Is it okay to include a list of gift ideas for my child's birthday in with the invitation? He'll be five, and we always find people call for ideas, or get a cheesy gift. Not to be ungrateful, but I don't want to see people waste their money...
2006-08-21 07:13:56 · 22 answers · asked by kittykat 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2006-08-23 01:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not send a list of gift ideas, that seems a little presumptuous. Maybe create a theme for the party based on what your child is into (ex. dinosaurs or yu-gi-oh) which should give guests gift ideas.
What is so wrong with people calling for gift ideas? Do you just want the presents and do not want to deal with party guests? What is wrong with a cheesy gift as long as the guest made an effort? Or, what if it is all that the person could afford?
You definitely sound ungrateful and are probably setting a bad example for your son.
2006-08-21 07:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by cricket 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No. Listing ideas for gifts in the invitation is super rude.
But if someone actually asks for gift ideas, then you can let them know some ideas.
Teach your child that he is not OWED the perfect gift from people just because he has a birthday. Teach him to be happy and grateful for whatever he receives. He is old enough to start learning how to receive gifts politely.
2006-08-21 09:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is a little bit presumptuous to include gift ideas on an invitation. Consider instead a creative invitation which highlights your son's current interests and/or ambitions.
For example:
You're invited to a party for a 5-year-old budding artist's birthday.
Or:
Come and celebrate the 5th birthday of our future hockey star -- if he keeps up like this, he'll be captain of the (team name here).
That way, everyone is free to choose how much or little they will spend on a gift.
2006-08-21 07:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A list with the invitation does seem a little rude because it makes it seem like the gift is required to attend. Besides- if you send a list out your son might see it, especially if they are handing out the invitations in class. It would be better if you register somewhere, plus it gives the added benefit of showing *exactly* what your son wants. Some of those toys are so similar!!! Registering is actually pretty easy to do too. The store will give you a handheld thingy and you just go and zap the bar codes for the things you son likes. You will get to put in a few enriching & educational toys too. I really like it when people register myself- it makes gift buying so much easier :)
BTW-
I totally agree about the calling thing- sometimes is seems like when you have to call someone to get find out what they want they either can't talk because the recipient is in the room or it feels like you get something 'assigned' to you to buy.
2006-08-21 08:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by boanna 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i would not send the list with the invitation- this could easily offend people and i am sure that you will be on the gossip tree for much longer then you would want. besides birthdays aren't supposed to be about gifts it is a celebration of life. if you do send out lists then people feel obligated to follow what is on there and they may have had a better idea. you should definately wait for people to call or ask for ideas
2006-08-21 09:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by girlinlove 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not have a party without gifts? That would be better than asking for specific gifts. Now that, is tacky. There is no law that states that birthday children need gifts in a party.
2006-08-21 07:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it would be a bad idea to list 3 or 4 of his favorite characters or categories of toys. ie: spiderman, trucks, puzzles. if you want him to have a particular gift you should buy it yourself.
but i do think it is rude to suggest a particular gift. if people want to know they will ask, otherwise they will choose a gift from the heart that is special to them and you might be surprised that he may get some items you never thought he'd like and could really love them.
consider sending theme invitations or having a theme party. this could give a little hint to some guests as to some things that may interest him. i always try to buy a gift that fits a theme if the invitation makes it obvious (like a sports-themed or character-themed party).
also... consider putting his clothing and shoe sizes on the insert card. this can be helpful to many people.
2006-08-21 07:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by ŧťŠ4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Lists of gift ideas are rude. When one gets a gift for someone else they are supposed to get something they think the other person would like. If their gift is not well liked, that's what gift recipts are for.
2006-08-21 07:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by boukenger 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do that... then your kid is gonna think that it's just about the gifts.... and I personally wouldn't go to a kids party if his parents sent me a list of sh*t he wanted. He's five, he'll like pretty much anything he gets..... or should at least be greatful for it.
2006-08-21 07:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by BrownTown 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋