2006-08-21 06:44:46 · 20 answers · asked by solar eclipse 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
I would let her decide that. It's going to be her responsibility, and maybe she'll want a break from cat ownership for awhile. How abouch ya ask her!
2006-08-21 06:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by dreamkillerkitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking of another cat as a "gift"? It's not a good idea to give pets as gifts. When you feel your friend has completed grieving for the cat who died, you can suggest going to a shelter with her, letting her pick her new cat, and you can offer to pay any adoption expenses.
When people look at cats or dogs in a shelter with a mind toward adopting one the serendipity between the person picking the animal and the animal itself is truly extraordinary. They choose each other. As an adoption couselor for many years I have great respect for this process and do not "push" a particular animal. The choice is between the new owner and the pet.
2006-08-21 13:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by old cat lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on when this other cat had passed away. It takes time for a person to grieve when a pet passes a way. But it varies from person to person. Ask your friend if and when she would like another cat. She may not be ready and try not to be offended if she declines your offer. DO NOT just go out and get one without talking to her first. She may decide not to get another one for a while and may not be ready for the responsibility again.
2006-08-21 14:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very sweet, but only she knows when she is ready for a new cat.
What you can do is let her know you appreciate how much she is hurting. Maybe take her out for a meal and listen to her, be a friend, just that. Later and when the time is right let her know you will support her when and if she is ready to look for another pet. It is nice to have someone drive the car so you can hold the carrier taking the new baby home.
2006-08-21 14:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jane B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most others here I would say no. Probably an extreme case but when my cat was killed I couldn't face getting another one for years - didn't want the heartache again. Just be patient and understanding with her, and try and find out from her when she is ready.
2006-08-21 14:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Robo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably needs time to grieve. Just be there for your friend. Talk to her about her cat if she wants to. Let her decide when she wants another cat.
2006-08-21 13:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! wait a while until she is ready for another cat. if she isn't ready for another cat and isn't done grieving over this one she will grow to resent the new one because she will keep trying to make it the one she lost and it never will be.
It will be really sweet of you to get her one when she is ready for one.
2006-08-21 13:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by macleod709 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! Give her time to get over it. When she's ready for another cat, and she will...and it will be soon...then she will get one or let you know. If she's a cat lover, she HAS to have one in her life.
2006-08-21 14:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Barby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask her first if she's ready. You can't replace one cat with another one, and she needs to mourn the loss of a "member of the family". It's a very sweet gesture on your part, but she just might not be ready for another one yet.
2006-08-21 13:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by AFL lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get her another cat unless you knew that your friend was ready to get another companion. Sometimes when someone loses a companion animal they aren't ready right away to get a new one. But if you really want to get your friend a new cat.. I suggest checking out your local humane society to adopt one... you would be giving that cat a new home .
2006-08-21 13:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by poneysandhorses 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋