that she accuse him in coloring in a desk, and shouted at him. he said he did'nt do it, I never had a problem with him coloring on things around the house, he never did it with me. He swear he did'nt do it, and said his teacher is mean. what should I do about this situation?
2006-08-21 08:38:13 · 14 answers · asked by birdsdafly 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Quotations
You need to get both sides of the story. Contact the teacher and ask if you can talk with her about your son. Tell her you are concerned and want to make sure that you and she are working together to help him progress and mature.
When you meet with her, explain that if there is any behavior problem with your son you want to be made aware of it and help with any solution that is needed. Be polite and calm, because if you are upset it will make things get worse. You may want to explain that you don't yell at your son at home and that yelling scares him. Ask about the coloring incident and what was involved. There may be a perfectly ordinary explanation.
I wouldn't suggest the principal and school board route, as that would mean you were over-reacting, possibly what the teacher may have done if she yelled at your son.
There are usually three sides to any story like this - the child's side, the teacher's side, and the real side which is somewhere in between. Keep an open mind, and remember that while we love our children dearly, what they tell us about what happens in school is their version of events. We owe it to them to listen to them and investigate if necessary, and to make sure they are treated with respect and fairness in school, but listen to the other side too.
Best of luck to you and your son.
2006-08-21 09:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Schedule a parent teacher conference and speak to the teacher. Sometimes things can get unintentionally lost in translation when they are coming from a child. I am not saying that he is being dishonest with you....just that he is young. I have two sons of my own and have dealt with many misunderstandings in school. It is always best to get both sides of the story and then hopefully you will be able to remedy the problem. You want to make sure that you have good communication with the teacher. If time is an issue, another thing you can do is either schedule a phone call between you and the teacher after hours or make sure that she has your email address and see if you can stay in contact by email. I have found this to be very helpful. My seventh grader cant get away with not doing homework or accidentally forgetting about a long term assignment because the teachers email me assignments every afternoon. My little one's teacher emails me with any concerns regarding behavior and I do the same in return. It has made a big difference for my kids and for me. I dont feel helpless or uninvolved....use the "information age" to your advantage and the advantage of your son. I hope this helps ya out!
2006-08-24 06:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by grl_addict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only solution is to sit down with the teacher one on one and ask her what exactly happened. If she still says it was your son, then explain that he has never done anything like this before and that your son said he did not do it. It could be an honest mistake someone could of colored on his desk if he got up out of his seat for a tissue bathroom ect.. If she did not see him do it then it could be anyone.
2006-08-21 08:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go visit the teacher - see the desk and the coloring for yourself. When you do - does it look like something your child would have done? If not - point out to the teacher why it is not your child's drawing.
Meet the teacher anyway and start discussing your child - looks like problems ahead.
Judge for yourself.
2006-08-21 08:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by ghostlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the school and talk to the principle and explain to them exactly what u said here. That he's never done anything like that before. A teaher is there to educate a child not to scream at them and accuse them if things they have no prove of.
2006-08-21 08:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Salsera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the school and tell the principal that you want the teacher to write an apology or you will take it to the school board.
Sometimes the threat of taking it to the media will get this done as well.
2006-08-21 08:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by John M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would support the teacher. Teachers don't accuse unless they are 99.9% sure who did it. Work with the teacher on correcting the behavior and she will love you and your son. Fight with the teacher and things could get bad even with admimistration.
2006-08-21 08:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 12:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make a big deal of it. She may have thought that was what he was doing. More than likely she forgot as I'm sure there are much worse problems she has to deal with. Don't give her a hard time about it.
2006-08-21 08:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it up in front of the school board.
2006-08-21 08:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by brewer78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋