OK would you say this is domestic abuse cause i starting to think?

Question

that it not i must be going mad here
right i think iam in a domestic violance relationship or iam i
right here we go my boyfriend slaps me when he is jeaulous
i cant go out on my own
he gave me a nose bleed and booted me in the leg when i was hour late from the pub when i did go out
he shoved me and i gone flying
smacked my head on the wall
throw a glass cause i nicked a bit of beer
he moans if i put a bit of eye make up on
put i did cheat on he once cause he was hitting me and stuff and i did deserve that
and i ve been so scared one time that after he slaped me i was to scared to say no to sex
so do u think this is domestic abuse or is this a normal relitionship i dont know i been with this person since i was 16 never been in any other relationship before
i very confussed because my boyfriend say this is not wrong and a women deserves a slap is he right to say that
iam not trying to get attention
he say that i am werid and stuff

sorry for spelling mistakes did press spell check every thing was ok

i know ive wrote some thing like this before i not moaning about it i just getting very confussed about this stuff so please dont have a go at me just need help thank you

there is one thing i havent got with my boyfriend and that a child he wants one but i dont so iam taking the pill behind he back

Answer 1

honey let me give it to you stright this is pass domestic violence.it sounds like to me this is also a control issue that needs to be addressed any time a men tell you its is ok to hit on a woman thats the first sign that should tell you thats its not.thats bull **** i dont care what the reason is it is no way to justify a man hitting on a woman i would know i have been through it my self for 8 years. i left 4 years ago now how long will it take you.i prayed to make it out alive i really think you should do the same.have you ever hit him back .if so how did he react.i would not want you to experince what i had to go through i truely knows what its like to go through the ike ad tina thing.please dont let it go there with you .but by all means do what you got to do to defend your self if and when it comes down to it. seeing that hes all you no and the only man youve been with.please dont let it be your last.if you need to come back and ask how to get out i will be here to answer that.i will be here checking to see what you decided.

Answer 2

Yes, this is a domestic abuse, it is also emotional and physical abuse.
You don't need this relationship.
I think that you need to call a shelter, call the cops and leave him for good before you become a statistic and are dead.
there are men out there that repect women and don't hit them and talk down to them.
A relationship is suppose to be two people being who they are, both getting out of the house and doing things together, none of which includes the stuff you have mentioned.
Get to a shelter and talk to someone. Dont' stay in this relationship any longer.
Once you are out of it then you will see what you need to see and you will be able to do what you want to do when you want to do it.
Don't let him control you.

Answer 3

Girlfriend, you need to run, not walk away from that relationship. That definitely is domestic abuse. He has complete control over you and yes it is definitely wrong to slap a woman no matter what the circumstances.. If he did it once he will do it again and again and it will only get worse. You deserve better that that. Rspect yourself first and others will respect you too. There is someone else out there who will treat you with respect and love. Abuse is not love!!!!! Go to a domestic abuse meeting in your area and you will be enlightened.

Answer 4

Honey if you like getting slapped and kicked nad thrown and having to cheat to get some good attention then there is something a bit odd with you. There should never be a time in ANY relationship where you fear for your health or life. NO ONE DESERVES to be made to feel inferior or that they deserve to be hit, men women, children, NO ONE!
He is abusive and it really only gets worse. LEAVE NOW! There is nothing you can do to change him there is nothing you do to deserve a man who would be so mean and violent towards you. He does not love you and is underseving of your tolerance. Save yourself!
Good luck!

Answer 5

That is definitely an abusive relationship. You should not put up with it anymore, it will get worse, once these men start putting their hands on you, they always keep their hands on you, they say they wont do it again, they apologize, but it will keep going on and on over time, you already found a way to justify his behavior by blaming yourself, There is no reason what so ever for this man to be hitting you, he has a choice to walk away, its not your fault, and you must never believe that, You have to take care of you, this will emotionally tear you down over time and you will start to mistreat yourself for allowing it and letting it continue, Its not worth it, and its not a normal relationship, physical abuse is very hard to heal from, the person abused ends up with the baggage, dont let this be your life, it takes a long time to overcome the impact it does to the spirit. Please dont put up with it anymore, it will get worse. It will be hard to leave the relationship because you have become conditioned to it, so know this its a challenge,but you will heal and move on over time and be glad you did it for you

Answer 6

Yes, you're in an abusive relationship. That's not your biggest problem. Your biggest problem is that you're allowing someone to tell you when you have a problem. Think back to when you were a child and may have had to face possible beatings from your parents. That same type of discipine is not supposed to happen to adults.

If you don't gather some courage, develop some strength, and apply geniune common sense, you won't find yourself in a healthy relationship. It isn't just men that beat on women.. other women beat on each other too. It's not about your gender. It's about the power you have over yourself and the ability to command respect from anybody, male or female.

I think you asked the question because you wanted to say out loud what you feel in your heart but is too afraid to say; because I know you have to know that what you're going through is abuse. I can't believe that you feel you need to be put in your place from time to time and what you're going through is okay. Do you have family? Call them. If not, find whatever motivation you need to remove yourself from that situation.

I'll tell you one way to show you that he know what he does to you is wrong. Next time he does something you don't like, throw something hard at his head, make sure it connects, and see what he does. My advice is to get out. But in case you need to see for yourself, jump out there and attack him.. see what happens.

Answer 7

Anytime your partner puts his hands on you and it's no in a loving way, it's called abuse. If he believes that a woman deserve a slap then men deserve a swift kick in the private area. Get yourself some help to get out of that situation.

Answer 8

Your boyfriend is beating on you for control. I say get out of that relationship before he kills you. Have you ever though that he is seeing someone else? And that is why he takes it out on you. Find you a man that will love you for who you are and treat you like a real women. You do not have to take that off of him get yourself some help. Talk to your doctor or even your parents but what ever you do get help and get away from him.

Answer 9

sweetheart, have you forgotten what it is like to make your own decisions, not being controlled by every desire of his? see as long as you cant make your own choices and set your own boundaries, this boyfriend of yours, has complete control over you. by the way i wouldn't kick or slap my own dog, and that's how hes treating you. he is very sick and needs help or you need to get away hes not going to change, you deserve a good life.and to be happy, i only have one more thing to say do you have any children and does he hit them? if he does and you allow it you are the sick one, and if hes not abusing them now he will be. leave, fast, call up women's programs and shelters for battered women and they will help you with everything and getting back on your feet, god bless you and the rest is up to you.

Answer 10

i didn't even read past the "slapped in the face" part and i'm already saying yes. you need to tell someone. if you're not comfortable telling your parents or friends, go to a school administrator but someone needs to know. it will only get worse. nothing you could've ever done makes you deserve this. NOBODY deserves to be hit ever. get some help before you end up seriously injured.