Why is giving someone your virginity seen as a nice thing when its not?
Sleeping with a virgin would not be a pleasant experience at all...
They would be tense and feeling bad or dirty as its something they consider sinful or dirty has heads been filled with relgious crap and feeling guiltier if its fun.
More likly they will be bleeding, all tense as worried, so it will be painful for them, pretty much no chance of an orgasim.
The guy if nice won't be having a good time as he will be feeling he is hurting her and all tense about it to...
No clue about foreplay or anything,,,
Infact most foreplay would be considered bad too so come again why is it good?
Not to mention the fact exactly how long are you to wait till you find mr or mrs perfect without getting into sexaul realationships first to define that you are not buddies dating someone else?
ALL POSTS MUST HAVE AA ACTUAL FIGURE IE 16, 18, 21, 25, 35 (IE AFTER PEEK FERTILITY IN FEMELAES)45 AFTER MENOPAUSE ETC?
2006-08-21 07:29:54 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As opposed to get it out of the way... use condoms so no pregnacies and stds and do all the do it in a car, tent spin the bottle etc young stuff? So when you meet Mr or mrs perfect you are a good kisser.
You got the icky stuff out of the way asap so you get to the good stuff... and say age 15-35 you get a good innings and lots of adventures even if with the same person.
As opposed to one bonk on the wedding night to produce a kid then you find you need ivf as waited to long, and and old fart
2006-08-21 07:30:52 · update #1
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Man there are some dumb folk here...
Fact is when you loose virginity it tends to hurt the girl, plus bleeding...
this does not a good love making session make...
Plus most likly she would not have a clue on foreplay.
And If Im stupid explain what waiting till you are 40 to loose it (yes I have lost it and in 30s now so not a kid).
Ive been with someone who was far more relaxed about sex and she was far better to be with and more warm and all the rest of it.
The virgin was all tense and early poster a rapist gets off on hurting others I dont. Thats the point moron.
2006-08-21 11:22:01 · update #2
Curious... Ive been though uni
2006-08-21 11:24:10 · update #3
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Sex was not made for marriage look at human biology. If it was about procreation we would have a mating season with one baby per shag.
Humans don't they seek sex when not for procration for socail reasons and th bond... In other workds in most cases if sex does not come first there will be no marraige as the relationship will not get that far.
2006-08-21 11:26:58 · update #4
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I see this question must be an intelligence teast as most of the posters are clearly stupid as dont get it and can't manage more then a one line answer...
So explain why a few can? they must have brains? unlike most here
And some knowledge of biology
2006-08-21 11:29:41 · update #5
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Whats good about marriage? you dont make out anymore all the domestic violence, divorce, courts for how gets what ? why bother?
2006-08-21 11:40:35 · update #6
Amybe this is seen as apstract and feeling sby some ... What I remeber is she was tense,a nd thats not good and biologically it would hurt and be bloody so saying that would not be the best experience...
Would want some one thinking oh baby pump me harder not oww ouch be gentiale wait ok try ouch etc
2006-08-29 06:17:22 · update #7
Okay. I guess I'm a bit fuzzy on your question as your rant went on and on with no real definitive question aimed at a specific person or group or... ...even a definitive question, but here it goes.
As one of thoes rare phenominons I happened to be a virgin when I met my now husband. I veiw sex a natural part of love and life. As a mater of fact I waited for the man I knew I wanted to marry and gave myself to him.
I am aware that most virginal encounters there is a slight discomfort for the girl but many (thoes blessed ones who can) do experiance a climax of sorts. There is some bleeding, for most it's just a slight pink discharge as membranes and tisues are disrupted for the first time. It has caused some girls to start their perod which can be embarassing for both. It is a natural cousre in life as every girl is acctually a virgin untill she's had sex, so some guy will have to do the honors and it might as well be the one she intends to spend the rest of her life with or at least someone she loves, don't you agree? If not then I guess you'll just have to settle for every whore who has the experiance you're looking for and let other guys feel the emotonal bond and firm tight embrace of a virgin.
2006-08-21 07:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For some reason this question has been down thumbed, I actually think it is reasonable, but almost belongs in the society and culture section, however this is a small quibble. Whats more, since it has a little depth and requests more than a line, here goes and please bear with it (no pun intended):
Yes in some circles it is seen as heroic, macho, an affirmation that one is desirable. There is the peer pressure, that encourages the average secondary school kid to get with the first member of the opposite sex and do the dance that species have been doing since the dawn of time.
To argue the other stance, No, it can be a good, deepful and heartfelt guesture for one to show someone how much trust there is for them to be the first. That they know they will not be too embarrassed and/or ashamed.
With respect to "not a pleasent experience at all...", well an ex of mine was a virgin and as I was considerate enough to let her set the pace of our physical relationship and checked she was sure, she wasn't too tense when she wanted to commit. I was just very patient, although very nevour that I was hurting her. Afterwards she smiled dreamily and said in a hushed tone "thaank yoou".
No clue about foreplay... I totally disagree with this, yes some acts would be scarry like cunalingus! Though even cuddles, caressing (flanks or necks for a humble change) and kissing can be good enough after half an hour to set up a good evening.
As for bleeding, yes this can be upsetting while having sex (but enough for fringe week activities). I can only imagine what a girl would think if she was torn apart and bled profusely rather than a tender touch. Regarding orgasm and/or a female ejaculation, firstly as a side issue it is possible for some women to have either or both without penetration, but merely the "little person in a rowing boat".
To view the perspective of not giving a unique gift as soon as someone asks for it, I say "fair play to them, wait till they feel it is the right person and/or time".That way at least it will not be degrading, but start to a new school of learning.
Lastly, it's not that it -probably a limited effect missionary if she's a virgin or him lying back feeling helplessly inept if it's his innitiation- has to be bad. Just that it will get better, also much more varried and acrobatic!
2006-08-27 07:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male post don't sleep with 70 for a lifetime coz after sleepin wid dem they're longer virgins.......hahhaha. Honestly there is not reward to people who take innocent lives.
37-first time I did it -it hurt like hell, was sore and couldn't walk properly for days and had to skip school becoz fo it I was 17 at the time and later married the guy that took my virginity. I know what to do, read books, watched movies etc. so I wasn't totally naive to the fact. Just never expected it to be so painful.
Giving ur virginity to someone is the best gift u could give them, other than bearing them a child. In some caribbean countiries givin ur *** is the same thing. If u have anal sex with a guy, its a sign of love and affection. GUess it's becoz u know the pain u endure doin it, the person have to be special for u to accept all that pain. Some guys get off on knowing they're hurtin the girl durign sex, so they're not tense at all, if ur a girl and into that then u don't mind coz u want ur partner satified.
2006-08-28 06:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 70 virgins would'nt be virgins for long.
Hahahaha, that's u to you, nobody can tell you when it is right for you, except you. If it does'nt feel right, don't do it.
There's too much acceptance of sleeping around, it has to be right for you.
As for giving your virginity, that all depends on how gentle and experienced the male is......foreplay.
Who bloody says women at 45 have a menopause...complete utter rubbish, I'm still waiting for mine to happen, does'nt seem to want to arrive, still as fertile as I always was, but would it really be right to have a child when over 50. I'd be in my 70's when it was 20.
2006-08-28 12:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Havent got a clue mate but thank you for showing me there are still a few good men out there. I hope i find one of them some day as i lost virginity at 12 and now im 20 and have 3 adorable children but im not a slag before anybody starts judging me
2006-08-28 22:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by sawsy20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is all bullshit. Everyone keeps telling you mix messages when you are growing up, the parents (some of them) might tell you to save yourself for marriage or for the right person; some of your friends also tell you to save yourself; others and TV tells you to get rid of your virginity as soon as possible like it was some sort of cancer.
At the end of the day, most probably you will be dissapointed and would feel dirty due to all the mix messages you recieved.
It is all well oversimated, virginity I mean.
Who gives a ****, you should be able to loose or to keep as you feel fit; not have to go along with one of the different flows of pushers.
2006-08-27 03:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by Insomnia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, #1: First time sexual experiences are not the same for everyone. Just because one person might experience blood and pain her first time doesn't mean it'll happen for another person. #2: If you're with the right person, then it'll be awesome. DESPITE the detail that you've just listed above. I can't think of a better gift to give someone whom you truly love, and who loves you, then your virginity. And#3: If you don't want to have to deal with sleeping with a virgin, then don't! Go find someone out there who has more experience.
2006-08-21 07:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all you question does not make very much sense. secondly, you sound as if you are mentally impaired. thirdly, sex was intended for those that are married and in love. if those conditions are met, then the experience will and should not be negative and/or painful because both parties will have grown to know each other and willing to take their time and experience the joy of the special event.
2006-08-21 07:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by curious1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing one's virginity isn't painful or messy for all girls...and many guys think it's kewl to be the first to have sex with a female...depends on one's point of view...
For some women sex has an amount of discomfort always...for some it never does...
We're wired to want to have sex (in general) and everyone has to have a first partner...sex is pleasurable for humans, so unlike most animals, we have it for reasons other than just procreation...some of us NEVER have it for that reason...
2006-08-21 07:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop whingeing and whineing dude ?..and enjoy life !..life too cushdie ! take some Laxsatives,it*ll help take aload off that worried messed up brain of yours !
theres alot of messed up peeps but gee man you take the golden crown ! S-O-R-T EEEET OWT ! get a life or get a wife !
2006-08-27 20:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by ralphthemouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋