Where have all the decent girls gone?

Question

I've had problems with girls in the past, i dont have problems getting girls... but my problem lies in the type of girl i get. What i mean is, i would like to have a decent girl who wants to go to dinner and enjoy a good evening, not a someone who wants to go to a movie and make out the whole time and then spend the night at her house. Is it really so difficult to find one of these decent girls? On top of that, the girls that are that way, are always very shy... how do i try and make them feel comfortable around me? I am an outspoken guy, i enjoy drama, people tend to call me fit/buff/riped *i surf and do breakdancing/pop-lock*. So please help me out... its already bad that my image is of a person who only wants to bang and move along, but how do i show some1 i have a more sentsetive side?

the comment about how old i am, im 16, and im just asking this because i haven't been in the "game" since 2 years, thats because i wanted that damn "rep" to lower itself...

and to elaberate on this: i am also asking how to make a shy person feel comfortable around me... and i dont go after the sl*ts, some guys know what im talking about, you think a girl will be all fine and decent and then u find out all she wants is your body *aka, shallower then a puddle*

Answer 1

Keep, looking they are out there. Don't let your standards down and "settle" for someone. Your standards are very high and that is very admirable. Just have patience the right girl will show up sooner or later!

Answer 2

You're right, I'm one of those girls that do not like to make out on the first date, but I am shy. I think one of the reasons we're shy around guys is because we expect that most guys want a girl who is a little loose. I'm pretty sure that is also why some girls act like they're a little loose too. I'm sure most girls, even the girls that you attract, are decent when given the chance. Maybe you should be up front with a girl and tell them that you do want in a girl. As for the shy girls, I guess all I can tell you is that you have to be a little patience around them. For girls like us, it takes a little longer to feel comfortable around someone, that's why were shy in the first place. Most guys will usually quit trying once we're actually starting to feel a little comfortable with the guy.

Answer 3

First of all I think the fact that you call it a game...says a lot. Did you ever stop to think you are only 16 years old and the last thing you truly need to be thinking about is a heavy relationship.... to attract mature girls you have to project a mature image and honestly if you have a rep of bang and move on .. then I don't think you are projecting a mature image. Relationships and life isn't a game... you tend to attract the people that are attracted to the image you project.. so start projecting a different image... and maybe you will start attracting some different girls... good luck.

Answer 4

From the perspective of a shy girl...Just because we don't say much doesn't mean we don't feel comfortable around you, we just don't talk much. If you believe that the type of girl you are looking for is also shy, just be prepared to do most of the talking. As a few questions but not too many. Us shy girls don't really like to talk that much. Also, you are outgoing and silence for you may be uncomfortable. For us it isn't. We like the silence sometimes.
As far as showing your more sensitive side...that takes time and trust. Be patient.

Answer 5

I am the type of girl you are talking about--we aren't all shy. Sadly, our society has changed and people offer that kind of stuff because that's what everyone is telling us is the way we show love or attraction to someone and that is what keeps a guy interested. Here you are saying the opposite. And people tell me I will never have a boyfriend if I stick to my morals. HOW MESSED UP IS THAT!!!???

There are decent girls, but clearly you aren't in a place that you can meet them. (Try church? Or a nice book club.)

Answer 6

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Answer 7

the trick is to just be yourself, and be into them. find out what your looking for, a quiet girl? go to art openings, libraries, coffee houses. if you're not looking for a hook up, don't let it turn into that. if you like the girl, even if she's down, DON'T sleep with her on the first date, it'll really intrigue her. plus, there are lots of free interesting festivals and shows in cities all over the us. go do something you don't usually do, maybe a 50's movie showing in the park? your sure to meet some decent girls if you don't do the same old bar scene that every tired man tries

Answer 8

Man I dont know where your looking but it sure isnt good. There are many girls out there probley asking the same thing but its not your fault you need to use your judgement better. Thats why you date to meet and mingel and move on. Oh breakdancing is hot I love Hip Hop!!

Answer 9

well i was wondering the same thing....where have all the decent guys gone? may be you should try looking in remote places like a library, church or some where. you will know a decent girl when you see one, by the way she dresses and carries about herself and by the way she speaks. decent girls are seen and not heard...and about the shy ones well just try being yourself don't focus all of your attention on them and try not to put them in the spotlight too much.....don't worry after a while they will break out of their shell...

Answer 10

Try saying no when a girl wants to take you home? Your rep is killing you man! No matter what girls say, they talk about their sexual conquests just as much as guys do. And I haven't heard of anyone making out in a movie theater since I was in 6th grade. How old are you???

Answer 11

16 is really young. I bet most of the girls your age are not that mature...that age is really tough to get a serious relationship...ummm the best thing I can say is that when you meet a "shy/decent" girl just be real with her don't "act like your all that" and if she tries to jump on you because you sound hot then just tell her that you want to take things slow so you can get to know her better..because girls that age probably don't know what they want or know what they are doing really...and just assume that in order for them to get you to like them is to be that way....but to show a shy girl that you're not a player you have to really treat them well and make them realize that your not just after them for one thing...just be like I'm sick of going out with sluts and want a decent girl..tell them straight out .