Because I chose to stay at home with my youngest, we don't have a lot of extra money. I don't want to make an irresponsible or selfish choice or take away from my kids. I'm a college graduate and know I will eventually make money, and my husband just started a new higher paying job. If I wait any longer I'm afraid I won't be able to get pregnant. Am I too old and or totally out of my mind?
2006-08-21 07:15:14 · 11 answers · asked by mollydolly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think you are insane. You didn't mention how old you are. But I plan on having 5 kids and I'm a stay-at-home mom. I think in the long run it's not all about money, as long as your family has their needs met and you're all happy and there's love in the home.
2006-08-21 07:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not even though the masses may say yes, Me and my husband are trying to make a 5th and I can't wait. Every other woman I know think that I'm crazy and would rather work instead of being home with their kids let alone have another one.Believe it or not but the greatest achievement for me is not the highest paying job or highest level of education, but in fact taking part in inspiring another soul to be creative.
2006-08-21 14:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Musetta K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy for wanting another child so soon. You never know what might happen. My wife had to have a complete hystorcetomy (or however you spell it) at the age of 26 and we were so glad that we had already had our three girls.
Consider all the aspects of having a child (health, finacial, career, whatever) and talk it over with your husband.
But no, you're not insane for wanting another, you're a parent.
2006-08-21 14:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Muley Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't insane at all. You just enjoy being a mom. I have a 16 year old, an 8 year old and a 5 month old! I would love to have more if I were able. You are not too old. I am 38 and have a 5 month old. I am loving it!
2006-08-23 02:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!You should have more if u want! If you are in college-you will be able to provide a good life for another. Not only that but I believe that if u are wanting another then it is God's plan for you to have another. As a parent you will know what you can do to provide for your children. And you are on the right track by going to school!
2006-08-24 13:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a stay at home mom with one and another on the way.we get by just fine the 3 of us but with another coming money will be tight.i dont think your insane.if you have the love to give,are wiling to sacrafice things in your life,not ur kids but yours and u and your hubby are agreed on it there is absolutly nothing wrong with it...go for it And remember if we waited till we had money ,we wouldnt be having any kids.im sure you will make the right disicon.good luck!.
2006-08-21 16:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by lovedove662000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i grew up with 4 sisters and everyone feels left out and depressed, theres constant fighting when everyone is around and no one has grown up i think mainly because my parents never had enough time to deal with our individual needs. its alot of work and im sure we drove my parents insane, my parents are burnt out and it shows. and about the money factor yes we grew up broke and my dad made a decent salary, so you will be taking away and the other ones will show resentment toward the new baby when they have to divide what little you have even more.
2006-08-21 14:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by Steve Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're crazy. Been there, done that. My four are now between 17 and 26. I liked them better when they were small, I hate to say. We both really wanted that child. She was a handful - a beautiful handful. I couldn't imagine life without her now. If you don't have another, you'll always have that regret, so I'd have to say go for it, crazy or not.
2006-08-24 20:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by R. F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with your husband and the older children. Your not insane but maybe you are hiding behide the babies. If you just want to have another one so that you can continue to stay home don't!
2006-08-21 14:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. Its a choice you need to make together.
2006-08-21 14:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋