worse. Is this the kind of life you want for yourself? Move on, there is a guy out there that will treat you like you are the most special person in the world.

2006-08-21 09:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0 0

you're only going to deal with it for so long...then you will come to a point where you feel you have no say in the relationship and you may even begin to lose your self-respect. Talk to him on a serious note, if he acts like your issue is not a big deal then he doesn't respect how you feel. Be open with him and realize that there are a million of ppl in the world...ask youself, 'do you deserve better'

good luck with everything

2006-08-21 09:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by jso 3 · 0 0

All men are buttwipes. He treats you bad when he is cheating on you and when he has a dry spell will come back like nothing is wrong hoping for sex.
Live with his cheating *** or leave NOW.

2006-08-21 09:05:12 · answer #11 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0 0

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