my hubby came back to me after cheating. should I forgive?

Answer 1

Follow your gut instinct, always!

What does your gut tell you? Do you have more negative or positive feelings about giving him a chance?

Do you feel hopeful and happy at the prospect or nervous and unhappy?

Look within and that's where you'll find your answer.

Nobody externally from yourself can honestly answer that question for you.

Answer 2

Temptation has been with humankind since the start of the human race. It is very prevalent among spouses. A partner cheats for many reasons...not just physical attraction. It may be that the other partner has his/her own shortcomings or has neglected the relationship, or simply, both parties have just grown apart.
Once your partner cheated on you, you can't help but doubt his sincerity, and there is always a nagging thought that he will do it again. Sometimes this will affect your relationship, which ideally should be founded, not just on love, but also on faith and trust. If however, you feel that you love him so much and that love can accept him as he is, an infidel and all, then go ahead and accept him. But if you feel that you can not accept his womanizing which MIGHT happen again then, i would suggest you give him up and move on with your life. That way you are being kind also to yourself.
I know of a guy who had really fallen in love with a girl outside his marriage, but decided to keep his marriage and gave up the girl. 20 years later, their marriage is still solid. Give it a second try and pour in lots of prayers. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

It depends on the circumstances. I cheated on my boyfriend, admitted it, and we've worked through it. I'd never cheated before, nor will I ever do it again. It's worth a try if you love each other. Once a cheater, always a cheater isn't necissarily true...it depends on the individual. Did you catch him, or did he admit it to you? If he came forward with this information to you, I'd give him another chance. I'm sure you've done things that haven't made him so happy, right? Maybe not to that extreme, but you've been forgiven for your short-comings, right? If you forgive, you must forget too, it's not something that should ever get brought up again once resolved or it can cause unwanted problems in your marriage. If you don't think you can truly forgive and forget, then you should just leave him.

Answer 4

It depends. How long have you been together? I can tell you that I have cheated on my husband and just recently told him. I would do anything to get him to forgive me. He hasn't told me he wants a divorce or anything. Right now things are in limbo.

It's not true that once a cheater, always a cheater because I personally will never cheat on my husband again. I love him very much. I made a huge stupid mistake.

Has his affair only happened once with this other person or was it an ongoing thing? Mine was once and one time too many. If it was once then I would forgive him, but only because I want my husband to forgive me too because I made a mistake. If it was ongoing it doesn't seem like it was a mistake to him. You know what I'm saying?

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Answer 5

Only you can decide. Will you be able to let it go, not forget but get over it? Is he supportive of you either needing to know details or wanting him to sever all ties with his mistress? Is he willing to go to counseling for you? This was all him, it had nothing to do with you and he needs to do everything he can to make it work out, not just expect you to kiss the ground he walks on because "he came back." There are people who say that it was in a strange way the best thing that happened to them, they communicate more, they are honest and open and they know hey can go through just about anything. Then there are people who just can't get past it. Can't let go of the visual of him with another woman. It hurts, I am so sorry. You take care if you. Don't worry about anyone else, just make the decision you can live with. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

This question is up to you. Firstly, was he truly sorry for it? Did he mean it? Only time will tell. I would be cautious. My friends husband got on his knees begging and crying and did it again to her within a year and half later.
Now, your husband may really mean it. This is something you will have to determine.
Secondly, can you let this go? If it is always at the back of your mind and you can't forgive and forget it sincerely then your attitute may destroy what is left.
I think, you should tell him that you will take him back but that you want to go to counseling for your marriage. Tell him that you are not at a point to forgive but that you are working through the hurt that he has caused you.

Answer 7

What I can advice you is a no. Don't go back.

Once they do it the first time and you forgive them is like giving him an opportunity to cheat again, unless of course he is willing to compromise, how long where you guys within the relationship and how much you guys love each other.

Just remember one thing. If he can't respect you, then lose him for good.

Love,
judgeadvocateedith.

Answer 8

NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! DONT TAKE HIM BACK!! Kick him to the curb. There is no excuse for cheating and it is to NEVER be forgiven. Find yourself a new and faith full man. That man is worthless. I am sorry, you may care about him, but cheating should make all those loving feelings go away. Never forgive a cheater. That horrible man. You deserve better. Cheaters and abusers need not be loved!!!!

Answer 9

You should forgive him ONLY if he's come back and confessed to having cheated on you and is truly sorry (repentant) for it. Forgiveness is not a license to go out and do things again and again you'll need forgiveness for, it's meant to lead to a complete turnaround (the literal meaning of "repent" is "turn away"). Forgiveness costs you nothing, and it's up to your husband to live up to the faith you have in him not to stray again.

Answer 10

Usually, you shouldn`t. Coz in the long run, both of you will just be thinking about this incident and end up miserable. It is quite hard to forgive and forget. After all, he promised to stand by you and only YOU. That speaks volumes to his character.

Think of the possibility if he do this again...can you accept that still?

You can move on and find someone who will love only you no matter what! You deserve that!

Answer 11

Only you who know him well can decide this. No one can tell you what to do. We all have different levels of tolerance. It's very hurtful when a partner cheats on you, but cheating is just a symtom of what was wrong with the relationship in the first place.

You both need to sit down and talk, ask him about why he cheated and tell him how you feel. You both need to adress the core cause of what has caused this rift, breakdown of communication in the first place.

A healthy relationship is based on good communication and trust.When trust is gone it is hard to salvage it, and only you can decide if you want to. It can take time to trust him again, and he has to earn your trust. If you want to stay with him then you need to start afresh with better communication and to establish trust again.

Take time to get to know each other again, to rediscover the flame of romance which you had before and which attracted you to him.Think about why you lost it. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.