he was married once before but she walk out of the marrage and he rise he dauther since she was 3yrs. old he is succuesful and very sure of himself , he is nice and want to settle down and get married again and we have great sex and started dating for about two months know my question is can this work out i felt we moved to fast but he said he felt like we knew each other for ever should slow down? can it work
2006-08-21 06:50:44 · 34 answers · asked by cece 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it doesn't work out, it's not because of the age difference.
2006-08-21 06:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my early twenties (I'm 28 now and married), I dated only men who were 10-20 yrs. older then me. It doesn't have a high probability of working out. Granted, my husband is 8 yrs. older then me but that's not too much. The good news is, you're 25 so you're not too young! Chances are you may own your own home, or be financially set. If you don't, then you've got a problem. This man has experienced a lot of life that you haven't. He's been married, had a child, gotten divorced, is successful - and you don't have any of those things under your belt. The age difference will eat at the relationship. When I was 21 I dated a guy who was 36. He was ashamed to introduce me to his family because I was so much younger, and so he just kept me around for the sex. It was hard on me because I fell for him big time. Then I realized he would never change, never commit and I gave up on him. I went on to have a 2-yr. relationship with a guy 7 yrs. older then me, which I ended even though he wanted marriage, and ended up getting hooked up with my hubby through his older sister - who came up to me in a nail salon and said I'd be perfect for her brother. We met, and within 1 month we went ring shopping. I was 25 and he was 32 at the time. We got married last year when I was 27 and he was 35 and have been married nearly a year, together for 3 years. So have faith - you will find the one but it's probably not this guy!
2006-08-21 07:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big age difference 25 and 38--that's more like 12-13 years difference. Later on he may seem really old to you and you might seem really babyish to him. When I dated an older (14 years older), ultimately it didn't work out because we were at different maturity levels. You are young, maybe it makes him feel like he's starting all over again. You did move really fast. You are in the relationship now, spend time outside of the bedroom getting to know each other--find out if he is also your friend and there for you and helpful to you not just giving you lines. Spend time with him and his daughter! You would end up being her mother!
2006-08-21 07:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by starspangledgirl77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it can work. I'm 27, my man is 43 and we've been together for two years now...still going strong!! It's working out better than any relationship I've ever been in. He knows what he wants, I know what I want, and he's taken my 3 year old in as if she were his own. He's been like a step dad for 2 years of her life, so to her, he's just an extra father figure...she loves him to death. I can't say for sure whether or not your relationship will work out, but you can't knock it 'til you try it! Good luck!
2006-08-21 07:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth do u wanna slow down? It can work if u want but, looks like u need a break and guess what thats your fault u should have told him how u felt when it was happening not when u can't hold it in anymore.
2006-08-21 07:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Wiseguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not relevant here. If you two are compatible, have chemistry (which seems you do - great sex -) and care for each other, it can definitely work. But you both have to be sure of what you want and where you want the relationship to go. Good luck.
2006-08-21 06:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both happy;
If you both love each other;
If you both are willing to stick together and work through the hard times that always come in every relationship;
then there is nothing to stop you from having a great relationship with this man.
2006-08-21 07:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys work on the realtionship it will work out dont expect it to be smooth sailing all the time.. a realtionship takes alot of time and alot of effort... age is just a number as long as u two are devoted to each other and love each other you should be fine
2006-08-21 07:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would advise you to tread water lightly. Anything over a decade difference in age can be very challenging. Primarily because you all where raised in different times and probably don't have to much in common age related. Also, you are young so if your not looking to settle down, you might as well part ways now, He is pushing 40 and wants a woman to call his own, his clock is ticking. (and yes we have one too!)
2006-08-21 06:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and step dad are 11 yrs apart and they have been married for 25+ years!
2006-08-21 06:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Christy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋