how do u make friends if u think you're dull, ugly & boring?

Question

and find it difficult to start and carry on a conversation?

Answer 1

First you need to stop thinking of yourself as dull, ugly and boring. If a person thinks of themself in such a negative way then that's how they usually come across. It sounds like you really need to work on your self confidence and self esteem. You have to start looking at yourself as a person with positive things to offer and as someone who's likeable and interesting. Once you begin to look at yourself that way and build on your positive traits then things will change for you.

I came across this really good e-book that's called "Building Self Esteem; A Self Help Guide" and it gives some straight forward and useful information.
When you go to the page just scroll down for the table of contents.

http://www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/SMA-3715/default.asp

As far as conversation, ask people about themselves...everyone loves to talk about themselves. Ask about their work, their school, their family, pets, etc. Also, keep up with things that are going on in the world such as news events, trends, celebraties, etc. and this way you'll have topics to bring up in the conversation.

I wish you all the best, take care.

Answer 2

Is that what you think about yourself?! You poor thing. You HAVE to be more positive and eventually you will see the beauty in you. Who says your dull, ugly and boring? Is it your self-image or something someone has said to you? I used to be very shy, overweight and unconfident and one day I just looked in the mirror and thought "hey, if you don't do anything about this now, you will be like this for the rest of your life". So I joined an aerobics class, made some friends, lost 6 stone and totally overhauled my life. I'm 30 now and am totally different to the way I was as a teenager and you can do that do. Only you can change your life - no-one else. I'm sure you're not any of those things, it's just that you're lacking in self-confidence. I am very confident in many ways but in some ways I still find it difficult to start a conversation so you're not alone. That may be something you will have to accept about yourself. It's just your character. Just take one step at a time and try to change things little by little. Don't think you can change everything overnight - but do say to yourself that you WILL change.

Answer 3

Practice makes perfect. Don't be scared of people. Who cares. It doesn't matter if they think badly of you if your being yourself. Which I doubt is dull ugly and boring.

How about: Join a school club/team. Join a community center. Find an activity you like and go there and be open to other people.

Talk to people, anybody, whoever. You don't have to say much. Just be like, "Hey, my name is _____". Then get their name. That's all you have to say. Then the next time you see them, if you remember their name that's pretty damn impressive. Meet more people, try to remember their names. Until you know a whole bunch of people by name. You may not know much about them, but every time you see them you can say hello. Eventually something will come out of it. If you have nothing to say, you can.... listen to other people. I myself am a talkative person when I want to be. I love finding people who will listen to me. Then I have other friends who I enjoy listening to.

If your in school....honestly...you're not allowed to ask this question. You go to the same building everyday with like 1,000 or more kids. I wish I was in school again. Schools easy. If you're not in school, get a job. Get a mall job, or a job in the city. Where people hang out. Greet people as you go to work and at work. I used to just wander the streets and meet people all the time. I met all kinds of crazy people. Of course.....I was a pothead. Don't be that.

Feel better? Or do you really just want to hear: You're not dull ugly and boring, your beautiful and wonderful! Well, I don't know you. Take a shower, wash your face, brush your teeth, make sure you smell good, buy some clothes you like, write down a list of things that interest you or you might like to try, and lighten up.

Answer 4

Confidence is all you need. A few friends who can understand you and help you will make a difference. These friends can then introduce you to there circle of friends.
You can always meet people who have the same interests as you, all you need to do is turn up to places that you in-joy such as a part time computer course. cooking class, yoga class, what ever you like do it..... you cant be that boring.
I say have a make over this will gain you loads of confidence, if the pic is true to how you look, then get contact lenses, go to your local stylist and get your hair made different, let the stylist do there thing.
You can go clothes shopping and ask the staff in the shop for there advice or shop on line or get magazine's with fashion tip's. depending on your age you will become the person you love if you let your self shine.
I felt just like you, I found friend's (not exactly great friend's) but they gave me that confidence and from there I became the person I am today.............I still don't have any real friends, just acquaintances but I have a lovely hand sum boyfriend and a great family and I am happy, that's all that matter's.
this is Lois am on my mother's profile. if you look on her 360 page you will find me get in touch x

Answer 5

If you think that you are dull, don't let people know. Being negative about yourself is the most off putting thing for potential friends. If you think you are boring, find something interesting or wild to do. It is most likely that other people you talk to find themselves boring. Last, don't be stupid in thinking that you are ugly. Even if you have cosmetics flaws, real friends would value you as a person, not whats on the surface.

Answer 6

no one is ugly, some of the most beautiful people, are vain, shallow, or just plain rank, and overbearing, so do not put yourself down, you are beautiful you are unique you have interests, that you enjoy, and just because other people cannot understand what you enjoy, does not make you dull, myself i enjoy tuning in crystals, and healing people with them and teaching others to do it, you could call doing this dull but it pleases me,that is good enough, to start a conversation all you have to do is talk to someone, start off with something, that is topical, read a news paper and chose a topic that you know a little about, travel, latest crazes, it can be anything, if you like the look of someone, compliment them on their, look, style, hair style, just pluck up the courage to say something sensible, i know sometimes when you see someone that attracts you, your words stumble, just keep going, go to places where your age group of people go if it helps, get some modern clothes, this can boost your, self esteem, but do not give up, if you start talking to someone you like the look of, talk to them, if you choose a dance/ club/ pub karaoke/ or where ever, if the first one does not want to know you be persistent ask someone else, remember, you are beautiful, and as good as anyone else.

Answer 7

assertiveness training and public speaking courses can help on the mechanical problems (difficulty making conversation, and the like). know that lots of ugly people (though i'm not saying you're ugly - it must be admitted that some are, though, leaving aside the eye of the beholder, and all) have perfectly wondrous social lives (perhaps you have money? this never hurts.). boring people, too, but i can't stand up for that, really. likely, however, you're just putting yourself down (or someone else is; if so, get rid of them, even if they're only in your head). they say repeating, every morning, "every day, in every way, i'm getting better and better", works, and why not? simply forcing yourself to smile and laugh (don't overdo it, though. you want neither to appear mad nor strain your muscles) helps, the psychs say. and, if you're ugly, but not fat, a bit of skin goes a long way (but choose your partners wisely, and be safe). cheers!

Answer 8

Well, the first thing I would recommend is an attitude adjustment. Thinking you're dull, ugly and boring isn't really going to make people flock to you. You may want to work on your self-confidence. If you can become more confident, you will find it easier to meet people and make conversation. I recommend these hypnosis CD's: http://www.tomnicoli.com/confidence.shtml
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Answer 9

Sometimes you not on your own... because I can also be like that sometimes on a conversation level!!!!!

I am sure someone out there thinks dull, ugly or boring.... but quite frankly I dont care... and you shouldnt too.

All you can do in life is be yourself.... and you have a friend here..

Take care

Answer 10

Why do you think that you are dull, ugly, and boring? I think you just haven't found people that you have anything in common with. What do you like to do? The trick is to find people that are like you. If you are a "bookworm" and you're surrounded by "cheerleaders" , you're not going to have much in common, and they probably aren't going to want to discuss books with you. Then you need to find someone who will, instead of trying to fit in with the crowd. Write to me, we'll talk more.