he is always good to me but he really treats my kids like crap what would you do
2006-08-21 07:17:55 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I gather the children are not his.
If he truly loves you then he will love your children too, because they are a part of you. Consider that.
2006-08-21 07:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by JeffE 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he is the Father , it should be easy, BUT sounds like he is not the Father. Then you need to see the Danger flag. Don't leave him alone with the kids. You don't say how many children or what if their a boy or a girl. I would not tolerate him, swearing, or laying one hand on them. Please do not let him abuse your innocent children. They are helpless and need a good Mothers protection. I don't know what it is about men who do not like another mans child. Over the years I have studied about this and a boyfriend usually picks on and will abuse the little boys. The girls are in danger too, but not as much as another mans son. Even with animals, many times the male will kill off the offsprings of another male. So be very leary. Use good judgement and be very observant. I would not tolerate any man even the Father of the children to treat my kids, or any kids, like crap. The only reason he is good to you is -----. Too bad for the kids, as it is always the kids that suffer. Don't tolerate anyone mis-treating the Special Gifts from Heaven, that you brought into this world. Take care and may God bless you and the children , Always !
2006-08-21 13:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in that situation, I would get a divorce, I would never again even date--let alone marry--anyone who isn't downright angelic to my kids, and (optionally but preferably) I would read up even more on evolutionary psychology and sociobiology.
Else the kids are going to end up extremely, extremely messed up.
You had these kids, they are *your* responsibility, and if you choose to place them in the company of men, who are not even their father (you said "my" kids, not "our" kids), who treat them "like crap", that is *your* fault. Please take some responsibility.
No child should have to put up with strange men treating them like crap just because their mother likes male attention. It doesn't matter if the man is good to you, if he's not great to your kids. You are a mother now, you have minors counting on you, and that is what really matters. You, and only you, can save them from being treated "like crap" by this man, and from the psychological damage being treated "like crap" as children will do to them for the rest of their lives. Please help them.
2006-08-21 07:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's mistreating your children, he's disrespecting you in the worst way. Your children are a part of you and if he's hurting them, he's hurting you - no matter how good he's treating you. He needs to use that kindness and good behavior with all of you, or else he is not the right man for you.
Think about how his behavior will affect your kids in the long run. They deserve to have someone treat them as well as you're being treated.
2006-08-21 07:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids should come before your feelings always if he cant be good to your kids you should leave.
No man will ever treat my kids like crap and be able to walk again.
You need to put your childrens feelings first.
Do you enjoy seeing your kids hurt and belittled.
Your children will hate you for keeping them in a situation like that.
They could end up with some severe emotional issues.
2006-08-21 07:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not good to you if he can not be good to your kids. He doesn't love you if he doesn't love your kids. Children are an extention to you.
Men and women need to understand that if the other doesn't love the children then they DON"T LOVE YOU!!!!!!
He treats your kids like crap because in his heart he wants to treat you like crap, but you give him SEX!!!!!$$$$$!!!!!!and whatever else. So he is on his good behavior.......
2006-08-21 07:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nnnnnnneeeeeeeeeevvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrr let a man treat your kids bad.. blood is thicker than water..and there are plenty of fishes in the sea.. don't forget about that.. because at the end when your kids realize whats been going on they are going to turn on you because they would know that you could have done better for them..take care and good luck.. :)
2006-08-21 07:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are more important than anything in the world. I think children are a greater commitment than a husband, you can divorce a husband. Do it. Protect your children's wellbeing. If you can't be without him then move out and see him on the side but don't let him be around the kids. But trust me you can be without him. Leave him.
2006-08-21 07:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by siropson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what his problem is and get him to try a change. You can't throw your kids under the bus just because you are happy. If you really talk to him maybe he will change , if not you have to put those kids in a happy environment.
2006-08-21 07:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by messtograves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't fix him, take the kids and get out. If you can't stand leaving him, give the kids up and let someone take care of them in a safe and loving home.
2006-08-21 08:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's you and your kids or it's nothing. Children need the unconditional love of both parents. His behavior is very bad for your kids
2006-08-21 07:35:26 · answer #11 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋