He just started last week and cries everytime I have dropped him off. I asked his teacher if he cries all day she said no just for nap time. I am not sure if I should leave him there and have considered taking him out.
2006-08-21 08:03:50 · 13 answers · asked by YHop 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I vote for leaving him there, especially since his teacher is reporting that he is settling down. You might want to ask his teacher what he enjoys doing best at school, so you can talk that up while you are getting ready in the morning and driving to school. Also, my daughter's preschool always recommended that you make your good-byes as short and sweet as possible. Lingering and trying to help your child settle down, can actually make things worse and make the crying last longer. As soon as he realizes that his crying is not going to change your behavior, he stop and have fun at school. Hang in there!
2006-08-21 08:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by tarheel mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a preschool teacher (2-3) year olds for 20 years and a Mommy to 2 children. You just need to take a deep breath, relax, and just realize that the more upset you get the more upset he'll be. If he feels any kind of stress coming from you then he'll feed off of it. ALso make it fun...take a special toy to show all of his new friends.... let him pack special nap items...a fave blanket, book or sleepy time friend.
You have to ride the first couple monrths out...it will get better.
He just needs to know that you have faith in the people you leave him with and that you are happy he's there and tell him even when he's home how much fun daycare is...encourage him.
2006-08-21 10:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by kerry m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to leave your child at first. I had a hard time with mine. My oldest son started having seperation anxiety at 5 omnths. He didn't want anyone BUT MOMMY!! Not even his Daddy. I realized that this was a big problem and had to do something about it and I started leaving him with grandparents here and there for a couple of hours. He did cry for a few minutes after I left but by the time I was able to dig my cellphone out and call and check on him the tears were all dried up. I even started leaving him in the nursury at church and he cried a little but was quiet by the time I got to the sancuary. Trust your preschool....They will let you know if there is a problem. They will call you if he starts crying uncontollably. Preschool is to PREPARE YOU AND HIM for school and LIFE later on! You need to let him go or you will have a bigger problem in the future when it is time for him to start BIG BOY school! You don't have to drop him off and forget about him til pick up time...lots of preschools have a volunteer program so you can still be involved in his day. Good luck....the sooner the better!
2006-08-21 08:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by T G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a previous owner of a daycare center let me assure you that your child will adjust. Make sure he always sees you leave, never sneak out. If you say goodbye and come back after lunch(or whenever) then he will not lose that trust in you. The teacher may want to make a picture schedule for him, so that he can see how many more activities are left to do before mommy comes. Let him have a picture of you that he can look at while he's at school. When he naps there, make sure he has a favorite blanket or something soothing and comforting. from home. For more ideas contact me through Yahoo!answers. Good Luck
2006-08-21 08:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by xxxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to make Mommy feel guilty so she won't leave him there. Try talking to him when you pick him up. Get to know his special little friends. Ask him what he played with today, and look at whatever pictures and other things he did. Then the next morning at home, while you're preparing his breakfast, talk to him about his friends. Ask him questions about what games he'll be playing that day. Ask him about Kyle's new puppy, or Nicky's new sister. Then, when you drop him off, go into the playroom and say, "Oh, look. There's no one playing with the blocks yet. (Or on the tricycle or whatever). Maybe if you hurry and put your things away, you can play for a bit before your lessons!"
Get him involved intellectually with his day care as well as physically. Pretty soon, he'll realize that it's a pretty cool place to be, and will look forward to going every day. And there will be no signs of separation anxiety, because there won't be any.
2006-08-21 08:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having someone else drop him off to preschool. If he only cries when you drop him off, it could be that he is trying to guilt you into not taking him, or he can feel your anxiety about leaving him there. That was what a daycare instructor told me.
Btw, you should keep him in preschool. You and your child will be much better off in the long run.
2006-08-21 08:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by gtn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what we did was spend time with our daughter at the kindergarten. got to know the teacher and showed our appreciation and affection to her. spent some 3-4 hours there in the first day, a couple the next, 30 min the next and then some 5-10 minutes every day ever since. just to give her enough time to settle in, feel comfortable, engage in some play etc. that helps build trust that you don't want to leave her/him there etc.
even now we ask - can we leave - and trust that she tells us when she's ready. she NEVER cried in kindergarten in 3 years... (she started at 1.5 )
a smile
ioana
2006-08-21 08:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by joelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the teacher who your son seems to "hang out" with most at preschool. Maybe you could invite that child and his parents over for a "play date" and lunch. Then when he goes to preschool, he'll have a close friend there with him. If you can, buy somethng similar to his favorite toy and let him bring it to preschool to share with the other kids. Plus this is the right age to be learning sharing skills.
2006-08-21 11:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine starts next week and I am terrified. But as far as yours goes...I say let him stay. If you cave in now, then when he has to begin kindergaten, he will think that if he cries long enough, you'll take him out of that, too. I know it's gut wrenching & heart breaking, but he will adjust. Just keep yourself calm while he is freaking out. Your calmness will reassure him, whereas if you wig out-he will too.
And a week from now when my girl starts, I'll try to do the same!
2006-08-21 11:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him there. i he must cry when u leave because he isnt with you so he feels alone but then it goes away with the kids. and he probably cries cuz he doesnt want to nap or something. if u leave him there it will get him used to school and hell stop cryin
2006-08-21 08:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Beca <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋