My bf and I had a 3some about a month ago. Now me and the other female decided to be together too. Intially my bf was very happy about this. He has now changed his mind. He thought that it was only going to be sexual relationship. But it's not. We have become close friends. My bf wants me to stop seeing her completely. He is afraid that I am going to leave him for her. I tell him that is not going to happen. I told him that I wouldn't sleep with her anymore but I still want to be friends with her. But he wants me to have absolutely no contact with her. She doesn't try to steal me away from him. She is very nice to him. So I don't understand. What should I do ?
2006-08-21 08:53:25 · 16 answers · asked by Lil Ma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is just feeling insecure. If you want to keep him and also be friends with this other girl then you and this girl need to sit with him and re-assure him that its not gonna change anything between you and him.
2006-08-21 09:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by GoodGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he cant get mad cause he wanted the three some and he got he, he never said dont keep in contact with the chick. And you and the girl being together might be more than what you think, so if you value your relationship, leave the girl alone and tell your bf that if he doesnt want you hanging out with the third whee, then the sex should stick to 2 ppls.
2006-08-21 09:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your boyfriend, just end your friendship with her. It was just a fling. You'll end up hurting someone either way. It's either going to be her or your boyfriend. I tend to think friendships are more important, but you didn't start this friendship until you had this 3some. If you've been with this guy longer and really love him, I'd say he's more important. Just let him know that you don't intend on doing this sort of thing ever again because you don't want to lose another friendship over him. I hope this helped you. Good luck.
2006-08-21 09:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f feels threatened by her. Not much you CAN do. Try getting him to do another 3some with you 2. Perhaps that might change his mind about her. The more you do it the more he might warm up enough with her to allow you 2 to be friends.
Otherwise you might end up having to choose b/w them.
2006-08-21 09:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by unknowndiscovery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much fuked it up my having somehting other than just a sex friendship and there really is no other way to change his mind. YOu broke somehting that cant be repaired, if u really care for your man stop tlakin to the girl dont be selfish or else jus tleave him if u cant give oyur all to him.
Next time be mature and be ready for consecuences and how to handle them
2006-08-21 09:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to really think about his decision. I screwed something like that up a long time ago too. Now I just sit back thinking about what would have been. He will come around to know what is right. I just hope he does before it is too late.
2006-08-21 09:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a bit of a pickle. your bf is just insecure about losing you. It was OK when it was just sexual but now you're more intimate with her it's causing him grief. sound like you'll have to choose. pick whoever makes you happy.
2006-08-21 09:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wierd that you would want to be her friend, and didn't think that he might want to continue to sleep with her in the first place. I would question his motives. Maybe it is because he wants to continue to see her and he is afraid she will blab. A fine mess you got yourselves into, my dear.
2006-08-21 09:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a boyfriend for him to balance things out.
2006-08-21 09:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by mborto2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you ladies need to find a man that you can share that accepts you both completely. your bf a complete idiot! but he'll regret it once its gone.
2006-08-21 09:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by Hello A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋