I have never had a boyfriend, and i want one really bad! I am 14, and i'm not that confident but I think I am pretty, smart, nice, and funny, so what's my problem?? I have asked someone out before but thery turned me down, any tips??
2006-08-21 08:47:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yeah, and I forgot to say, I have never been on a date either, oh and the guy i asked out i liked for 11 years since i met him, i still like him now, but i guess it is better just being good friends with him. Oh and Im not just looking for a boyfriend, i just want someone to ask me out who likes me for who i am, not like the pervert who answered with just flash some guys, a ton will come your way. Well anyways please help!!
2006-08-21 10:58:38 · update #1
Start with the chess club, math club, or science club. I guarantee you'll find someone there to cut your teeth on. And who knows, you might even find your true love.
At worst case, you'll make their day while gaining confidence in yourself as well!
2006-08-21 08:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Yada Yada Yada 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You simply want a boyfriend ? Any boyfriend ? ANY boy just as long as he breathes and is willing to be your "boyfriend" ?
Oh, honey, take a step back and take a look around you. And don't be so desperate. (It isn't attractive, by the way!) At 14, boys and girls are changing boyfriends and girlfriends (and best friends and worst friends) about as fast and as often as they change their clothes. How is THAT anything to which to aspire ?
If you are pretty, smart, nice and funny I would suggest that you also be something else: choosy. Don't pile into the game of boyfriend-girlfriend whole hog until you find someone you really like and who really likes you. Hold yourself back (and hold yourself out) as someone who doesn't follow the crowd. (Yeah, I know -it's tough to do that when all you want to do is fit in with everyone else.....) But if you don't enter into this "bf/gf Exchange" thing, you will become known for being someone who is really special and is waiting for someone special.
TRUST ME! (This is a been-there-done-that-have-the-T-shirt kind of thing. ;) Trust me when I say that being known as a very special girl will draw more guys to you than you will know what do with ! Then you will have to learn how to pick between them.
Just be funny and smart and pretty and nice (which, by the way, scares the hell out of boys your age!!!!) and eventually some guy who has the confidence necessary and maybe even what it takes to be a good boyfriend will come along and then all the gang will be "wowed" by the fact that NOW you have a boyfriend!
2006-08-21 09:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, you don't need a boyfriend yet. I'm turning 16 in two weeks and I haven't had a serious relationship at all. I think you should focus on your schoolwork first. Once you've done that, you can get any guy you want. If you're pretty, smart, nice, and funny, then there's no reason why I wouldn't date you though.. I don't date girls younger than me at high school. :P Maybe I'll give it a shot for senior year. Keep trying, don't give up because there's one guy who'll love the way you are and he'll accept you for who you are. Keep finding right guy for you. There're plenty more of fishes in the sea.
2006-08-21 08:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time, ur young anyways. Just give it another chance, ur gonna have to. I bet u will this year, or within 2 years. 2 years might seem bad, and long but it goes by quick too. U think you are, there's a lot of guys there, unfortunately, there's a lot of people there is my guess it's harder to find some1 u like who likes u and stuff. I know from experience.
2006-08-21 08:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and be confident! i think that is the most important thing casue im 14 too. just forget about being turned down take a little bit longer before u ask someone out get to no them and be their friend.
nick
2006-08-21 08:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Nick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to keep trying and never give up. People will tell you "oh, 14, ur too young" or "why do u want a boyfriend so bad?" I didnt have my fist gf till i was around 14 or 15, but trust me i didnt get one on the first try. Keep tryiing, youll find that guy who wants to be with you soon,i promise.
2006-08-21 08:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by prophetoftruth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
make sure you really care about someone before you go for it, and not just find someone because they're willing to go out with you. Better to get a good one that lasts than a quick one with some idiot, or you'll be back to being single before you know it.
2006-08-21 08:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by pieninja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not the problem you need a guy like me.
You will get one soon enough so dont hurry just be your pretty, smart, nice, funny, WONDERFUL self. next time you ask someone out be confident guys like confidence. I like your screen name it is hott.
2006-08-21 09:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by drpepper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um well juss find the right 1 nd juss start talkin nd then juss say hey can i have ur number so i can call u sumtime nd if he does well start calling him nd get to know him nd if he flirts with u nd stuff like that then ask him out im 14 also i always do that juss if u need anymore help add me to yahoo or hotmail at meganycash@yahoo or totalbiatch2010@hotmail.com!!!!good luck:D
2006-08-21 10:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by meganycash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have patience.. i didn;t have my first boyfriend til I was 19 because I wanted to wait for the one. And I did, and I'm very happy I did that. I know Its hard... trust me, but when you find the love of your life you'll be glad they were the first and only one you ever said i love you to, and held hands with, and kssed. And when you meet that right guy you'll know, i don't know how to explain it but you will! God bless
2006-08-21 08:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by js95116 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋