what does it mean to be jealous? why does it make my blood boil when boyfriend looks at someone else?

Question

is this normal/healthy? i don't say anything to him because i know it will annoy him. but i want to be NUMBER 1 in his life. and i don't cope with the fact that there are others more desirable. i feel like he is only with me cos he can't get anyone better, rather than cos i am special.

Answer 1

u feel this coz u love him.. but i hope he feels the same for u else he wont be happy with it

Answer 2

Jealousy is a human emotion, it's natural to get jealous. The thing about jealousy is that how jealous a person can get is a result of how comfortable they are with themselves and the decisions they make. For example, if you take a test in school and you really studied for it, you get a 95 on it. A 95 great and you feel real good about it, that is until you find out that somebody else got a 100. Now you get upset that you didn't get a perfect score. Why is that, because you aren't comfortable with yourself even though a 95 is an A just like the 100. I hope I didn't confuse you with that, but it is that simple. You are the guy's girlfriend then guess what, you are number one and if you don't feel that way then you to need to talk. But before you do that make sure that you are confident you are his girlfriend because guess what, no matter who you are with, this goes men and women, there is going to be someone else who is gonna catch their eye, and there is nothing anybody can do about that but one of two things, realize that you can't keep them from looking at someone else or make the mistake of worrying that just because he looked at someone else, that he gonna go after that person. But be silly and let him do the latter if that is what he is doing. The most important thing is for you to know and be confident in yourself because nobody else has too.

Answer 3

First answer: to be jealous means that it makes your blood boil when you see your boyfriend talking to another female. Then permit me to say this attitude is neither normal or healthy. In fact, this is a recipe for disaster.

I do not think you want to be number one in his life: you really want to be the ONLY one in his life which Will be reason for problem.

Look lady, if there are women more desirable in his life there is nothing you can do about that. The thing you should do is to ensure that you are very desirable.

I am sure that the guy had other choices when he chose you and I wan to believe that he chose you because you are special but you are now expressing a very high level of insecurity.

Look my dear the way you are talking you do not seem to be ready for love. you need to be more secure with yourself and the competition.

Answer 4

You know what they say......You can look at the fire but you may NOT poke it.
You are totally insecure I'm afraid. The very best way to lose a boy friend is complain if looks at someone else. This is THE worst thing you should do.
What you do is make yourself so attractive and COOL he will not want to look.
You cannot stop a man using his eyes, jealousy will give you grief and a whole load of unnecessary unhappiness.
BY THE WAY.....If he wanders into someones arms rarther than yours then you made a bad choice and he has proved he does not want you. Just go looking for someone else.
Every girl wants to be special but jealousy and thinking your man will be attracted to someone else is a normal feeling. Just feel attractive, be attractive, act attractively,dont cuss and be attractive in your conversation,be imaginative in bed, and I promise you, he may look at others, but he will always want you.

Answer 5

Even the man most deeply in love with his significant other will look at other women, and the behavior continues well beyond the Viagra years. I tell my husband of 8 years, " Look at anything on the menu, just don't order out".

The fact that he looks at others has nothing to do with how beautiful you are, how much he loves you, or how great you are in bed. It's in their programming, and nothing we can do or say will prevent our men from coveting other women. You are good enough, and he's not a bad guy for looking at other women. Don't beat yourself up or allow your self-esteem to be lowered for something that ALL men do ALOT of the time. You are number one, and the ones he glances at briefly don't even rank in the top 100.

Regarding the above misguided comments about your being "insecure", many women feel that twinge of unworthiness when they eyes of our guys wander, and it takes maturity and years of experience ot overcome these feelings. I'm sorry that others have been so quick to slap a label on you when most women here have to admit they've gone through the same thing a time or two.

Answer 6

Yes this is normal but its not healthy :-) If its making you feel this way, you know its not healthy. When he looks at others it makes you worry that he will leave you for one of them. It makes you feel less special. It makes you feel like one of many instead of unique. The best thing to do is talk to him about it and ask him why he is looking. Some men are unable not to look at and admire a pretty girl but would never consider following through with any of them. Others are players who will cheat at the first possible opportunity. Only you know which category he falls into. If you don't talk to him, he'll never know how it makes you feel (and if just talking to him about it annoys him, then you'd have to ask if you're with the right person anyway, right?) Talking to him might help to reassure you that its okay for him to look, or it might make you realize you're with the wrong person. Either way, isn't it better to find out now?

Answer 7

I am in a serios relationship and I understand that there's girls that looks better always BUT IT DEPENDS IF YOUR MAN...IF HE STARES OR GLANCE FOR A LONG TIME THAT MEANS HE'S ATTRACTED TO HER...BUT HE GOOTA REALIZE THAT IF HE SAYS HE LOVES YOY ALL THE TIME HE SHOULD KNOW THAT YOUR THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRL AND HE DOES NOT NEED TO BE LOOKING AT SOMEBODY ELSE....but a glance is different if the person pops out of nowhere and blocks your view then that's not looking, but if you feel like he's looking, you should watch your boyfriend's face, if he look down then that means he respects you because he does not want to test your trust or make you feel jealous since he knows you get jealous a lot. he should know your weakness and not take advantage of it.

Answer 8

We are made in God's image and God is a jealous God...He said we will have no other gods before Him and He meant that...and we are the same. If you are in a relationship with someone, that same spirit is in you. Now, the trick is to curb your anger and wrath and remember that vengenance belongs only to the Lord - He told us that He would repay and He meant that. That is why it always seems like people get away with stuff even after we do stuff to them because it is not our job - it is Dad's job to take care of that and when we do it in our own strength, it is nothing compared to what God can do. Jealousy is natural but don't act on it. Also, we have to take your self esteem out of the toilet. You are special...you are beautful. You are loved by God if no one else on the earth tells you, He tells you in His Word - (the Bible). You can do all things through Christ which strengthens you Phil 4:13...Read also Psalm 91:1-16 to encourage your spirit. You need to love and have confidence in yourself and in the Lord then it will not matter what your boyfriend does because you will know that you are a diva no matter who else is around.
Yours in Christ, Elder Angelia Bedford

Answer 9

At my age jealous is a small thing
if something is meant for me it'll stay
if it doesn't, well why get old
you can't change people or try to convince them to stay all the time. One thing is that they try to make you jealous or they say foul things to the opposite sex, your then in the right sense to tell them ounce, too much is lost time.
Imagine if he would be jealous to you
Lets say I like sci-fi movies my girl doesn't
at least a while she should share it with me Right?
Will she prohibit me or you for something we like to do
No !
But since she doesn't Iike my sci-fi
I take my sunday off watching TiVo
1hr 50 min of sci-fi from the week.
THE SIGHT OF SEEING
THE ENVIROMENT IS SO NATURAL !
Move on. we are so addicted to things that
we want but don't really belong to us

Answer 10

If you let it bother you, then the chances are that sooner or later you will have a massive fight over it and split up - Chill out, find out what Boyfriend finds attractive and see if you can introduce some of that into your own style. It is more about your own insecuraty than his wandering eye!

Answer 11

If you think all of this then you needs to break up with him, cause you are a very insecure person. He is looking, not touching. And no it is not healthy or normal.