is to go on a weekend on a engaged encounter, that's where you go with your fiance to spend the weekend
has anyone done this and what's it like
2006-08-21 07:45:56 · 12 answers · asked by darrenfanelli 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i am getting married Oct 07. i am catholic and am most likely going to have to do the same thing. they give pre-cana classes during the week but since i live in one state and am getting married in another (husband is in the army we r getting married in my hometown) we cant do the week classes only the weekend. I'm interested in seeing what other people are saying about it.
FYI people are saying isn't a weekend trip going to lead to sex.........YOU DO NOT SLEEP IN THE SAME ROOM WITH YOUR FIANCE.
2006-08-21 09:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I haven't gone on it myself, but people who have have come back with positive stories. It's going to be like a weekend couples retreat. There will be activities and journalling. The structure will probably be such that they will pose "big" questions to you and either have you two think/write about the seperately and then come back together to compare answers or just talk about it right on the spot. You'll probably get a dose of official Catholic teaching on stuff, depending on the facilitator.
Go into it with an open mind and enjoy! It'll be a good chance for the two of you to spend some time together.
PS - the couples don't actually SHARE a room on these weekends. There are either seperate rooms for each person, "girls" and "guys" bunks (if it's out in the forest or something), or the couples actually go home at the end of the evening and come back the next morning. hehehehe, don't worry, believe me, the Catholic Church does NOT want them having sex. (Never mind that the couples have all been there done that already!)
2006-08-21 07:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did a class like this when I got married, although it wasn''t a retreat, or at a camp, or anything. We went to the church and sat in sessions all day long.
Basically, the idea is to bring up issues between you and your fiancee that you need to talk about and understand before you get married. The topics are religion, finance, kids, jobs, division of chores, relatives, sex, and more. The church wants to cut down on the # of divorces, so this helps you work out these issues ahead of time. They also want you to know the church's official position on these topics, so that (from their point of view) you can hopefully become a good catholic. If you can't come to an agreement with your spouse on these, maybe it's time to postpone the wedding, and think about this marriage a bit more.
Except for the religious part, I think it's a good idea. You'll learn something about your spouse, and you'll have to do a little planning and thinking about what marriage and married life is about.
2006-08-21 08:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my experience it was a fantastic weekend.
We learnt so much and many things we didn't think of came up. they even go over simple things like who do you think should be in charge of setting the alarm, taking out the garbage, making dinner etc.
They went over dealing with in-laws, finances and starting a family.
I really enjoyed ours. It was fantastic. The finance people were a little lame, but other then that it was good. And everything is done b/w you and your fiance not to the entire group.
A very rewarding weekend, I recommend it to everyone.
Enjoy and God Bless you both in you life together.
2006-08-21 07:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by WWJD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it precana? Most catholic churches make you take a precana class before getting married - sounds like yours may be a weekend of precana? If it is precana - it's a bunch of marriage counseling and how to have a good catholic marriage.
2006-08-21 08:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Weasel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I did this when we were engaged. Ours was not a good experience. Some of the speakers didn't show up, and one guy ended up running the whole weekend. But it definetely had potential to be a good weekend, and it's really nothing to worry about.
2006-08-21 09:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is usually like a day camp as far as I know, and they just try to prepare you for marriage, and teach you about the church's view of marriage, etc.
2006-08-21 09:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're nervous about spending a weekend with your fiance???
2006-08-21 07:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by designer_bunnie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no but i had to go to a engaged class at our church and it was really fun and we learned alot about each other and other engaged couples, go...i bet you'll have fun.
2006-08-21 07:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this seems odd to me, that a churhc would want u spending a whole weekend together??? that could lead to sex... like is that what they do spy on u and if u have sex ur out and cant get married there or what? thats creepy!
2006-08-21 07:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋