I have a new friend that has this habit, I've caught her in a few of her lies, but was embarrased to tell her anything, she lied about her background and her education, but I realized she lies to some people only, but with me she is very candid and honest.Should I trust someone like that or avoid her?
2006-08-21 07:54:33 · 24 answers · asked by deedeeinatl1 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would say that if she shares honesty with you then you must be spacial to her, maybe she's just worried of what others may think of her. I don't think you have anything to worry about although just keep a little warning flag up for a while to be sure. If she's so worried about what others think I would just respect her decision and be a good friend when they find out the truth.
2006-08-21 08:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Angel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try asking her "Why did you tell him you have a degree when you really don't?" Do it right away after it's been done, not like a week later b/c then she is going to think you've been thinking about it all along and stewing on it and stuff. Just ask right away and figure it out. If you don't mind her behavior you can still be friends with her. I have a friend that lies a lot. She doesn't lie to me, but once in awhile she does exaggerate things. I call her on it now, but I didn't use to. In the end she's been a great friend to me and have been there during rough times and inside she has a great heart. Other people ask me why I tolerate her. I always seem to get along with people that others don't like. I guess I like the underdog. The way I look at it, is that I don't want to judge her and say she is doing something wrong and expect her to be perfectly honest all the time. Who is honest all the time?
If all my friends judged me on my faults i probably wouldn't have any friends? It's easy to look at someone's bad points, but it's harder to love them and keep them and more rewarding. A friendship that cost nothing, accomplishes nothing. Maybe she really needs a good honest friend like you who cares about her.
2006-08-21 08:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by chimpstarweasel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those people basically just need self reassurance. I have a friend like that. I have in recent years put some distance between our friendship because his behavior was getting to the point of rudeness and I didn't want to be around that. If you have to ask if you should trust her, I think you already have doubts in your head that you must be a little more cautious around this person. ********* leads to downfall and will eventually lead to isolation. Good luck
2006-08-21 09:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by betafish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people that think they are better than anyone else have watched too much television throughout their life and always followed the fashion trends, etc. Unfortunately, TV makes a lot of people believe what is beautiful and what isn't. That's my two cents.
As for your friend, I'm not sure. If she is honest with you, she is a true friend. As for what she says to other people, she may lie because she thinks she is a "worthless" person unless she tells them "what they want to hear" or what she thinks will make them her friends. Maybe she is very insecure.
2006-08-21 08:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you and what you are comfortable with, if you don't mind being around a liar then so be it. You know deep down what is best for you.
People who think they are better than others? Just remember, we are all a handfull of dirt and some water mixed together and we all end up as a pile of bones and dirt in the end, no matter how beautiful, smart, rich, etc.
2006-08-21 08:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is probably a reason she lies. Perhaps she has low self esteem, or thinks that you will judge her if you know the truth. You should let her know that she can trust you with anything, that your her friend because of the kind of person she is, not what she has done or where she is from.
2006-08-21 08:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Nik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ignore them unless they are receptive to honest discussion.
I have an aunt who has a lesbian daughter. The aunt is deeply ashamed and humiliated, but continues to pretend that she is high and mighty.
Meanwhile, I was locked up for 30 days. I am not ashamed and I know who my true friends are vs. people who pretend. I can pretend just as well as anyone, but I try to be kind and respectful.
2006-08-21 08:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid her - how do you know shes not lying to you?
its a sign of insecurity and these people feel the need to make up big elaborate stories as they are not comfortable in their own skin. it doesnt make them a bad person just amkes them feel better for a while but ultimately when they get found out they turn on the one who found them out or try and conceal their embarrassment/lies with more lies
better off out of it.......
2006-08-21 08:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by clairejoolz78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her. She's also telling lies about you - to make her look better
2006-08-21 08:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ken J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she lies to other people, she is afraid of what they will think of her. Talk to her, ask her why she's afraid of what other people will think. She may deny it, but at least she'll know that you are concerned about her behavior. I feel sorry for people who lie, they worry about what other people think instead of being honest.
2006-08-21 08:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋