27 month old taking tantrums?

Question

My daughter is 27 months old and is starting to take tatrums so bad that she vomits and slams her butt down on the ground, she will stand up and slam back down again over and over. What do I do to control this

Answer 1

There is a book/DVD series called "The Happiest Toddler on the Block : The New Way to Stop the Daily Battle of Wills and Raise a Secure and Well-Behaved One- to Four-Year-Old". It is published by Dr. Harvey Harp. I borrowed the DVD from the library and are surprised by the method they use to deal with the Toddler Tantrum. It is very easy and humane. (Does not involve let him cry it out or things like that.) The technique involves around first talking in same level of energy like your tod to get the attetion, then start to re-direct the attention...

I used the technique on my 2 year old and it really did work. I definitely recommend you to dig into that a little bit more.

Answer 2

Well technically, this is the terrible two's stage. You have to punish her (the best way a two year old can be punished) so that she can realize throwing tantrums is not something she should be doing.
When she throws a tantrum, take something away from her for the moment. If she persists ignore her, she will see that throwing this tantrum is not getting her what she wants and will eventually stop, as annoying and hard as it may be, it's got to be done.
Whatever you do, don't give into your childs tantrums because then they'll get used to throwing a tantrum whenever you say no. So, put your foot down.
If you and your child are in the store and she wants something that you do not have the money for, try to make her feel better about you not getting it. Say things like, "You don't want that... you're too good for that, you don't need that. You have better things." This sometimes helps young kids.

Answer 3

Put on your hard hat mom, we got some work to do! Kids throw tantrums because they want something. I have a 3 year old we went through this very thing with. Here's what we did - taylor it for you, because each kid is different. My son had his own room, so we removed all toys, dressers, anything that plugged in - pretty much anything but his bed and wall hangings (out of reach) from his room. His room is where he sleeps. He has a separate area where his toys are kept in a toy chest in our family living room (not sitting room) but that depends on your house too. Here's where you have to be strong. When he would throw a fit - I would simply say to him "If you can't behave you can go to your room." (I forgot to mention we used plug protectors, and a doorknob protector on the inside of the room). After that, if he didn't stop immediately, he would go to his room. I would sit him on his bed...even if he was screaming...and get down at eye level and explain to him what he did wrong and that it was not acceptable." I would then turn and walk out of the room, and shut the door - and despite the screaming (because there will be screaming) you have to walk away. If you need to go cry right now, that's okay...it took me a while, and you'll want to cave every time, but you're not doing the child any favors if you do. As for the throwing up, my son did that when I'd give him a hair cut because he'd get so worked up. It's a natural reaction when a person gets all wound up, to vomit. If it's excessive, I'd call the doctor and ask for advice, but like someone said before - don't rush to the ER!
I also have to say - the grocery store is one place where my son LOVED to throw fits. I learned that if you are just walking in the door and the fit starts, walk back out! If you are 3/4 through with your shopping, and the fit starts, find a grocery employee, say to them "My child is acting inappropriately, I need to take them home. If you could hold this for me in your cooler until I come back later today, that would be great, if not I understand." and leave. Don't keep saying "if you are good you can have a treat" or "be good or we'll go home" because I found out quickly that the child is smart enough to figure out you won't leave! simply tell them they can't behave that way in the store, and if they do, leave. It gets the message across real quickly (after once or twice) that the behavior is unacceptable.
Children are very touchy - just make sure you're not making threats you aren't willing to follow through with - and in my opinion, don't spank them. My parents spanked me - I don't look at it as abuse, but I think the child eventually figures out that's what they'll get, and they think "is a spanking worth it?" and thy go ahead and do it. Be careful how you punish, take away something that is of value to your child, in our case, it's his time.

Best wishes!

Answer 4

Put her down in a corner or facing a wall. No toys or anything that can be a distraction. Tell her to stay and then walk away.

Tantrums are about attention and control. She will soon learn that tantrums gain neither and give them up. Not longer than 5 minutes.

Return with love and hugs (after cleaning the puke). Use a blanket to protect the carpet.

Answer 5

You need to take her to the doctor. Tantrums are only tantrums until the child physically is hurt or hurting themselves. If she is vomiting and slamming her butt on the ground, you definately need to take her to a doctor. Not to scare you, but she's not throwing tantrums--that's worse than a tantrum.


Yes, Take her to a doctor! What people don't realize is that when the child is physically hurting themselves (slamming down over and over, throwing up, whatever it may be) it's not good. You need to have her looked over and see what the doctor says. Don't ignore it--that's the worst thing you could do. I promise this is the right thing to do by taking her to a doctor. Tantrums are more than just tantrums when it causes kids to hurt themselves. A normal tantrum would involve screaming, crying, stomping, etc.---not vomiting and slamming yourself on the floor many times over. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions. God bless.

Answer 6

What kind of things bring on her tantrums? Maybe you can learn what her triggers are so that you can help to avoid the situation? Many kids are more prone to tantrums if they are tired or hungry, for example. If she starts to throw a fit, ask yourself when she last ate or slept and see if that could be part of the problem.

Are transitions a problem? Give her a warning before you have to go somewhere. "In 5 mins we are going to the store.....3 mins.....1 min.....OK, time to go!" Or, "OK.....time to say good bye to the slides! Time to say good bye to the park!" Help her transition from one thing to another instead of just making her drop whatever she is doing and go NOW.

If you need to take something away from her, say in a very pleased voice, "Oh! Thank you" and hold out your hand like you expected her to give it to you all along. Little kids love to please and will often go along with this. If you need to, trade her something for whatever she has.

Reserve the word "NO" for when you really need it. Instead, use words like "hurt baby" or "hot" or "sharp" or "dangerous" or "owie" or "not for babies" when you need to stop her. Use redirection and distraction whenever possible.

Talk to her about her emotions so that she'll learn the words to express herself instead of having a screaming fit. "You sure look angry" or "that made you mad" or "I can see that you're getting frustrated" or "you really wanted that toy" and stuff like that. YOU put it into words so you can teach her how to do it herself the next time. You'll have to do it over and over, but she'll learn.

Most of all.....be patient. And don't give in to tantrums. Teach her how to communicate with you in a calm and polite manner by modeling good behaviour for her.

Answer 7

whatever do not spank your child as this will make your childs tantrums worse the do not listen to people on this who are telling you to do this as they obviously have nt got children themselves and if they have they are very stupid parents who need the social services out to them
If it was me i would take your child to the doctor.
I have a little boy who takes tantrums and i walk away from him when he takes his tantrums but not like your child is. your best bet is your doctor i would listen to his advise not people on here as some people might be giving you the wrong advice for a situation like this

Answer 8

get to the bottom of the tantrums. She is doing that for a reason and if you can nip it in the bud before it starts you will have control over it. Read the baby whisperer for toddlers. I swear by it!!!

Answer 9

You should put her in a car seat or playpen so she can't hurt herself especially something with restraints on it, a highchair or stroller, it sounds scary because she may hurt herself but they all do this at some point and in time she'll grow out of it.

Answer 10

OMG,Don't you dare take her to the hospital because she is throwing a fit.They don't call it TERRIBLE TWO'S for no reason at all.You are going to have to try to find a sollution to this that best fits you'r kid.I found that swatting on the but kinda helped mine 3 kids but found that the corner they had to stand in was much mmore affective on thier part.