I know this is hypothetical. I actually did this though, so please indulge me. If I told a girl how good of a friend she is to people and used our friendship between us as an example showing specific times she has been a good friends. I also told her one time when we were alone that if it was not for her I would have never done some of the things that I have done as a result of her influence. I was trying to cheer her up, but I also am trying to win her over slowly. Did I make a mistake, or was it a good thing to say?
2006-08-21 07:11:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
win her over? as in, you want to date her? what does being a good friend have to do with wanting to date her?
say what you mean and mean what you say!
2006-08-21 07:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by needhelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a good thing to say. I don't think you made a mistake. I'm sure she appreciated the compliments. I am wondering, do you know why she was sad? Did this actually help to cheer her up, or did she seem to become more sad? The reason I ask these questions is because I would have gotten from that a reinforcement that you only wanted to be friends. You might want to try a more direct approach. Let her know what you want. She may feel the same way. If the direct approach doesn't work for you, you might try saying something like "I wish I had a girlfriend like you."
2006-08-21 14:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really is a wonderful friend then no harm/ no foul. I am sure that the fact she is such a wonderful friend and person has a lot do with why you would like to date her. Now you need to take the next step and tell her the rest of your feelings. Let her know that these are some of the reasons you would really like to date her. Good luck.
2006-08-21 14:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was probably a good move. She realizes that you value her friendship immensely, but at the same time, maybe she things you only think of her as a friend and that's it. Maybe you should tell her how you feel.
2006-08-21 14:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it was a mistake but i think you should just tell her staraight out how you feel instead of kinda beating around the bush. she most likely already knows your interested by what youve already told her . maybe shes just waiting for you to actually just come out and say it. put it this way the worst she can say is she doesnt feel the same but if you dont tell her then youll never find out
2006-08-21 14:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tanya G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to win her over tell her you have been such a good friend and are so caring that you are stealing my heart because you are also beautiful and ask her to give you a chance.
2006-08-21 14:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by starspangledgirl77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are people always dancing around what they really want to say if u are interested in her then tell her and don't give her that friend stuff cause she may think thats all u wnat her for is a friend be honest with her but most importantly be honest and true to yourself.
2006-08-21 14:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, i hope u watched "not another teen movie" because thats the cruel yet satisfieing truth. THE COOL GUY GETS THE GIRL, THE BEST FRIEND NEVER DOES... so yes, in a way it was a mistake. sorry
2006-08-21 14:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was the sweetest thing that was probably the best thing that u could of said u should continue with what u r doing slowly but surely
2006-08-21 14:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by spud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were being honest..thats a good thing.. girls like that.. if you want to go out with her then give her little hints..then if she responds to obvious little hints then take it to the next level.. if not then stop before you both get hurt and your friendship gets ruin.. good luck and take care :)
2006-08-21 14:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋