I went out with her 2 weeks ago. We had a nice dinner, good conversation. I got the signals (arm touching, eye contact, openess) We whatched a movie at my place. More good coversation, laughing. We had a good time. She called the next day to say thank you and we chatted for a while. I called her back one day later to ask when I could see her again. She said "I don't know. I really don't want to introduce anyone new to my daughter right now (she is 5) and I don't want to drop her off at my mom and dads eveytime I want to go out". So I said I understand. Since then she has not returned my calls (I've called about 4 times). I did get her on the phone last Saturday night and she blew me off cause she has somone on the other line (no call back either). Is she a lost cause? Should I just drop it? She really did confuse me and at my age I thought I new a thing or two!!
2006-08-21 08:18:39 · 28 answers · asked by woodybmi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, forget her. If she really wants to go out with you she will call you back. Don't chase after her. Plus, there is a child involved and sadly, that does complicate things.
This probably has NOTHING to do with you; this has to do with her own issues and could stem back to the ex or some weird issue with her dad that she has not dealt with or something.
Or who knows... you guys just are not meant to be.
Move on Dude! I don't know who old you but these kind of games are such a waste of time and you probably deserve better...
Good luck and hope you find that special person...
2006-08-21 08:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by yandrfan@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be wondering the same thing. Things seemed to go well, but now she's turned the other way. I will admit I have done the same thing. Had a great date, but then when he called a few days later, I had had time to think about it and realized that although I had a fun time, it just wasn't what I was looking for. I didn't tell him, and he kept calling.
It seems that she's in the same position, but she has a child as well. I would imagine that it's a completely different situation with a kid. But it sounds like she's not interested. If she calls you, great. If not, oh well. You will find someone better.
2006-08-21 08:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just concerned about how her daughter would feel about a new man in mommies life. I bet she is more concerned about her daughter being able to deal with you not being her father more than anything and she told you that she isn't ready for her daughter to be introduced to someone new at this point. It was wrong of her to connect with you like the 2 of you seem to have done and then just seem to drop it before it could even start. She may have felt that you were rushing her or being pushy. So, she is staying away from you. I'm not sure if its a lost cause but give her some space and if after a week or two she is still acting like this then she isn't interested in you enough for more than friends and you just have to accept that and move on. God bless you.
2006-08-21 08:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say to move on. Do you really want to be with someone that has that little respect for you. The least she could do is be honest. I have a small child too and it is hard to date but at the same time if she really liked you she would make an effort to find a way to see you. Her not returning you phone calls is a good sign that she is not interested for whatever the reason may be.
2006-08-21 08:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is blowing you off. Whenever children are involved, it is very tricky. I know. My BF has a daughter. You two had a good time, sounds like. But you have done everything in your power to get through to her. Look at it this way...You only went out once. Why are so trying so hard. Give up. Maybe she likes the attention. Just maybe once you stop calling she'll miss it and you and call you for once. But if you find out that's the case, don't bother, because it'll seem like she's into playing games.
2006-08-21 08:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by mandermar40103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry honey, that this kind of situation has happened to you, like other people said maybe she had somebody else in her life that she probably fought with and just wanted to go out to see if it was good to be with other people......? Or maybe your kindness scared her away? Don't know why girs are scared of the too nice men and end up with the mean guys? you know, but all females are not like this. or maybe she used you, be a strong person dont' call her, let her know if she does call you that you are doing bigger and better things and if she calls you to go out blow her off and come up with excuses not to take her out. Its kind of sad that she uses her daughter as the excuse(maybe i don't know)not to go out with you, and if she is a real true women she'd tell you look i don't want to go out with you then you would feel a lot better about the situation. have a great day :)
2006-08-21 08:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by that_girl11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then if you want to date, you will have to drop your child at your parents house. You are considered a cheapskate because you did not take her anywhere. She could have had the date at her house. At least for the first date, take the woman out. I think you can forget about this woman and move on to another. Maybe when you was on the date she was just trying to be nice but now she is clearly not interested.
2006-08-21 08:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you need to move on. I feel like she is shoppin around for a new guy .. so you probably not the only one she went out on a date with..of course she had to be nice and everything on a date.. since you are one of her candidate .. however, I don't think you make to the second round...You should feel lucky, I don't think you want to deal with single mom anyway... why do you want to pay for someone else mistake..good luck next time.
2006-08-21 08:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like to me that she already has someone in her life, and she is using her 5 year old daughter for an excuse. So if i were you i would just let her be and you go out and mingle with other women. Word to the wise, go get yourself a taurus woman, a cancer woman, and a aquarius woman. These are good women, i should know because i am a taurus woman and i treat my husband with dignity and respect.
2006-08-21 08:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by kintrell_olia_wright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are willing to be both with her and her daughter permanently and develope that kind of a relationship- I'd say move on. Perhaps she just wanted a night out (break from reality). Sorry.
2006-08-21 08:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Erin LaShell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋