My son is 11 months old, starting to get into things around the house (Yes, it's childproofed) and not really responding to "No" or any other verbal warnings. Is he at the age where a little swat on the booty will teach him what is wrong?
PS. My wife didn't have spanking as a child and I did, we both turned out great.
2006-08-21 06:47:44 · 39 answers · asked by hfacto 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its really a personal choice...Some kids dont respond to a spanking...You can try time outs...Pick a place where will be his time out or thinkingplace....When he does something give him a warning (or maybe 2) after that tell him if he doesnt do or quit what u ask he will go to that place..He will of course try u and u will have to pick him up and take him there..(hes a little young but this may work)...Tell him simply why hes there, and make him sit for only a minute ( 1 minute per age)...If he gets up, take him back..If u continue to put him back, he will eventually give up and sit there...U can try this or giving a little swat, whatever u feel will work better..Good luck..
2006-08-21 06:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by misstikal311 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 11 months old, your child is just curious...when you go to a store, do you pick things up and look them over then put them back? Why can't your child do it? If it is something that he can get hurt on, just take it out of his reach...you can always put it back in a few months when he gets out of this stage...I had a friend that refused to pick up her nic-nacs and spanked her son's hands for over a yr. until he learned to leave the "pretties" alone. Let your son explore the world with his hands and eyes...that is the only way to learn. Now at 2yrs, then I think at that time...in your house, he would have investigated enough to know what he can and can't touch.
I agree with spanking (especially in public)! My kids are very well behaved because I did spank in public(not in a bathroom...to private)..I always swatted the upper thigh in the middle of what ever store I was in...the more witnesses, the more people to say "not abuse"...if you hide, you have no one to stand with you. I have never had any abuse charges on me, because I don't hide, and I always used my open hand. I had another girlfriend that did go to the bathroom and the police were called on her...no witnesses!...
Good luck, and let that baby learn about his enviroment.
2006-08-21 07:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is not responding to "NO" then now may be a good time for a little swat on the hand or butt....it will get his attention and he'll know that you are serious. After a few swats he'll start responding to just the verbal warnings. Just make sure when you say no...give him the swat and let him know what he did was wrong.
2006-08-21 06:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Handy G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three children each one responded to a different form of punchiment.
I see nothing wrong with a little tap on the hand or booty at that age. If you choose to do this you should see inprovement after the first two days if not then it isn't goin to work for you. You may try a time out. Make him sit down for a few minutes or just until he takes his mind off of what he was in to in the first place. Good Luck.
2006-08-21 07:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with a spanking. If he's not responding to anything else, a slight spanking might do the trick.
Every child responds to something different.
I'd rather give my child a small smack on the hand then have them touch a hot stove for example.
2006-08-21 06:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First have you had his hearing checked? If not it might be wise to do so. maybe he can't hear the verbal warnings. If he can I see no harm in a little pat. just don't get carried away.He has enough padding that it won't hurt him just his pride. I still believe in spare the rod and spoil the child. I don't believe in beatings though. The earlier you can train his behavior the better. Some people go to extremes and that is very wrong. It can scar a person for life. So just a little pat and let it go at that. but please get his hearing checked. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-08-21 07:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a decision that each set of parents has to make together. What does your wife think? As for me and my husband we chose to time outs until they were about 7 years old. After that we decided grounding and taking away privilages seemed to work better. My kids our teenagers now and they are great kids. I have friends who chose spanking and their kids turned out fine too. You sound like a concerned father so I am sure you would never do anything to hurt you son.
2006-08-21 07:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a little pain would help and he will realize not to be where he's not suppose too. Also remember whose the boss him or you? I have 5 kids and they all turned out pretty good the youngest is 8 and we havent spanked him in along time because he knows best. Just do it and you'll see his reaction. Oh one other thing , it might effect you alittle and you might get a tear in your eye, but don't let him see you. Good Luck. Hope I helped.
2006-08-21 06:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by kookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that whats wrong with kids these days. Ya cant even tough them. A good swat on the booty is still ok with me. I would rather be spanked that mentally abused if ya know what I mean.Ya don't have to beat your kids but ya still need to let them know who's boss.
2006-08-21 06:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by Blue Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spanking or not would depend on the offense, but in my opinion under 4 - 5 is too early for spanking. 2-4 one good pop to the back side with a firm NO to go along
2006-08-21 07:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Eye of Innocence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋