I have an 18 month old son and a 7 month old son and I am wanting to have another child. I would like my children to be close in age but is this too close? Does any one have three children close and how is raising them?
2006-08-21 08:45:54 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Having kids that close together is fine as long as you can handle it. That's means financially, mentally and physically. Handling one two year old can be tough enough, but to have a 1yr old, a two yr old and a three yr old?? I know I couldn't do it. Too tiring. Too expensive. Especially when it comes to having to put all three through college at the same time.
Like I said, I couldn't do it. However, if you've given this a good amount of consideration (all the good and the bad of having kids that close) and you're sure that you wan tit. Then, you shouldn't let anyone else tell you you're crazy.
Besides you're at least one step ahead of some others out there who have kids without even thinking about the consequences. At least you've decided to give this some serious thought first. Good for you!
2006-08-21 08:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by dreamingtyger 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if that's what you want and you can afford it then I say go for it! I have 4 children aged: 15, 14, 12, and 10. My husband also has full custody of his children so in addition to raising my 4 we are raising his three that are: 15, 12 and 10. I have been raising all of them since our youngest was 13 months old and I love it! It's hard sometimes but we wouldn't have it any other way. My brother-in-law and his wife have 6 girls that are very close in age and my other brother-in-law has a 6 year old step daughter and he and his wife have another daughter that is almost two, a 7 month old son and she is three months pregnant with another. I could tell you story after story of families I know that have many children close together in age and they are very happy with their decision. Good luck and don't let people who don't want this choice for themselves try to make you feel bad about yours. It's your life and if that's what makes you happy then go for it!!
2006-08-21 08:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children. The difference between my oldest and middle child is 41/2 years and my middle and youngest is 22 months. It was really hard in the beginning and I really felt like I had cheated my middle child out of some quality time but now my 2 youngest are close and play really well together. I think you have to decide if you are ready for the physical and mental demands that 3 children take. Not to mention the toll it takes on your body. I hope this helps. Best of luck.
2006-08-21 10:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by cyndielouwho101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that they are going to grow up. When they reach an older age, boys are incredibly rambunctious and are going to wear you out faster than anything. Trust me, I have 3 boys and one more boy on the way. The older two are both currently 7 and my step kids. They are insane lol. There is a lot of fighting, despite constant reminders to stop. Theres the food they feel the need to inhale, and the more active they are, they more they eat!
My one year old is of course picking up on this, and while I have the opportunity to give him a better upbringing that his brothers had, he is still a boy lol.
There is also the warning that having children so close together will most definatly wreak havoc on your body, and not in a good way. Not talking just in looks, but there are other things it will do to you. The suggested time period is about 15 mos. Talk with your doctor before heading into a 3rd child so soon. You may find you want to give it a little time, and your children will still be close together in age.
Good luck!
2006-08-21 09:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, hon. Its not crazy that you want another child with your children so close in age. It is your motherly instinct, you truly love children.
Do what you feel in your heart is best and don't let others make the decision for you. You are the only one that knows what your physical and emotional limitations are. If you feel that you can be a good mother to another child with the two you already have then go for it, you are not crazy. If you feel within yourself that due to the ages of your two children, that you cannot give another child the love, affection, and attention it needs then I would wait until you feel that you can. Most of all you need to make the decision yourself.
Good luck.
2006-08-21 08:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Lips of Morphine ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, if you want another child, go for it. The more the merrier...lol...no seriously...if you know and you can take care of 3kids go for it. Make sure you are financially stable and healthy. I feel that you have enough love to give to 3kids. Go for it. I have 3 daughters ages 10, 8 and 7months. And I love all three of them and I want another child, only because I want a boy. LOL...now that might be crazy.I don't think it'll happen though. My two oldest are great, they are best friends, but they too like to fight alot. They are great to my 7month old. They are big help. Raising them are fun, I love how they are to one another. How they react to each other in every way and in everything. They learn and teach each other. That is great! Good Luck, and Hopefully you will have your 3rd child soon!:)
2006-08-23 16:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by missbehave252002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 8, 6, 4. 22 months gap and 2 1/2 years. It was crazy the first year after my 3rd was born, but its nice too. We are planning a 4th now and I worry over the big age gap (big for us). I know a woman with 4 kids, all 2 year spaced and she loves it. I'd suggest waiting till the 7 month old is 12 months, then go for it!
2006-08-21 09:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a matter of being able to afford them.. Diapers, doctor appointments, child care now. School clothes, school fees for activities, sports, band. College.
The monetary cost of children just increases over time.
The physical and emotional cost does too. If you were to get pregnant now, you would have an not quite 2 1/2 year old, a not quite 1 1/2 year old and a newborn. Those are all very demanding times. Demanding of your time and attention to keep them safe, to help them thrive and be the best they can be.
Please consider all these things. You have to remember, you need to do what is best for the children you have now before you decide to have another baby because you want one now. Maybe waiting a while would be best for the ones you have now.
2006-08-21 08:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a 5 year old,a 4 year old,and an almost two year old.YES I'm done having kids cuz sometimes I feel like I'm running around with my head chopped off but in most parts I would not change a thing.My 4 and 5 year olds are really close but sometimes they want to kill eachother,but they both love thier baby brother more than anything.I love my kids,just wanted to say that.
2006-08-21 09:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy, but having no other information than that which you have provided your judgment is questionable. You probably should wait a little while. Take a look at your finances. Talk with your doctor about your body's need to rebuild or rest. Think about the fellow who will be daddy. He should not be neglected regarding this decision.
Also, wanting is fine. Getting might be another story. In the end, you may still decide to have another very soon. It doesn't hurt to think about it for awhile first. It doesn't hurt to seek sound advice. I am not sure how sound the advice is in this forum, but do take a little time to think.
2006-08-21 09:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋