Me and my gf been together for 3 yrs this month the majority of the relationship has been long distance. anyway the everything was great up until bout 4 months ago, we are constantly fighting and getting mad cuz she cant make 5 min to call me or talk to me before one in the morning. any we we are constantly breaking up and i broke up with her for the last time cuz she said she didnt care any more and blah blah blah and then today she wanted me back and said she didnt mean it, but its not the fact she said it, it feels that way also. any way Should i make her show me that she loves me and cares about me then wait till she does, before i make my decision? Or, should i give in and just say ill take u bak like i did the last two times, just so she can forget about me and not make time for me again?
2006-08-21 07:04:55 · 31 answers · asked by xtremecrakhed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) This relationship sounds like a dead end - why continue in something that makes you both unhappy.
2) Your question sounds like you like to play manipulative mind games. If that is the case, you will not find a good relationship until you learn to be honest and not try to control the other person.
2006-08-21 07:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,you have been together a long time. Do you really want to throw it away or play games? Dont.
First, tell her how you feel. Tell her that you want her back and you want to stay together and how much she means to you, but you feel bad that she doesn't seem to have time for you. Tell her it's hard enough to keep things going at a distance and if it's going to keep going, she has to give more.
Ask her if there is something you can do, maybe if she can't talk at a certain time maybe you can make your self available once in a while when she can. A relationship is all about give and take.
You both have to give in order to make it work.
Dont play games with her and make her work for it.The fact that she told you she wants you back should be enough for you.
Just be honest, tell her how you feel. I think she'll appreciate what you have to say more than the games. the games may put her off and she may take it the wrong way. Playing games like making her prove things is just a waste of time.
You need to talk and be honest. tell her from your heart. I bet you'll see a difference.
good luck.
2006-08-21 14:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
U know the answer...she has to get U back....there is no excuse 4 what she said...and 2 the fact that she doesn't make time 4 U....she has 2 show U that she cares and make an effort...
i've been in relationships were I felt that I was the only one giving, making time and making every effort... believe me...U don't want that...U deserve somebody who knows that U R worth every effort...and who is craving 2 C U ...
if she cares, she'll prove it 2 U, Good luck ;)
2006-08-21 14:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Celebriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aight listen....do you love her? how old are you? how far a part are you? why are you so far apart? If you two are old enough now.... i think it is time to try living together... me and my husband were dating for 2 yrs... and i HAD to move witgh my mother a hour and a half away. well we had, had a rough break up and gotten back together and my family didn't approve of us being back together....so he wasn't aloud at my new home. so we were doing a long distant relationship. anyways he got tired of it and called me one day at work and started to break up with me and i flipped out. i walked out on my job and my family that day and drove my hour and half just to ride with him to his job and sit in his car (at the end of DEC.) and wait 6 hours for him to get off of work. needless to say there was great make up sex and we have been together two more years and married for one with a precious son! Sometimes a compromise of lifestyle will take you where you wanna be! So maybe you two should move in. That settled ALL of our problems. All the fighting stopped! So, good luck... .lemme know what you choose! :)
2006-08-21 14:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by amz1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that she really thinks taht your over if you keep taking her back shes not going to take you seriously! And if shes taking you for granted that bad she doesnt really care she stringing you on! Dont be her fool and dont stup to her level games are no fun for either of you find a girl that is going to appreciat you and forget about her let someone else deal witth her bullshit cause its sounds like she has made many new friends wherever she is she stays out until at least 1 AM what do you think shes doing? Shes not visiting gradma!!
Good Luck and drop her *** dont even consider taking her back
2006-08-21 14:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by roonie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the real question here is this: its a long distance relationship which normally can be very stressful and lonely. because no matter how much you talk or not talk, you are not really seeing each other that much. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO CONTINUE THIS RELATIONSHIP. botton line. it really does not matter what you did, she did, nothing. yes, you can make her life hard. but what for. the end result will be the same.
botton line: you do want a 3 yr relationship to last. yes or no.
2006-08-21 14:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand couples that say they've been together for a certain amount of years then proceed to say they break up and get back together. That's Bullsh it!!!!
Why don't you count all the time you actually were together and see if in the last 3 years more time was spent being bf and gf or broken up.
That's a good way of seeing if you should be together!
my bf and I have been together for six years and we have never broken up, what's your problem ?????
2006-08-21 14:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't go back to her at all. That relationship didn't have the stability to last even a couple months without a breakup - is there anything that makes you think it'll be different this time around?
2006-08-21 14:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if she is true to her words, if she is not then leave her for good this time. Cause people will only say things just so they could get their way, then they will go right back to their old ways.
2006-08-21 14:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are too many games going on for this relationship to be healthy and normal. if you truly care about her tell her that you want to start back together but you want things to be healthy this time around, no more fighting, etc. but if you truly feel she will only forget about you and you will only end up fighting then just end it now and move on. save yourself the hurt
2006-08-21 14:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋