to see if he's interested, or to just flirt, or to ask him out on a date? gosh, when i was younger i was able to do this, now that i'm older i feel self-conscious to some degree.
2006-08-21 06:40:54 · 41 answers · asked by gurrrly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do it ;) as long as you show that UR interested and that you respect yourself, no problem at all ;)
2006-08-21 06:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by Celebriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like to pursue. If they aren't pursuing you they have other things on their mind--usually sports, computers or a career. It could be that the guy is shy. Oh to be young and stupid again!! I used to flirt a whole lot more and got alot more dates. I have asked a few friends out for coffee and we became better friends, but the attraction wasn't really there. Tell him he's really good at something, show interest in his career or ask him for his help/expertise. I had a great flirtation with a guy at a party because I showed interest in his career. And then when a friend was putting out Hershey's kisses and he was right there I said, "please do put those out, that might be the only kiss some of us get tonight." He then said, "All you had to do was ask." And He gave me a kiss on the cheek. I couldn't get rid of him for the rest of the night. Not that I wanted to, it was fun to sit on the same chair with him and let him feed me a few more Hershey's kisses. But that was all that happened. Who knows, maybe we'll go out another time.
2006-08-21 06:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by starspangledgirl77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, I had this same problem. I just went up 2 him and asked him out on a date. If you want 2 see if he's interested, you could ask him yourself or let a friend ask 4 you. Or you could write a cute note and give it to him. You could also ask him along 2 a party or a movie or something and let him bring friends and you could bring your friends. You won't have direct contact w/him the whole time, but you'll discover what he's like and maybe make your move then. Be inventive, but direct contact is the best way 2 find out. Good Luck!
2006-08-21 06:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by ginie_in_a_bottle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its hot. Why not?
Men these days are not what they used to be. We have been beaten down by constant empowerment and beautification of women in the media that they seem like magical creatures that are hard to get. So help them out! Men are intimidated to approach although it is the biologically correct thing to do and that they should do.
Approach guys when you get the chance. It takes practice, but after I approached about 20 girls, it got a LOT easier. You just lost your approach muscles.. You got to train them again.
2006-08-21 06:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ilooklikemyavatar..exactly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always nervous about going up to a guy. I know that guys usually appreciate it, cause then we take that extra load off of them. But I want to date a guy with confidence, and if he can't come up and ask me out, then I dont think that he's for me. I do flirt with guys all the time, and then they usually get the idea that I'm interested, I guess
2006-08-21 06:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i suppose the best thing is a girl aproaches a guy then the other way around cuz (most)gurlz are always acting important when approached by a guy wich makes some guys afraid of getting close to a girl while boys never act fresh when approched by a girl
2006-08-21 06:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is strange, but if it's someone I've never met before or someone I barely know, it seems easier to do this. They have no preconceived notions of who you are. They only see that you are confident enough to approach them. Usually, I get positive reactions from guys. They either talk to me for a while or we hang out some other time, I get their number only if they are really interesting
2006-08-21 06:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow .. i feel the same way .. when i was younger, i never had problem in talking to girls and then i realized that i get into this analysis-paralysis mode and tend to think about simple things too much more than needed .. i feel it happens on both sides .. but dont worry, everyone goes thru this phase and u are going to get over it too .. like everyone else did .. dont try to change everything faster .. let nature take its course .. enjoy life!
2006-08-21 06:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by outdoor2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would find it a great compliment to be chatted up by a lady, even if she wasn't my type.
The issue here is knowledge. If a bloke chats you up you know he is interested and you are in control. If you were to go over and speak to a bloke there's a chance he won't be interested.
If you see somebody you like just go over and speak, what do you have to lose?
2006-08-21 06:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by m0rrell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't guys feel this way from time to time. Why do u think we like picking up girls in clubs because we figure shes there to hook up plus if we get a little nervous I can take a shot or 2 for that.
2006-08-21 06:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by Wiseguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some guys like confident women and if u feel confident enough to approach do so but not with the corny lines like most guys use lol
2006-08-21 07:08:11 · answer #11 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋