I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years because I just didn't think we were getting along. I slept with a few people while we were on and off as well. I just my ex and I wish that we could be back together but it has been 3 months and he says he will never be able to forgive me because of my actions while we were broken up. Now he is seeing a girl and I hear that they are completely happy. I want to go over to his house and talk to him but he will not talk to me. At this time, I am dating one of his friends and I really don't want to be with him anymore and I want to go back to my ex. What do I do? I miss my ex and I am still in love with him, I think about him while I am having sex with the new guy. What should I do? I am so lost, lonely and sad!
2006-08-21 08:29:58 · 74 answers · asked by TextnQueen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LEAVE the poor man alone! Why is it what you want? What about what he wants? He DOESN"T WANT YOU! Leave him alone! And BTW - you sound like a ****!
2006-08-21 08:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating the guy your dating first of all. The issue right now is two things. First, you haven't dated anyone long term other than your ex so for right now your former relationship with him is the benchmark for all your relationships. Until you find someone you really want to be with and spend a lot of time with them it is only natural to miss what you had with your ex. Second, your jealous and your letting your jealousy cloud your emotions. This is normal because when someone you loved gets serious about someone else it is normal to want to go back and prove that what you two had was better. We all want to believe we were the best our ex's ever had or will have. These feelings are especially strong when your not really involved in a good relationship yourself. The cure is for you to take some time to look at your life and what you want. Take time to make your life better and focus on the things beyond a relationship that make you happy. You will never find another good relationship till your happy with your own life and who you are. This is why you've been stumbling through multiple relationships since your breakup. Regardless of everything that has happened I think you broke up for the right reasons and that he really wasn't the guy for you and you will eventually find the right one that will make you so much happier than you can ever imagine.
2006-08-21 08:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there really isn't much you can do. I mean it would be a different story if you both were still single and still had feelings for each other. Yeah you still have feelings for him, but you've moved on as well. But well he's completely moved on, and you said it yourself, he is happy with his new girlfriend, if you really love him and care about him, then you'd want what is best for him, and what makes him happy. Maybe right now isn't the best time for you two to be together, but well I'm sure if he truly loved you and cared about you, he still has his random moments of thinking about you as well. So really you can't do anything, because the more you try, the more he is going to break your heart by pushing you away. So well just keep going on with your life, live it the to the fulliest. I mean one guy shouldn't stop you from living out your life. Yeah you two were together for a pretty long time. Still kind of shocked that you two broke up. But well things happen, and people live. So well you can't get him to like you. So just stay friends with him, as much as you can. And well just move on, and wait and see what happens. Every day is a new day. So one of these days he may or may not break up with his new girlfriend. You never really know. If you really want him back, don't try so hard. Let whatever happens to happen. And just don't lose hope.
2006-08-21 08:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, stop having sex with other people. Then try not to think long term about your lonliness or your ex, take it one day at a time. If you did what you did while you were broken up, then it's not something he has to forgive, you weren't together. He obviously doesn't have the same feelings for you anymore so you need to try and move on. Don't be a stalker and show up at his house to talk. Just try to be a bigger person and bow out. Use this time to bond with your girlfriends. Be done with guys for a while. They're nothing but trouble anyway. Good luck.
2006-08-21 08:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by designer_bunnie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OH YOU WON"T LIKE ME!
Okay back up sister!
You broke up. Story over! Move on. Suck it up, love is over.
Your bad actions and poor judgment about that relationship is over. He is gone, stop being a wimpy selfish little girl.
Would you put up with "this behavior" from one of your boyfriend or trusted friends? NO- you would not. Its a waste of time.
Actually based on the way you asked this question it is very clear you are selfish and have low self esteem.
PLEASE- be mad at me, get over him, forgive yourself and get on with life. Do not regret the choices, just make better ones now. Also, I hope that all that sex was protected. Herpes and Aids is most common in woman under 25. Open your mind before your knees next time. Just take 4 months to HEAL your heart and work on being a better person and LET him go and be happy that he is happy. If you really love him, you will.
2006-08-21 08:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good lord child! First stop having sex with people you don't even like. Second, I think the only reason you want your ex back is because he is with someone else and that makes you jealous. I think you need to just move on and take away what you can from this situation. 1. Don't cheat on your boyfriend and 2. Don't have sex with one of his friends, especially if you don't even like them. Take a break from dating all together and figure out what really makes you happy. You should leave your ex alone, he has made it clear that he does not want you and should respect that.
2006-08-21 08:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about your ex. Be happy that he's in a happy new relationship. That's a lesson to learn.
No getting along is just a simple excuse to break a relationship. Really know your reasons next time.
Knowing the problems and finding out if these can be solved can justify a break up. If problems can be solved, breaking up is not an option. If issues cannot be solved, there is nothing left to do but to break up. Relationships are sacred, contrary to how Hollywood couples treat relationships. Do not turn your relationship into a Hollywood romance.
Now that you are in a new relationship, try to keep it, unless you entered it with the wrong reasons.
Breakups just lead to heartaches and regrets.
2006-08-21 08:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by CALOi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, this is your typical case of Psych 101 - a person always wants what he or she cannot have. You just need to wash your hands of this guy, you are probably better off without him or you two wouldn't have broken up in the first place. Get a hobby, break up with his friend, and just be on your own for a while. Do some volunteer work, take some classes at a local university, stay busy and quit mooning over someone else's man.
2006-08-21 08:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by moveplease 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa! you are dating his friend?? That's such a big no no!! I think you got what you deserve, you broke up with him(for something you could have tried too fix, getting along can be talked about and worked out if you love the person that much) slept with other people in breaks(which mean he didn't mean that much to you to begin with and the ONLY reason why you want him back is because you saw him with Someone else! Leave him ALONE, he's happier without you! I think you have MAJOR problems, your seeing his friend but thinking about him during sex..hahahahahaha..OMG you need help!
2006-08-21 08:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start by keeping your legs closed. Obviously having sex with the men you meet (especially your ex's BEST FRIEND) is not working for you. What exactly do you think he should do while you slept with 3 other men while you guys were "on and off"? Do you actually expect him to take you back, love and trust you after he finds out you are dating his best friend???? Come on. I think you need to move on and maybe spend some quality time with yourself, get your morals together and then figure out how to be a better girlfriend by not CHEATING.
good luck.
2006-08-21 08:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by GoldenLocs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, I feel really sorry for you but you can't make a shattered mirror whole again so I suggest no matter how it hurts to see your former boyfriend happilly moving on, you should just learn to accept that and get on with your life too.Appearing needy and clingy won't make him take you back since those are negative auras you're sending and that makes you insecure and way too predictable in his vision.Learn to be strong and allow your new lover to glue all those frustrations in you.You are with him now so make the most out of that relationship so you get the respect of this new guy you're dating with.Piece by piece let the memory of you and your former love part away from your mind.Be happy for him and continue to love him even if it's not reciprocated anymore.You just have to let go and move on.Give your present the pleasure of loving the renewed you and you're in the right path.
" not all lovestory have happy endings so who knows your latest might just be the one that will make you happy...give it a chance. "
2006-08-21 08:47:49 · answer #11 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋