I HAVE GONE OFF THE DEEP END!! I drove to my boyfriends house unaknownced at night, he lives a hour away.?

Question

I have never done this before cause I would never want him to drop by my house unaknownced. But I was feeling so neglected and insecure lately that I thought there had to be another chick. Even though he said it wasnt, that he has been tired and busy. When I get there his car is in the driveway I knock on the door no answer. So I turn the knob and the door was open so I walk in! I call his name and I walk in his bed room to bust him and there he was laying in the bed... ASLEEP! I felt like a fool. He was cool with me busting in on him. He woke up and said "hey baby" and pulled me down next to him on the bed and wrapped his arms around me. Does this mean hes not cheating or that I just didnt catch him? Why didnt he flip out with me stopping by his house late at night? I didnt know what to expect but I didnt expect him to be so calm cool and collected. Should I be looking deeper into the situation or just be happy my man is being faithful and drop my insecurities?

Answer 1

He is just burnt out. my girl lives an hour from me, with me working and being busy, i barely talk to her on the phone. Im with no other girl. All i do is work, then go to the gym and work out. Then when we talk at night, im exhausted, talk for 5 minutes, then im off the phone. I also know deep down he is frusturated about you living an hour apart. Im the same exact way, he fights that with himself everyday. If you want to talk in detail email me [e-mail]. He is not cheating!

Answer 2

Girl, I have been in your shoes. Doesn't it suck to feel like that? It's good tho, that he didn't freak on you - or shoot ya!! lol
I reckon you should just take it as it is - long distance relationships are hard to maintain & there will be times when ya'll don't talk as much. He probably is just tired from work & every day life. If it's possible, mix things up a little - don't wait just for Friday & Saturday to see him - see if you can go see him in the middle of the week, like a Tuesday or Wednesday - spend the night, maybe fix supper for ya'll or take him out to dinner - yeah, it's hard to get to work the next day but it's so worth it & will help your relationship a lot. Having to get up an hour earlier is worth it to wake up in his arms the next morning! Do what you can to keep the interest going. Long distance relationships CAN work, but it takes time, patience, energy. You can't just take it for granted because he isn't right there to see you! Good luck & try to calm your suspicions . . . jealousy is rough - on you & on the relationship.

Answer 3

Well, even if he isn't cheating, you're going to give him ammo if you keep that crap up! If he hasn't done anything to warrant such an act, leave him alone. You're going to ruin a perfectly good relationship with your insecurity. Now, if you do, however, suspect something fishy, then what you did is one of the best ways to find out. Kudos.

Answer 4

Well, just be happy you did not catch him doing anything. Tell him to keep the door lock. If the door was unlocked, he probably was expecting someone or maybe the someone was you.

Answer 5

i think you should be lucky he seemed ok with you just stopping by because you thought he was cheating. It might just be your insecurity, get over or lose him, now if you really feel like hes cheating dont stalk him, the clues will come

Answer 6

I say trust him, he wasn't angry with you stopping by, if he was cheating he would have been pissed. Just be happy he was glad to see you. Quit being so insecure he will sense it and it could ultimately cause problems.

Answer 7

if it was me and i was cheating on you and you came in, in the middle of the night but didn't catch me i would be pissed. if i was him and you came over in the middle of the night and jumped in bed with me i would be happy