Lie to your boyfriend because you don't feel like going out. I told him something came up with my Aunt in the hospital which is true. But I still probably could have gone I just didn't feel up to it. And I have this gut feeling that I need to stay here...For some reason I get a really bad feeling about going out with him today so I just told him I couldn't go. How bad was that of me?
2006-08-21 06:47:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A poor excuse can be better than non at all. Some times people don't understand when you say "I'm not up to it." they want a reason so I think in this instance it was okay. But don't let even little white fibs become a habit. Honesty and openness is best in all relationships.(But it can be okay for excuses and omissions sometimes)
2006-08-21 06:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh, not bad at all!! You are intitled to some "you" time. And you don't need to explain yourself to him to the point that you have to lie. Just tell him you gotta do some stuff around the house and that you'll see him at ??? whatever time/day. You set the pace for your relationship when you loose too much of yourself to the other person. Always remember that a true mate (boy or girl) is someone that "compliments" you, not "completes" you. You are already a whole person. You make your own decisions.
2006-08-21 06:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kimber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie. There is no reason to lie. Tell him your Aunt is in the hospital and you would like to stay home in case you are needed. I consider it bad to lie. If he is the type that wouldn't accept his explanation, why are you with him? What made you think you needed to lie instead of just being honest? I would re-think the relationship.
2006-08-21 06:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obviously bad to you, because it has triggered guilt, or at least uncertainty. I don't think it's anything big, though. Honesty is the best policy: start working on it from this point forward.
Example: Thanks but I have to visit my Aunt in the hospital; I could probably go out after that, but I just don't feel like it today/tonight. Let's do it another time.
2006-08-21 06:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have a tendency to take things personally, even when you don't have anything to say against them. If you had told him you don't feel like it, he may have been afraid that you don't like him anymore. As it is, he's ok with everything. He got the real message, which is that you will not be going out with him today. The reasons for it he's going to make up anyway, no matter what you tell him. It's better not to confuse him needlessly.
2006-08-21 06:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad, because basicly u didn't lie. But a relationship should have trust, if you don't have trust then why a relationship? I think you should have told him that u didn't feel like going out. I think he would've understood. Lying about little stuff like that, can result in bigger ones, so try 2 be open and honest w/him.
2006-08-21 06:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by ginie_in_a_bottle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a white lie and thus bad. I would wonder more about why you aren't comfortable being honest with him. Were you afraid of hurting his feelings? If so, that's very understandable, just make sure that's the only reason.
2006-08-21 06:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should have probably told him the simple true that you didn't feel like going and that you would make it up to him.. it not so bad.. but a relationship is built on trust so maybe he probably wouldn't mind..good luck
2006-08-21 06:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seem to be a real nice girl coz you are thinking about it .. its could have been worse when people tell lies and they dont sweat about it .. imho, doing it couple of times is OK .. coz u are trying to find the real reason .. but dont let it go for too long .. talk to him openly and tell him how u feel in real .. its tough but it will increase respect for each other .. take care!
2006-08-21 06:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by outdoor2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad but next time just explain what you explained here - that you didn't feel like it - chances are he will understand. It's always best to be honest.
2006-08-21 06:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋