Every time my husband will correct our daughter she will cry. But if i correct her she doesn't. I don't understand why she is doing it. And if I leave her in the room with my husband she will start to cry but as soon as she sees me she will stop. But if my husband leaves the room she doesn't do anything. Can anyone give me some idea on what could be wrong.
2006-08-21 07:30:11 · 9 answers · asked by shellz1616 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My daughter is a little over a year old and yes he is her father
2006-08-21 07:48:45 · update #1
My daughter was the same way. When she was born my husband was a stay at home father and I worked, she cried for him all day. As she got a little older, it would terrify her when he would correct her, but when I did it, she just did what I told her. She would always cry when I left her anywhere, but she couldn't have cared less when he left. For the most part it's over with. The reason was that they just never bonded. Some people just don't bond with their children right away, sounds strange, but it's true, I'm not very well bonded with our son, but my husband is. Unfortunately, this lack of bonding in our case turned out to be because he didn't much care for our daughter and has since left us without a second thought... I'm going to assume that you have a relatively healthy houshold and say that it will probably pass. However, if there are details you're leaving out and you're in a situation like I was, I'll say not to worry about it because you don't want her to get attatched to him anyways.
2006-08-21 15:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by faeglenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter? Is your husband her father? Try to evaluate what is going on. A lot would depend on her age. Young children usually want their mothers, so it is understandable why she would cry after you. Maybe your husband is a little too harsh when he corrects her and it scares her. Stand back and take a look, and try to see the way things are to her. God Bless
2006-08-21 07:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How harsh is he with her? Does he understand age-appropriate correction, and stages of brain development? Does he correct her physically or just verbally? Are most of his interactions with her loving or punitive?
Does he get angry at the baby?
If he spends more time with the "No's" than he does playing with her or lovingly taking care of her, that's your answer right there. The fact that she cries at being alone with him would worry the heck out of me, so much so that I probably wouldn't leave her alone with him 'til I knew why and he started making some consistent changes.
2006-08-21 08:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't want to put any thing bad into you and your relationship, but could your husband be abusing or teasing your daughter in some way?! sexually? Mentally? Verbally? Physically? think about it and kinda sneak in on both of them when they are alone together...see what his reactions are....or ask him. Maybe she just really knows that you are her favorite person. But even my fiance says it sounds like a sexual abuse...and she's scared of him. OR maybe he just scares her...maybe he's REALLY UPTIGHT or taking the correcting a little TOO FAR! Look into it seriously, because it can cause problems later...trust me.
2006-08-23 16:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by missbehave252002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter was the same way when she was younger. Shes 2 now and shes not like that. She listens to her dad and won't listen to me. But she doesn't cry w/ him anymore. Its probably just a stage.
2006-08-21 07:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by tgrider1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell what's wrong when we don't know how old she is. If she's school aged, she might just be acting up for attention. If she's under school aged, you might want to ask your husband about it because she might be afraid of him or something like that.
2006-08-21 07:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats normal my daughter too when the papa will shouting to her if she make something like shouting crying without reason she cry loud.but when i say something she cry but then few minutes no more like nothing happen.they are so like mamas girl u know what i mean.
2006-08-21 07:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by cute sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter does that. for me she assocaites me with being serious because i am around her the most. my husband she assocaiates with play. that might be what your daughter is doing especially if she is around you more than her daddy.
2006-08-22 06:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by mymaverick1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look in here:
http://www.howtobehave.com/manage.html
http://cyberparent.com/esteem/discipline.htm
2006-08-21 18:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋