I will add my piece as well. I was molested as a child by a step-father and I was later raped by my uncle by marriage. I have forgiven those who harmed me. This is personal and I will understand if you do not wish to share.
Peace Be With You,
Debra
2006-08-21 07:27:01 · 7 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No you are right, forgiveness does not mean staying and continuing to be abused.
2006-08-21 07:45:47 · update #1
I have been through many different kinds of abuse in my time, some instances too painful and brutal to mention here, mainly because I grew up with what I considered (and still do consider) to be the most dysfunctional family in the world.
Even though that seems like an exaggeration, the only way anyone would agree with me or even believe me is if they lived in my house with me during that time.
I won't get into all of the emotional and frightening details of my family and the effect they have had on me over the years, but will only say that I try hard to forgive them, but how can we ever really know when we have truly forgiven someone?
Is it when they are out of sight and mind and no longer hurting us, when we force ourselves to think we have forgiven them, or when they are about to die and we just can't hate them anymore?
I don't know, but I'm still learning, and I'll keep learning as long as I am stillstanding.
2006-08-24 11:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by STILL standing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... I don't know about the worst, because "worst" is a subjective word. I've been through a lot of BS... but I'd probably say that being physically and emotionally abused (you cannot have physical abuse without emotional abuse) by my ex would be what I consider to be the worst, because it truly changed the way I relate to people.
I am still dealing with the effects of PTSD from that experience three years later. I still have a hard time trusting people and getting close to people. Especially in romantic/dating situations... I have a hard time trusting someone with my heart more than with physical safety, though, surprisingly enough... but I do occasionally get scared when I see a man get angry, or even just irritated.
Have I forgiven him? I forgive him all the time. What I mean by that is that the situation is so complex... I think of things to forgive him for as I go along. But in general, yeah... I understand him, and I hope that he overcomes his problems for his own sake and for the sake of his son. I'd like to discover one day that he became a functional human being and a happy one.
2006-08-23 03:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Snark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a very cruel person at times. He has cheated on me and he has hit me many times. If I said I had forgiven him I would be lying. I try to put it behind me but until he shows that he wont do it again I cant find it in myself to actually forgive him. I just dont see the point in forgiving the same sin over and over again.
2006-08-21 14:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually abused by my brother from the time I was 8 till I was 20. to me forgiveness was setting me free. To this day he says he never touched me but to me it's ok. God knows and that's all that matters. My brother and I aren't close I would never trust him or be alone with him but I pray for him and can honestly say I love him today let me tell u that took the Lord.
2006-08-21 15:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by sshhorty2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes , forgiven ... if I heard harm came to the person I would grieve ... If I heard they thrived and are in peace , I would be glad ...
I'm keeping the "sin" private ...
2006-08-21 14:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by gmonkai 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say, the one I wrote to you in the last QUESTION of yours..... to where I done nines months in Jail, I was set up by a girlfriend, I save her life, for days later I went to jail, XMAS eve..... when I got there THE first thing I said was HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESUS. I learn a lot there, that even Our court systems are messed up, they don't care if your Innocent or guilty, as long as you agree to doing a program to where I notice don't work because they all come back, like children going to a friends house to hang out. The state, courts system are corrupted and prison system, cause they get lot more money for you from the state to put you on the outside on programs, that don't work and you have to give up rights,this way they don't have to care for you in Jail, and they get more for you... so the jail system is making money taking avandage of innocent people that shouldn't be there suffering, agreeing to things that they didn't do. Twice when I when to court, they try to give me a program, I said no, I am innocent for them to take me back to jail.... I guess I shock them, I knew I was going to be cleared of the charge, I had to be strong, God took the officers life that arrested me because He judge me before I went to court, by lieing and not writing down all I mention to Him, found out after his death in jail that the officer had a tape playing in the criuser that I not knew about till six months later when my lawyer mention it to me, I told her to listen to it that I was telling the truth. All charges were dropped. I went to Church there twice a week, and bible study, and was baptise.
I HOPE DEEP DOWN I forgave her, I talk to her, so I guess I have.... she's the mother of my son, that I have full custody of now. I had to fight to save my son too, from her and others.
2006-08-21 15:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by inteleyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that people should enjoy their sins.
2006-08-21 14:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jalena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋